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Old 12-21-2008, 09:24 AM
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"Wanting" to place your child with an Adptive family

HI, i need some advice. i'm working on the final touches of my profile and the last paragraph of it reads," In closing, thank you for reading our letter and we hope you have seen a glimpse of our lives as a stable, loving, and nurturing family that you would want your child to be part of."
And then the last 2 sentences.

But what i'm concerned with is that i dont think that the birthmom really WANTS to place their child with some other family, but more that they need too. i mean, every situation is obviously different, but i dont want to offend anyone that is reading it that they simply WANT to give up their child to my family. i think its okay, but does anyone think it would be offensive? on the other hand if they are looking at profiles, they probably have made that decision that they are more than likely placing their baby for adoption. Any input would be appreciated. i'm trying to get it completely done before my last home study appt tomm so my SW can read the whole thing through. Thanks so much Rach
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Old 12-21-2008, 09:30 AM
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change the "want" to "considering"... Because at this point until TPR is signed they are "considering" adoption/placement...
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Old 12-21-2008, 09:39 AM
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I would end it at "family"...but that's JMO.
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Old 12-21-2008, 10:07 AM
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I would end it at "family"...but that's JMO.

lovemy2boys, great suggestion. I agree.
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Old 12-21-2008, 10:48 AM
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I agree...ending at family is perfect!
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I also agree at ending it at "family."
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Old 12-21-2008, 03:33 PM
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I agree with ending it at "nurturing family," too. However, that's the writer in me. Conversationally, what you wrote is good, but in writing it reads better to end it at "family."
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I agree with the other posters about ending it with "family".
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End it with family. You're right, I can't think of a single first mom or emom that WANTS to place her child for adoption.
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Another vote for ending it at "Family". It stills gets your point across, but doesn't have the possibly offensive tone. Plus, you won't wonder and worry about it if it's not in there!
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I agree. It sounds perfect ending at family.
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Old 12-21-2008, 08:59 PM
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Well, its pretty unanimous than. i had kinda thought that ending it at family was good too but wanted another opinion. thanks alot everyone.
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I would end it in family - but don't put the "nurturing, stable" part. It just sounds like you are selling yourself to much IMO...
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I would end it at family, too. But, I would keep the stable, nurturing, if that is what you want to convey. We wrote something very similar.

It's a very difficult letter to write! In the end, we found that if we kept it simple and wrote it as if we were saying it (if that makes sense), we were happy with how it turned out.
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It just sounds like you are selling yourself to much IMO

sorry vogi, this made me actually chuckle. this is kinda the whole point of the letter for pete's sake..LOL!
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