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Old 01-16-2009, 02:44 PM
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OMG. That is terrible news. I'm so sorry to hear!!
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I am horrified! Poor innocent child, I feel so sad. Adoption IS sometimes the right answer - it certainly was in the case of my son. Oceanica, I cannot imagine what you are going through right now. Please accept our heartfelt symathies.
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Oh my goodness. What a tragedy!
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I can't even think right now. WOW.
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Old 01-16-2009, 02:52 PM
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How horrible. I'm so sorry that this happened. If this is of any comfort, there probably was nothing you could have done. The birthmother decided to parent and you respected her decision. I'm really sorry.
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Old 01-16-2009, 02:55 PM
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There are just no words to express how sorry we all feel for you and for this child. Just know that there are a lot of prayers being sent up for your family and for this baby.
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Old 01-16-2009, 02:57 PM
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OMG, I cannot believe this. I feel so sick and so sad. I am sooooo, sooooo sorry. Please do not beat yourself up -- you are not responsible for the cruelty or neglect of others. My heart is aching.
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Oh my goodness. I have no words! I just can't believe it. I'm so sorry and my heart goes out to you and everyone in this tragedy.
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OMG!! I am so sorry! Prayers to your family and to the mother!!!
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Working in DCF, I wish I could do something, we have seen case after case of this happen. The boyfriends killing the baby that should have been placed for adoption or with a family memeber that wanted to care for the baby. Wish we could change the laws...so many need to be change. But please understand it is NOT your fault...it HURTS!!! so GRIEVE...but you and your family did nothing wrong. I am so sorry for your loss, sorry this mother allowed her boyfriend to care for the baby. We really need to change laws, these newborns, unborns, toddlers, children cannot speak out for themselves and with the world is going it is only going to get worse. Again my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and I pray that this baby is finally in heaven without pain anymore.

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I cannot imagine how you must feel. I am so sorry. I have no words. Only prayers.
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Thank you so much for your caring words. I don't feel as much grief yet as I do rage against this monster who I drove around in my truck, went out to lunch with, and shook hands with and so on. If only I had put minutes on that phone and called her 2 weeks after he was born, maybe she would've changed her mind about parenting and the baby would still be alive. And the social worker who let her take that baby home and gave her the other 4 children back. What was she thinkng!!!
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I am so sorry. That poor baby.
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Oceanica: I don't know what to say...except, PM me if you need to...I'm here for you....

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