[shy_bear]

We have 3 kids, 10, 7, and 16 months. Our 10 yr old is a straight A student and involved in sports and different clubs at school. We have never had any problems with her in school. Our 7 yr old is in 2nd grade. She has ADHD; she does have a 504 in place. She is reading on a high Kindergarten level and is behind in Math. It is not b/c she is not smart or has any learning problems; we had a VERY diff. time in K. She was not medicated and caused a lot of problems and did not learn anything in my opinion. We are also having feeding problems and school and nobody is doing anything besides giving me a lot of lip service. God forbid any of these schools hold a child back...another topic!! Anyway, I have found a great private school that is nontraditional and gears the learning environment towards each individual child and their needs. I am worried though; is it fair of us to give a private education to one and not the other??? Our son has a lot of special needs and I already know he will not being going to K at 5 and I feel he would also do better in private school, but we still have awhile for him. Am I overthinking this???

[Yash]

Yes, it's fair because your 10-year-old is doing well in his school, but your seven-year-old isn't. You have to do what's best for each individual child.

[Lorraine123]

Fair does not mean the same. Fair means the best for each person. It would not be fair to pull your older daughter out of a pubilc school where she is thriving just because it isn't best for your younger one. I have three children with very different needs and they all have had different educational experiences.

[HappyTwinsMom]

Fair does not mean the same. Fair means the best for each person.

I completely agree with this! Your older child is doing well and thriving in her current school situation. Your younger one is struggling and would be better served in a private school environment. I say go for it!!

[finallyamom0310]

Definately do what is right for them individually. My SIL and Brother have 3 of six kids in school and all three go to different schools. The two boys are 10 and 7 and had to be separated. Mostly due to their learning disabilities / teaching needs and also because they were killing each other in school (won't go there to explain this one). Now that the boys have been separated they are both excelling.

[sheababy]

I don't think it's a problem not send all to private school. Your 10 year old probably has friends and would not want to change schools. Just make sure you are not talking to them about the private school being better (or he may feel he is missing out). The private school is just a better fit for your middle child.

[feelingreyt]

I also believe you have to do what is best for each individual child.
The only thing you might want to think about is what if your oldest dd ASKS you to put her in private school as well. Most likely she won't since she is doing well and very involved with extra activites, but it is possible. If you told her NO then she may feel like it's unfair.
Either way, you have to do what you feel is best for your children.

[loveajax]

My brother went to an "elite' private school because he was kicked out of our local Catholic school (where the rest of us went!). The nuns said he was too smart and was causing havoc because he was bored. We don't resent it at all...and in your situation, it sounds like DD maybe really needs something else. Good luck!

[swd]

ITA w/ others who say that you need to do what's best for each child. They're individuals, and one school might be better for one than the others. My sister went to private school and I went to public school. She would have hated my HS and I got a little taste of hers one day when I went with her. Never wanted to go back....

[mommieof2cuties]

Originally Posted by shy_bear

We have 3 kids, 10, 7, and 16 months. Our 10 yr old is a straight A student and involved in sports and different clubs at school. We have never had any problems with her in school. Our 7 yr old is in 2nd grade. She has ADHD; she does have a 504 in place. She is reading on a high Kindergarten level and is behind in Math. It is not b/c she is not smart or has any learning problems; we had a VERY diff. time in K. She was not medicated and caused a lot of problems and did not learn anything in my opinion. We are also having feeding problems and school and nobody is doing anything besides giving me a lot of lip service. God forbid any of these schools hold a child back...another topic!! Anyway, I have found a great private school that is nontraditional and gears the learning environment towards each individual child and their needs. I am worried though; is it fair of us to give a private education to one and not the other??? Our son has a lot of special needs and I already know he will not being going to K at 5 and I feel he would also do better in private school, but we still have awhile for him. Am I overthinking this???

As someone who has a masters in Special Education, you need to fix your daughter who has ADHD first so that she can get on the right path and do well! The problem I see is most school don't have the time and don't want to deal with it! It is very sad if you ask me, the problem is many parents don't care and I am so glad to see you do care! Please send her and get her the better education that she needs. Don't even think about it . If your younger one also needs help and private is the way to go than send them both! But he is still a baby and you could get him into early intervention programs and other state programs pending on what his educational issues are. But back to your second grade daughter, yes pull her out and send her. Once she is in a place with people who really care, getting what she needs you should see a big change.

Summer

[scandi]

I homeschool my oldest and my youngest goes to public school because that is what best fits their needs. You need to do what you think best fits your kids needs.

[BrandyHagz]

Honestly, is it fair to your younger daughter to stay in public school simply because you can't send the whole clan?

You have to parent each child differently, that means making decisions that fit each child. You wouldn't expect a non-athletic child to play sports, like an older child might have...

Do what you have to do to make your child have a successful education...it sounds like your older child is doing just that in public school...

[Jensboys]

I have two in private school, one in a hockey academy public school and one in a late french immersion school. Its about doing what is best for each INDIVIDUAL child.

do what is best for each kid ...