[Melcordell]

We have been talking with friends of an emom. We talked on Monday about getting together to meet--most likely on the weekend. Both the friend and the emom are young <20. We haven't heard back since the first conversation. Should I be concerned or am I just stressing out for no reason? BTW--Emom is due the beginning of Feb.
Thanks

[calee]

If you have shared more about your situation in another post, forgive me for not knowing details!!!

Are you "matched" with this emom? Have you talked to HER? Or just to her friend? I would be a bit hestitant to match through a friend, or to be setting up meetings/having conversations through a friend. This could be a breech of privacy, AND could indicate that the e-mom is not really desiring to pursue adoption and is avoiding doing leg work herself.

[aclee]

I would let it unfold however it happens. Not only is emom young, but she's nearing the end of her pregnancy where she may want to take some time to herself. If it's meant to be your baby, it will be...if it's not, no amount of worrying, or attempts to contact emom will change that. If she knows your contact info, and how to get in touch with you, let her make the next step if/when she's ready. If you have no formal commitment, then continue to view other situations.

Best of Luck!

[EZ2Luv]

Alcee gave you such great advice and I agree 100%. Emom needs this time, if this is meant to be your baby he/she will find their way into your arms. I would let emom make the moves.

EZ

[jpeel99]

I don't know. Every one is different. The waiting to hear back is very difficult. The ones that we didn't hear back from for a long time, didn't place. Our son's BMOM communicated all the time.

[jpeel99]

BTW what does EMOM mean. I see that a lot here.

[lovemy2boys]

Emom is expectant mom...

Many people consider a woman who is considering an adoption plan a "birthmom", but in reality, she's not a birthmom until after she places her child and terminates her parental rights. Until then, she's an expectant mom.

[Stormster]

We had a match where we didn't hear back for weeks at a time and she fully wanted to place with us! But man I cried a lot and stressed a lot during those waits (what a waste of time for me!) We ended the relationship for other reasons. Aclee is right. No amount of worry will change the situation if she wants to parent. Someone on here once said worry is like being on a treadmill, it expends a lot of energy and doesn't get you anywhere!

Good luck and I also agree that you should have a qualified attorney or social worker involved to represent the mother asap if you don't already. We did a private adoption but didn't even start the process without lots of people to support both parties.