[finallyamom0310]

Feeling, I think that is why DD is getting up in the middle of the night. When she is sick, I go running and I think she is getting used to it. I can't turn off the monitor as we sleep up stairs and she is down stairs (the dilema of a cape style home in NE). I am myself, not ready to give up the rocking I think. It is my way of holding on.

[Stormster]

Finally I know you are holding on but she really would do better on a full night's sleep don't you think?

I always find the strength to do things when I know they are for the good of E's health and happiness. Kwim?

Sleep is so vitally important for toddlers that age!

[finallyamom0310]

Originally Posted by Stormster

Finally I know you are holding on but she really would do better on a full night's sleep don't you think?

I always find the strength to do things when I know they are for the good of E's health and happiness. Kwim?

Sleep is so vitally important for toddlers that age!

I know she needs her sleep and I know I need mine. You have helped me so many times on this one. I think that is why I tried the new bed time too. No mater what we do, she won't sleep past 5 ish in the morning so I am curious to see what happens with an early bed time tonight too.

As for the rocking. Do I really need to give that up????? I love holding her at night. I know what you are going to say....YES!!!.

[cborsa7]

Don't give it up, just change the way you are doing it. I agree with your friend, stormster. Once you are all sleeping properly everyone will be better off.

Hoping for a good night's sleep!

[finallyamom0310]

Thanks Kelly. Storm really has been telling me over and over to just stand firm. I keep trying but seem to keep going backwards after a few days. Ugh. I think DD has me trained instead of me training her.

[feelingreyt]

Just becuase you rock her to sleep does not mean that you have to respond to her everytime she wakes in the middle of night.
I know you have tried letting her cry it out. But honestly that will work in the long run.
I hear H sometimes at night whimpering in his sleep. I know thats different from actually waking up and calling out. But if I went to him everytime that would train him to wake up fully and rely on me to get him back to sleep. You have to let her know that sleep time is sleep time. Try crying it out again. IF you must go to her, don't touch her or pick her up. She will soon realize it's not worth crying. Or better yet, let dh go to her if you feel that she needs someone. You know that I know how hard it is letting dh do it instead of mommy, but trust me, she will be fine. Just give her extra kisses during the day to ease your heart!

[cborsa7]

LOL, you ARE right, she has you trained. Don't feel bad, they all do it and it does mean she loves you.

Stay strong. Seriously, buy the book I recommended. When you see how common your situation is and the solutions in print it will help you to stay strong.

Good Luck! You can do it!

[nikkianni]

Finally: You know the trouble we've had with DD since she was about 13 mos. I TOTALLY understand where you're at.
And......we still rock her to sleep too. She doesn't get rocked at nap time, just bedtime.
So if you find something that works, pass it on! Cause we're getting pretty tired too.

[finallyamom0310]

Originally Posted by nikkianni

Finally: You know the trouble we've had with DD since she was about 13 mos. I TOTALLY understand where you're at.
And......we still rock her to sleep too. She doesn't get rocked at nap time, just bedtime.
So if you find something that works, pass it on! Cause we're getting pretty tired too.

Nikki, Thanks so much for the laugh. You and I really have two peas in a pod....

I will surely pass it on when I find one that works.

Cborsa, I will look for the book and see what I can tollerate.

Again, I think the hardest part is that she calls me by name when she wants me. How do you ignore a child hollering and crying for Mommy?

[BlessedbySnuggs]

Hey....dont know if I have much advice, but I still rock DD to sleep as well; however, we are VERY lucky, DD goes to sleep and wakes up 12 hours later. She has always been a good sleeper. Gosh, hope I don't jinx myself here!

If she does wake up in the middle of the night, she normally goes right back to sleep. We definitely go by the 10-15 minute "rule" but normally she falls back asleep if she does get up (doesn't happen too often though) Again, M has only been "really sick" just once in her 15 months of life so far; that was one of the times that she woke up in the middle of the night and it was definitely the "I don't feel good" cry.

Sorry no advice, but wanted to wish you "good luck" on getting more sleep!

[nikkianni]

Originally Posted by finallyamom0310

How do you ignore a child hollering and crying for Mommy?

I wouldn't know, mostly because DD calls us both daddy.

Honestly, it's ridiculously tough. We even moved DD's crib into our room, which cut the waking up to once a night, but still....she's in our room!
Ah the joys of parenthood. And we haven't even started potty training yet.

[finallyamom0310]

Originally Posted by BlessedbySnuggs

If she does wake up in the middle of the night, she normally goes right back to sleep. We definitely go by the 10-15 minute "rule" but normally she falls back asleep if she does get up (doesn't happen too often though)

10-15 minute rule? You wait 10 - 15 mins before you go in? Maybe I can try that one. It will take every nerver I have since she calls my name when she calls out but I might be able to tollerate this short time.

[Stormster]

Originally Posted by nikkianni

I wouldn't know, mostly because DD calls us both daddy.

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That is hilarious!!!! E used to call me Nana for the longest time. I don't know what's worse, having your kid think you're an old lady or a man!

[finallyamom0310]

Nikki, I tried the co-sleeping thing and got less sleep than I do now. Not sure I could put her crib in our room as I also tried a few months back sleepign in the extra twin bed in her room while she tried to go back to sleep and she stayed awake longer. Ugh. Good luck with her in your room.

[cborsa7]

LOL, mine called me dada for awhile too.
A note about the 15 minutes. If you are trying what's known as Ferber and waiting to go in. It WILL NOT usually work if you do it incorrectly. The chances for success are slim to none. 15 minutes is to long before returning on day 1. That is why it does get a bad wrap because the system is misunderstood. I'll look for my book and post you the first weeks times, but 15 minutes isn't even close, it's done in increments each time you go back. I'll try to post it by tonight.