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Old 12-03-2008, 11:55 AM
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Failed Match

We had a failed match this week. I've been pretty tight-lipped about it because despite the fact that the mom said she was sure, I didn't have that feeling. We've been matched for about 2 1/2 months and in that time got very close to the parents. She had the baby and now wants to "try" parenting. We are broken-hearted, but know that she has to do what she feels is best.
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Old 12-03-2008, 11:57 AM
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I'm so sorry.

I'm sure you are sick of hearing it, but your baby is out there. Take the time you need to grieve.

I'm so sorry....
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:01 PM
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I am so sorry Court.. I am sure the right baby is waiting for you.. Again, I am sorry..
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:05 PM
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I am very sorry.

Sending you hugs. Take the time you need to grieve.
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5/23/06- our sweet baby Samuel Miles born
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11/08/06 - our sweet baby Lucas Matthew born
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:18 PM
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Aw Court, I'm so sorry. to you and your DH. We're all here if you need us.
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:22 PM
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:24 PM
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I am so sorry. Hugs to you and your family.
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:26 PM
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I'm so sorry. I have been there, and trust me, the pain does lessen over time. Just make sure that you take time for yourself and allow yourself to grieve this baby.
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:27 PM
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So sorry court.
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:40 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear that.
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:48 PM
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So sorry! I hope your baby finds you very soon!!!!!
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:50 PM
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I am sorry too. I wish I could say something to make the pain go away. Hang in there.
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Old 12-03-2008, 12:55 PM
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Court I'm so sorry!

((hugs))
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1995 discovered problems
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January 2006 gathering information applying for homestudy.
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Old 12-03-2008, 01:16 PM
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