[finallyamom0310]

I am praying this works for you. I can only imagine your excitement right now. Go for it!!

[SamIAm2]

Wishing you the best with both situations!

[momof9wantingmore]

We adopted our Wonderful dd when she was 2.5, she came to as a foster child at almost 1.5, she also had some delays at first. She is now 7 and the most precious little girl, we are so blessed that she came into our lives. Go for it.
Good luck to you!

[4everwaiting]

Hey guys,

Thanks for all the advice- we are debating two... still talking/thinking about two...

I have the 1.5 yr olds medicals and waiting on a ped (about 25 miles away) to call me back... We're SO nervous, scared, excited etc!!!

This will not be foster adopt, it will be private...

Both will be private.

I will keep you guys posted...

[jules17]

Originally Posted by 4everwaiting

I will keep you guys posted...

I will speak for the entire forum when I say we are all on pins and needles!!

Please, please PM me if you want to talk about adopting 2 close together. I can help! (we were nervous as all get out when we were presented the referral for our second son completely out of the blue, so I know how you must be feeling!!)

[lakin11]

Is there a chance to meet the 1.5 yr old before you decide?

I'd be very tempted to say yes to both situations as well! Good luck!

[Fran27]

I have everything crossed that this works out for you!!!!

[minibus]

When our children came home to live with us, they were 20 months and 3.5 months. We went from a family of two to a family of four in a minute! It's been a tiring, but exciting 6 months! It's been great to see how quickly they both have grown and developed - adopting a toddler is so different than an infant - so rewarding in such different ways.

Best of luck in your decision. Keep us posted!

[jalapeno]

Best Wishes 4ever!! I second the "pins and needles" comment. Can't wait to hear how things work out!

[nikkianni]

Oh! I KNEW this was your year!
I agree with everyone else. I'd probably inform all parties and say yes to both.
Fingers and toes crossed for you.

[sbaglio]

Good luck!

[BlessedbySnuggs]

Oh Sandra!!!!!!! I am praying that one or both of these situations work out for you! I am so excited to hear an update! Know that I am thinking of you!

[DebCsMom]

If the 1 1/2 year old is a for sure thing, I'd say go for it! BUT you will need to let everyone know if that is the choice to try to get both. In our state we had to wait one year to adopt again. Both PBM's morally should be told of the plan to adopt both, if that is what you want. It can be a big problem for everyone!

GOOD LUCK!! Very exciting news!!!

Deb

[cetalley]

4ever, Please consider both, but especially this toddler whom obviously needs someone to guide teach and love...oh yeah, and <<<<<<<<<<<<<HUG>>>>>>>! The emom has not had her child yet and she very could decide to parent, this is what we as moms have to expect. But if you have this 1.5 yr. old to keep you jumping and running it will still be a GOD send for ALL! Blessings...C.J.

[aclee]

I don't know if I would do both, do some reading on older child attachment and what not, because you will have to be a little more proactive about attachment with an 18 month old than a newborn. I would decide where your heart is. If accepting the 18 month old means that the emom would not place with you, are you ok with not having a newborn? Will you have enough time to attach to an 18 month old while caring for a newborn if you did them both?

Those are all things I would consider. If you think you can do both...go for it, but it will be an adjustment for the 18 month old, so you need to be able to commit to that completely...especially if that child is already behind.

Best of luck!