[Rubi]

We have adopted 2 wonderfull sons at birth...I'm 38yr old and my husband turns 43 next month. Because I suffer from endometriosis I'm considering an operation where the dr 'burns' the lining of the uteris, so you don't menstruate for more than one day (less blood lost, ect). But then it also means that I woun't be able to EVER fall pregnant ....The reason for our infertility is my husbands low sperm count and my endometriosis, but they don't really know why ICSI's never worked(Meaning maybe I could someday just fall pregnant)....Now, my question to you is: Will you do this operation if you are happy with the kids that you have adopted or will you not do the operation in the hope to fall pregnant with a bio-child? Will I maybe regret this? I know this sounds like a silly or unfair question to ask? I was just wondering if I'm being stupid considering this operation?

[Momto1human-2furry]

I have stage IV endo that never goes away despite corrective laps. Now i have a 8cm cyst in one ovary thats being getting bigger. I am only 34. I have one adorable 2.4 year toddler via adoption. I sometimes think of what it would be like to be pregnant. But to be honest not as much as i did before our baby.

I have been advised a ovary removal. I don't mind a hysterectomy now. Although i am terrified of the procedure thats why i am not going through it. But i don't feel regrets so much now about the bio child.

Its just me.

You are not being stupid considering this operation. But its your choice and only you can decide what you feel with your children. Contented ?

[shellers]

that procedure is something I would defeniately consider. Do you know the name of it and if that would affect the amount of time spent cramping each month? At 33 I still occasionally miss time from work due to cramps. I am still waiting to find our child, but I know I will never get pregnant.

[KyliesMommy]

I am also considering this procedure, Novasure due to uterine problems.

I am 40, have suffered numerous miscarriages and the chances of ever getting pregnant again are slim to none. We have been blessed with a beautiful daughter who we adopted at birth and she is almost 15 months old. We are being doubled blessed, assuming everything goes ok, with a newborn son due March this year.

So while sometimes it is hard to face that I will never carry a biological child, my husband and I are very happy with the way we have established our family. Sometimes I forget that I did not give birth to her

Good luck!

[midnighttang]

It's called endometrial ablation. It can cause you not to have a period at all. A friend of mine just had it done and the procedure was a breeze for her. I believe it was an outpatient procedure. As for cramping or periods afterwards, I just don't know.

[Stormster]

I would probably look at the overall likelihood of getting pregnant (given age, male issues and female issues) and choose whichever option gave me the best quality of life with my existing children.

I'm in the same boat but (trying) delaying hysterectomy until E is in school. Only because of the recovery time.

Good luck. There is definitely a "finality" to it that is hard to deal with at times.

[loveajax]

I don't know what's right for you. My DH laughed at me today because I told him I was thinking about going on birth control (we have not been on BC for 8 years)...he said, "honey, I don't think you need to worry." But I am kind of paranoid at my age (40) and his (42) about a surprise pg (though I know the chances are basically zil).

I am sorry that you are having to deal with this issue...it's tough, I'm sure. Good luck!!

[sheababy]

I think if you are feeling uncertain-hold off.

[ksmarch4]

If you do not have to get the procedure done, don't do it!

I had an ablation about 3 years ago now. It is true that you sometimes never ever get your period, but they did tell me it can come back after a couple of years. It did with a vengence. I am not bleeding as much, but the cramping has increased 10 fold. I also suffer from more bloating and headaches. The procedure itself is pretty easy, I only had cramping for a day afterwards, but some of the prep is uncomfortable. You have to (at least when I had it done) get two shots before the procedure is done. These shots put you basically into menopause with hot flashes and all. Guess what? I am only 35 and I still get hot flashes all the time! I don't know if it was lingering affects of the shots or probably from the procedure, but it is unpleasant.

Also, if you still have hopes of having a baby, maybe you should hold off. I had a bio son and now we are trying to adopt. I had the ablation done after I was told with my blood clotting disorder it would be best if I did not have anymore children and I was bleeding most of the month anyway, so it killed two birds with one stone, but I really would not recommend it.
Feel free to PM me if you have any questions.

Stacy

[tweetybirdus]

After several years of infertility and miscarriages, I'm not really interested in becoming pregnant ever again. And so, I would do it to make my quality of life better, that is if I had endo.

In the end, it's up to you and your SO to discuss and decide together.

And by the way, I am on Birth Control, not to prevent pregnancy, but to regulate cycles. I've also had a D&C and uterine polypectomy and that has seriously reduced the flow and cramping, from 12 days heavy flow to 4 days medium to light and doubled over cramping to light cramping.

[Rubi]

I had the ablation done after I was told with my blood clotting disorder it would be best if I did not have anymore children and I was bleeding most of the month anyway, so it killed two birds with one stone, but I really would not recommend it.

Thanx for all your support....I'm also seeing a specialist next week regarding 'blood clotting disorder' I will hear what he says. The GP thinks I might have von Wille brand disease (exsessive bleeding), and if this is the case I'm not suppose to fall pregnant anyway...It can be harmfull to me and baby? Then I might considder it, because I don't want to fall pregnant with the knowing that it might harm the baby anyway....Apparently it does reduse the bleeding but if the endometriosis is in other parts of your body (they suspect some on my intestines) then these areas will still 'bleed' every month, causing pain (like abdominal pain, ect)....

[Saya]

Only you can really answer this question. How important is it to you know that pregnancy could be in your futrue? I don't suffer from endo so I don't know what you're dealing with on a daily basis. But our infertility was unexplained, which means sure, theoretically there's a minute chance I could get pregnant some day. But I'm not driven to have a bio-child in my life. I'm not saying I'm planning to go out and get sterilized tomorrow just to be on the safe side, but if the symptoms of endo were making my life really difficult, I personally would go ahead with the surgery. No with no regrets, but without major ones.

I'm just curious, how much are the symptoms of the endo impacting your quality of life? Would you see a real improvement in your life if you have the surgery? If the answer is, there's not a lot of impact on my life and/or the improvement would only be minor, maybe it's not worth it.

(edited to say - I just saw your comment, Rubi. Good luck when you see the specialist.)

[stinky_kitty]

Originally Posted by Rubi

Apparently it does reduse the bleeding but if the endometriosis is in other parts of your body (they suspect some on my intestines) then these areas will still 'bleed' every month, causing pain (like abdominal pain, ect)....

I have suspected endo, along with PCOS and was unable to take BC pills (or other hormones) due to a history of blood clots.

I had the Novasure ablation done almost two years ago and for the most part I am happy with it. It did drastically reduce the bleeding (I was anemic due to this prior), and for about a year I didn't bleed or spot at all. Now I spot fairly often and because of this and other issues will most likely be having a hysterectomy in the next year or so. (I am barely 30 years old.)

I also have a lot of pain due to ovarian cysts, and the suspected endo which an ablation will do nothing to help. So to answer your question, the ablation will not stop issues of endo that is located in other parts of your body.

Good luck!