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01-06-2009, 11:59 AM
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HELPPPPPPPPPP Need advice ASAP!!!!
Ok, so we are working with a firend of a friend that knows a PBM that is seriously considering placing baby- she needs a little more time said she would know something Friday... SO today, our attorney calls, he has a baby boy 1.5 years old mom is to sign papers today... HELPPPPPPPPP?? 1.5 yo is not walking yet, but SW's feels its lack of parenting aand neglect. They are sending medicals to me today...
Any suggestions, advice, prayers, help would be greatly appreciated! Nothing going on, now two at once... OMG!!!
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1993 decided to start a family 1995 discovered problems 1995-1998 fertility Drs and surgeries 1999-2003 break from it all 2003-2005 thought about adoption but trying to find a way to afford it. 2006 decided to do whatever it took to create a family. Money should not decide a family! January 2006 gathering information applying for homestudy. July 2006 homestudy completed- we are officially waiting! July 06-March 09 Several situations that didn't work out.. Our baby will find us,  until then...We are 4-everwaiting for our angel  It finally happened after over 2.5 years of waiting, our angel found us!!! ... Baby Girl Born March 10th! Home forever March 19th, 2009 
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01-06-2009, 12:03 PM
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Can you, or do you want to do both? We did!  CONGRATULATIONS!!! 
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 Jules5/23/06- our sweet baby Samuel Miles born 1/19/07 - Home with The Giggler and never been happier! 11/08/06 - our sweet baby Lucas Matthew born 8/21/07 - Home!!! The Growler is just like his brother - a complete HONEY BEAR! June 4, 2009- Julian "Jude" Thomas born. He is the sweetest of hearts. Oh, how I love my boys so! Our children are not ours because they share our genes...they are ours because we have had the audacity to envision them and hope for them. That, at the end of the day...or long sleepless night, is how love really works. - Unknown I LOVE MY SWEET SONS!!!
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#3
01-06-2009, 12:04 PM
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Say YES to both and take it as it come
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01-06-2009, 12:06 PM
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I AGREE!! So excited for you!
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Jules5/23/06- our sweet baby Samuel Miles born 1/19/07 - Home with The Giggler and never been happier! 11/08/06 - our sweet baby Lucas Matthew born 8/21/07 - Home!!! The Growler is just like his brother - a complete HONEY BEAR! June 4, 2009- Julian "Jude" Thomas born. He is the sweetest of hearts. Oh, how I love my boys so! Our children are not ours because they share our genes...they are ours because we have had the audacity to envision them and hope for them. That, at the end of the day...or long sleepless night, is how love really works. - Unknown I LOVE MY SWEET SONS!!!
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#5
01-06-2009, 12:08 PM
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GO....FOR.....IT!!!!!!
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01-06-2009, 12:08 PM
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If you can and want both, go for it! If not, you'll have to just follow your heart. We got chosen for two babies at once and it was hard to choose knowing we would let one birthmom down. In the end, we made the perfect choice for us. Good luck!
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Guatemala Timeline: Accepted Referral 10/11/07 12/27/07 to 1/3/08: Visit trip-a tiny taste of heaven! 1/7/08: Our sweet baby girl dies in her sleep Domestic Timeline: 4/5/2008: Updated homestudy for Domestic done 4/10/2008: Family profile book done 4/21/2008: Matched with a baby already born! (who happens to be Guatemalan American!) 4/24/2008: Meeting our son for the first time! 5/10/2008: Finally home forever! 2009: Starting the journey again and praying for the budget to fall into place! Benicio's blog: www.keepingthefaithadoption.blogspot.com In memory of Ariana Maria: www.adoptingariana.blogspot.com
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#7
01-06-2009, 12:13 PM
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If it were me I would def. go for the one yr old since it seems like a "sure thing" Then see what happens with the other situation! Good luck!
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01-06-2009, 12:13 PM
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I agree that if you can and want to do both, then by all means!!! But if not, I also agree to go with your heart. And, if you are religious, prayer is always helpful.
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dd born 12/01 dd/ds twins born 5/04 Started Domestic Adoption Process 6/10/07 Matched to Day Old Baby Boy 10/24/07 Match Failed 10/25/07 Decided to Switch to Foster/Adopt 3/1/08 Licensed!! 8/11/08 Placements: T 2 Yrs Old 4-13-09 to 4-15-09 - Went to Kinship
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#9
01-06-2009, 12:14 PM
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Good luck!!!
The only thing I can say is that you probably need to tell the moms in each situation if you decide to "go for" the other as well (unless: are TPRs already signed on the 1.5 yo?). I think it is so wonderful! And I hope both situations work out!!
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#10
01-06-2009, 12:15 PM
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OMG!!
 Sandy, say yes to both!! Fingers and toes crossed for you.  Waiting not so patiently to hear more... Debbie
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Still longing for a child... Jim & Debbie 01/09: Another referral out, still in limbo, world appears to be crumbling...ugh! 08: Very sick parent and grandparent, declined one match, one referral for a waiting child, and several presentations...time is not being kind to us. 07: Officially waiting with an agency!! 
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#11
01-06-2009, 12:16 PM
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that is so exciting and great!!!
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#12
01-06-2009, 12:22 PM
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I would go for both also
The worst that could happen is you went from a family of two one day to a family of four the next! Many people on here have done that, many adopt one and a few weeks later adopt another I am sure with some love he will be walking, my friends son was behind with walking and he is from a stay at home mom...so no reason not to walk, he just started walking in Sept and he will be two in March! I can advise you to wear the newborn as this will allow you to have your hands free with the toddler. Peg Prego makes a great double light weight folds flat fits in trunk aria stroller Perfect for kids of different ages and fits through the doors and isles. Britax makes a great toddler seat that he can stay in until 85 pounds so you won't have to buy so many seats! I will pray that both work out for you because in the end this toddler (is a toddler who NEEDS A HOME) and from what you have typed and all you could give him all the love an attention he needs. I will pray for you and your DH! Also praying for the pbmom who is thinking and deciding about placing, and for this little toddler who has no a clue what is happening and is moments away from meeting his forever family.God Bless, Summer
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#13
01-06-2009, 12:23 PM
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I would go for both, hubby probably wouldn't. It's all so very exciting. Let us know what you decide.
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01-06-2009, 12:23 PM
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Wow!! How exciting! When it rains, it pours, huh? I could tell you what I would do, but I don't think it really matters. You both have to do what feels right in your hearts. I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers, though.
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01-06-2009, 12:35 PM
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It will unfold as it is meant to. Good luck. I soooooo want this to work out for you!
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“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” - Barbara Kingsolver "If you have love, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." - Sir James M. Barrie "Nothing's gonna change my world." - John Lennon
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