[NicoleP80]

I am wanting to adopt another soon, or at least get into an adoption "pool". Am I nuts?!?! Our son is ONLY 8 weeks. I KNOW we won't get a "match" for some time. Our son's adoption truly landed in out lap!!! It was so "fast" and was a miracle.

But I see this baby boy who I love so so so much sleeping right next to me, growing up SO fast and I just etch every single moment and memory on my heart but I am already getting "baby fever" and this baby is STILL a baby!!! He is the LOVE of my everything so I want all the time in the world with him to get to know him and bond with him but I see him growin up way too fast!!

AM I am nut?!?!

[SupaModel]

No I wouldn't say nuts because I felt the same way BUT maybe i'm nuts too!

I will say you really never know how quickly you'll be matched. I got DS in 4 months! Do you really want 2 babies that close? My DH says nooooo way at this point. Now that reality has set in I can see his point. I still have baby fever though

Good luck luv!

[Fran27]

It's not crazy, but the main thing twin moms will tell you is that it's frustrating sometimes because you can't comfort both at the same time... especially when they're little and need you a lot. You end up having less bonding time with each one, and even if you're always paying attention to one of them, you can't help feeling guilty if the other one is alone. That's why a lot of agencies don't let you adopt another child until the first one is 1.

[NicoleP80]

Thanks LOL

We are not looking to adopt for about a year or so. I don't want babies so close in age. I would love to wait until he about a year and half and proceed again!

[jules17]

Our oldest son was 5 months old when we got the "completely out of the blue" call for our second son who had just been born (hadn't planned to adopt again for a year or two)...we said YES.

And I thank God every day that we did!!!

[WAMozart]

I felt EXACTLY the same way when she was newborn.
(And trust me, at any point, I would have said YES to another child if the situation had arisen. Still would.)

Babies are just magic. They affect us in a very primal way. And I think it's perfectly natural to fantasize about having a nursery full of them.

However, when they become toddlers, you are much too interested in your little one (or ones) to fantasize about anything. I'd still love many kids, but right now, I'm having so much fun with a toddler that I don't have time to stop and daydream much!
The want is still there, but much less noticeable, I suppose.

Aren't they the BEST?!

[elledarcy]

LOL I felt the same way, but good judgment got the better of me! DD is almost 9 months and we are planning on going back on "the list" after she turns 1 year old. That way, the kids will probably be about two years apart. Of course, that's still very close in age, but I'm optimistic that we can pull it off

Maybe give yourself a few months to bond with your baby and then consider going back to your agency. Or choose a date when you will start waiting again and then look forward to that.

Good luck!

[Beautyqueen616]

Kix was born at 11:03 am and by that night I was ready for another LOL We got to room in and all that and I still wanted one right away. She's now 16 months and we are taking foster to adopt classes and will probably adopt older children. We plan to go for another infant in 2010 because of financial reasons.