[Ann07]

We are just in the begining of adoption #2.........starting to apply to agencies and get our homestudy updated. This is so exciting for our family.......I dream of another child, I dream of names that I like.......BUT I am afraid that we won't ever be picked, I am afraid that we won't hear back from the agencies with good news, I am afraid we will wait for years, I am afraid that I won't get to be a new mom again, I am afraid of so many things..............

I know this is the adoption world, it sure is like trying to get pregant.....it brings back nightmares! I just want to vent and I guess I may be looking for words of wisdom!

I know my child will find me, I have faith and will never give up trying.....it is just hard when you are dealing with what if's.

[finallyamom0310]

Nothing from me as we only have one and dream of #2 some day. I too am afraid if we go for #2 that we wont' be picked or that it will take too long or that I have to go through all those hurdles again. I am not sure I can do it again.

[feelingreyt]

No words of wisdom, sorry. But I wanted to give you.

[Lilly's Mommy]

I could tell you not to worry, that it will happen, but that probably won't help. We feel how we feel.

Just wanted to tell you that we decided to go for #2 a few months ago. I spent the first 2+ months terrified. So terrified that I considered backing out. One afternoon I made a 180 degree turnaround for reasons unknown to me. Instead of the usual fear of sleep deprivation, I began to fear we'd never be chosen again and really became excited at the thought of another child. Now I sometimes have to really work to fight those "what if it never happens" feelings.

FWIW, I think you're normal. It's hard not to fear what is out of our control.

[nikkianni]

I agree that what you're feeling is totally normal. Those are probably the same feelings you had the first time around. And even if you adopt six more times, they'll probably always crop up at some point.
And hang in there!

[Saya]

We're hope to be waiting on number 2 within the next couple of months. (Just have to get on the ball and get that darn homestudy completed!) I am conflicted between being scared it's never going to happen and being scared it's going to happen too fast! One kid seems tough enough - how I am going to be able to parent TWO?! But then I think of the waiting game, and it just sounds too stressful.

I have to keep telling myself it will happen in it's own time. Last time maybe some things didn't go as fast as we wanted, and we were really stressed - but I'm so glad it happened as it did, because that means I got to be Anabel's mom, just as I was meant to be! The timing was perfect, and I'm sure it will be again - for both of us.

[jules17]

I am so in your boat. We officially became "Parents in Waiting" last Friday...although my DH is opposed to that term since we are already parents. So we say we are a "Family in Waiting." We don't know when we will be selected, but we are done with all of our paperwork, etc.

Anyhoo, this is our third adoption. With each adoption, I am getting calmer and more zen. But I still have my moments. Boy, do I ever!!