[karla-k]

I know there is no such thing as normal, but based on experiences...how soon after being matched is the due date usually?

I see so many on here who are matched and the baby is due within weeks! We are adopting internationally and I know that waiting for the call and then getting the call puts things into a whole new emotional realm. I cannot imagine waiting and waiting and then finding out that there is a baby come in just a few weeks! How exciting!

What was your time frame from your match until the baby's birth?

[aclee]

You are exactly right, there is no norm. I would say a majority of matches are made in the 3rd trimester, some are made in the second, some are made after the baby is born.

We got a call about matching with a Baby that born...so that was VERY exciting also hectic! and more expensive because of the last minute travel plans

[Cjmeck]

The agencies we worked with wouldn't match until the emom was at least in her 3rd trimester. We were extremely blessed to have less than 24 hours notice between matching and our daughter being born.

[mommamarci]

Both of ours were baby born situations.

[Amber76]

We were matched with our baby a few days AFTER he was born and left to get him right then. I wouldn't consider a match with an emom not in her third trimester or very close, though. Too risky for me.

[missywojo]

All great points ladies. I am new to adoption, and so even though it wasn't my question originally, thanks for the awesome tips!

[Stormster]

All my matches (and requests for matches) were in the second trimester....5th month on average.

[loveajax]

We were "matched" 5 weeks before DD was born.

I'll never forget having DH's friend over and drinking a margarita three weeks before the baby's due date. He was helping us paint the nursery. He hadn't figured out "why" we were painting this room baby yellow and I said, "well, we are expecting a baby in three weeks." He kept looking at my margarita!!! haha.

It was the most nervewracking five weeks of my life (well actually it extended until TPRs were signed).

I don't think I would ever "match" again with more than 6-8 weeks. Just couldn't do it for my sanity (I also don't think my agency will "match" until the third trimester. I know DD's birth mom was working with them for a couple of months before the "match.")

Good luck to you!!

[journeytolily]

We got the call the morning of Halloween to tell us we had been chosen by the bmom, and our baby girl was born that evening! We were on our way to Michigan the next day!

I wanted to work only with agencies where there wouldn't be a match until a couple of months (or less!) before the baby was due. And I'm thrilled it happened like it did - I don't know if I could have survived the wait if it had been MONTHS!

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by karla-k

What was your time frame from your match until the baby's birth?

DD was born two days after we met her first mom which was only a couple days after we got the call about the possibility. She was home with us a week to the hour after we got the call. We waited 13 months for the call.

DS was born two weeks after we met his first parents and three weeks after we first heard of the situation. We waited twelve months before the call.

[jpeel99]

Our agency doesn't match until the BMOM is at least 7 months along. We were matched and baby was born about 10-11 days later.

[sheababy]

We had 2 matches (1st failed). Both were baby born situations. Quite nerve wracking but I can't imagine what a wreck I would be if I had to wait several weeks before the baby was born.

[devildogwife]

We matched when Cameron's birth mom was 30 weeks along.

[ml2waiting]

1st failed match: bmom was 6 months (I think it being so early was not a good thing)

2nd match: 2 weeks after baby was born (she was a preemie) so they didn't look for a match until she put on some weight / health looked good

Still could not get her home for another 3 weeks due to health issues, so it was not too hectic for travel... just was emotionally tough to know she was ours, but she was not with us!

[mommy3]

With our ds, we were at his birth (went to meet his birthmom and she went into labor) so we actually didn't discuss "match meeting" ideas (how often we'd visit, etc.) until when he was 3 weeks old. He was with from the moment he was born. With our dd, we matched in early Sept. and she was born in late Nov., so that match was 2.5 mos. Each had its own dramas and thrills, with the last-minute situation being pretty overwhelming but a much shorter time to worry and the 2.5-month match being wonderful for bonding but scary because we knew that our dd's birthmom could still change her mind and choose to parent. Actually, with that situation, our bond helps a great deal when dd's birthmom had PPD after her birth and was moderately unsure of her decision. Birthmom could then focus on the reasons she had made her choice intially and ride through her emotional concerns with her comfort/love for us. We are very close with both families still. susan