[kmcky4]

We are matched with a bmom that is past due. She was due on the first. So, we are anxiously waiting! My question is, my husband and I have bought her a beautiful necklace to give to her after the signing, but, we would like to bring her something in the hospital. We have only met her once, and havent talked to her other than that. We talk through the SW's. She has requested that we be there for the birth-so I want to bring her something. I dont know if just flowers is sufficient, as my husband suggested-or if something more is appropriate. Please help-any suggestions?
Thanks!

[Leigh131313]

First - check with your lawyer before giving ANY gift - ANY.

But I would think flowers would be perfect! Since you don't know each other well, and EVERYONE gets flowers when they have a baby - seems like a great idea to me.


I put together a little basket with munchies and soaps/shampoos.....just some stuff to make her feel normal in the hospital. I also stuck a photo album/frame in there too...

But again - check with your lawyer first!

[waitingforanangel]

Flowers are nice, although some hospitals don't allow them, so be sure to check. We also gave the birthmother a necklace. Along with that we gave her some other things like an angel figurine, an angel ornament (it was near Christmas), some nice smelling body cream, a photo album, and a pretty book with lined pages, since she likes to write.

I'm sure she will appreciate anything that you give her. I know that our birthmother was touched.

Best of luck to you!!!

[kmcky4]

I have discussed with our SW giving her a gift, and they said it was not a problem. We are going through an agency.
I love the album idea! Also, the bath stuff-that is a good idea too. She is really young, so I am sure she would love some fun smelly stuff!

[saxxxy]

To go along with the bath stuff you may want to consider a nice soft fluffy robe and maybe some soft comfy jammies for her to wear at the hospital and when she arrives home. Perhaps a soft cuddle blankie so that she has something to hold onto when she goes home.

[mommy3]

Especially if she's young (our ds's birthmom was), a stuffed animal would be great -- sometimes families get the same thing for the baby so she'd know they had twin animals. If you know what she likes, it can be a great choice for a teen and not really personal -- but I can also agree that bath stuff, esp. from a popular store can be a hit, as well. I'd always include flowers, as many birthmoms are forgotten about flowers and everyone else in the hosp. has them -- it meant a lot to our ds's birthmom to get flowers, too, Have fun! susan

[HeidiK]

Comfy robe and slippers for the hospital. A special outfit for the baby to sleep in and take pictures of them together with the baby in the outift. Mail the outfit and the pictures back to her in a few weeks.

Good luck

[Cjmeck]

How about a nice journal? Being able to write/express emotions was a live saver for me during a period of grieving in my life.

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by Cjmeck

How about a nice journal? Being able to write/express emotions was a live saver for me during a period of grieving in my life.

Thats what we bought AJ's firstmom...and I like you said, she expressed to us that it "saved her life" in those dark days after leaving the hospital.

[OLIVIA1969]

These are good ideas. Even though we are still in the beginning stages, it is something we have thought about.

[KLL08]

We also sent our birthmother a CD of all the pictures we took in the hospital. She didn't bring a camera with her and she asked for us to send her some pictures from the hospital. We plan on an open adoption and so I have also sent a couple pictures from my cell phone to hers and she has really appreciated them so far!

[startedover]

we gave our dd birthmom a daily devotional book. It is inspirational but not as over whelming as the Bible. short and sweet Later we gave a Bible.