[aclee]

So last night I was cruising around the internet, looking at everything adoption related, like I usually do. Found myself on a state photolisting (not my state) and found a sibling group of 4. I showed them to DH and he said, You should see if you can get more information on them. Just like that, casually, like it was a puppy or something. I was like...WHAT?

So we had a little talk.

He says he's given it a lot of thought, and he thinks that our hearts are in the same place, and the things we're worried about that are making us delay adding to the family are just that...things. House things and stuff...not emotion things. House things can be taken care of, quickly if needed. Emotion things, while they shouldn't run your life, are the most important "things"...I totally agreed with him.

So I told him how it worked. That we would submit an interest form requesting more information, and we would never hear anything back...LOL. That's the way it works right? We agreed if that was what happened, and they were removed from the site in a month or so, we would know they weren't meant to be in our family...but if they were meant to be in our family, we would continue to ask for more information on them till they were not on the site, or we were told we were not a good match for them...

So I e-mailed.

This morning I got an e-mail back from the intake worker that she forwarded our information on to the children's social worker, and thanked me for writing them. Wow. I response in less than 24 hours? Not a helpful response or anything, but that's still amazing! So I e-mailed the social worker following up just saying we were looking forward to talking with her, and she should feel free to e-mail if we had any questions.

I imagine they have a million people interested in this group of cuties. So I'm not holding my breath they were meant to join our family. BUT. We'll see I guess. Just wanted to share because it's a huge thing and really exciting

Stormster has already informed me that I'm insane...or something like that.

[finallyamom0310]

Okay, I agree with Storm, INSANE. But I hope it works for you. I know you have lots of love to give all those children

[loveajax]

You are insane, but in a great way!!! Maybe Crick will have some words of wisdom for you (I believe she adopted a sibling group of 4!). Keep us posted!!!

Btw, would you have to do another home study or take the MAPP classes...I am still so confused about the process!! GOOD LUCK!!!

[BlessedbySnuggs]

Maybe a little insane!!! LOL! No, I think its awesome! You'll have to keep us posted on everything. So exciting! I wish DH was as open as yours to adding to the family!

[minibus]

Wow, that's exciting!! Keep us posted!

[nikkianni]

Another insane vote, but hats off to you for being crazy. It's the good kind.

[veggiegirl]

Insane? Nooooo. Insane is an understatement! Girl, you done lost your mind! Must be some Halloween madness you're experiencing! Actually, if it was anyone else, they'd be mad, but I think you can handle a situation like this. Now, let me give you DH's e-mail address so you can talk to him about more kiddos for us. (He says 2's the limit, but my heart says 3 for some reason.)

[aclee]

Originally Posted by loveajax

You are insane, but in a great way!!! Maybe Crick will have some words of wisdom for you (I believe she adopted a sibling group of 4!). Keep us posted!!!

Btw, would you have to do another home study or take the MAPP classes...I am still so confused about the process!! GOOD LUCK!!!

From what the intake worker said, our homestudy is still considered valid, so we would need an update to add Tyler. I would imagine we would have to take MAPP though...

[jp4ga]

Life Changing and Crazy. My friends have adopted 2 sibling groups. The first was a group of 2, the second which will be finalized in December was a group of 4. They have never been so happy, and the house has never been so cluttered.

Best wishes to you and your family.

[aclee]

You know what was a real change of heart for me, and I think for DH. When we first got Ty, I was still cruising the net. I've never stopped and maybe I never will. I saw a sibling group of 6 that were all (at the time) under the age of 7. I have a special place in my heart for sibling groups. Especially minority sibling groups, so they always catch my attention. This group did. Over the past year, I have kept my eye on them while they were slowly broken into groups and adopted. First the youngest two were gone, then the middle two girls, and now the older two boys are left. How sad is that for those two boys. Unfortunatly, I can sit and preach here all I want, but I didn't submit an interest form on those two boys. I just don't think it would be a good thing for me to have them. How do you foster a healthy relationship with the families that have their other siblings knowing that these boys were left behind...I get defensive enough about the race issue, but I'm not sure what I would say to a family that adopted the two youngest of a sibling group of 6...

Siblings should be together, and I get all the challenges associated with that...so if I can change that, even for a smaller sibling group like this. I will...

You'd also be surprised how many sites will list when foster parents are interested in adopting the children, and it will be a sibling set of 2 even, and it will say foster parents are only interested in adopting 2 year old girl, not her 1 year old brother...no special needs noted. So sad. I want those kids too. Someone submit me for Extreme Home Makeover so they can build me a 20 bedroom house...(on my .25 of an acre)

Okay...10 bedrooms and a really huge laundry room. We are limited by the size of the land I guess...10 rooms, 1 for DH and I, one for the 3 dogs, leave 8...I could do 3 kids to a room...that would be exactly right....2 dozen kids. Nice even number... (actually Dh says he will never drive anything bigger than a 20 passenger, so maybe we can do less than 3 kids in each room)

[Fran27]

That's huge but so exciting! I hope it works out for you... if not I'm sure your kids are out there.

[minibus]

Originally Posted by aclee

even for a smaller sibling group like this.

Can I just say that I find it mind-boggling that you consider a group of 4 children a "smaller" sibling group?

[Kat-L]

WOW!! I hope you hear something soon! I've had 5 kids at one time (with 4 under 4) and it was exciting. Busy..but exciting. The laundry was never-ending and the housework got out of hand. But, it was a LOT of fun. If "D" hadn't had attachment issues, I probably would have kept her and "C". They were adorable but I couldn't do it on my own considering their needs.
I always thought, though, if I was a stay-at-home mom and had the support of an attachment therapist that I could have made it work. Maybe..

[Stormster]

Kat you are amazing. Aclee you are amazing. All of you are amazing!

I can barely take care of one though I think two would be amazing. Of course with 2 I'd suddenly find myself a single mom so it might not be so easy....

[melissa_bear003]

Ok, so are you my long lost twin or something? lol!

There's a sib group of 4 on our photo listing site that I'd apply for in a heart beat (plus a singleton ) and my idea for winning the lotto would be to buy an acreage and renovate to have enough rooms and bathrooms for about a dozen kids

Hubby looked like this when I mentioned it:

He thinks I'm

But...for some reason the idea of 8 kids doesn't make him as twitchy...probably cause the idea of a dozen short circuited his nervous system