[mommamarci]

You are in my thoughts. Call if you need to talk!

[sambob]

Wow, that's pretty intense. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that everything works out!

[Amber76]

Praying for everyone involved...

[jalapeno]

Sending prayers . . .

Wow. Just WOW!!

[4everwaiting]

Thoughts are with you all!

Extra baby dust sent your way!

Sandra

[oceanica]

Gwen, so sorry to hear all this! I think you should give up on this one. This one wasn't meant to be.

In my last failed match, we didn't give the emom much money but she received significant support from the crisis center in terms of an "adoption subsidy" including rent paid for months, food cards for publix every week, transportation, and other things. Same thing with dcf too - our atty and the center couldn't tell her that the state was going to take the baby because it would be considered coercion.

[BlessedbySnuggs]

Gwen...thoughts, prayers, and baby dust go out to you right now! And hugs!

Keep us posted!

[loveajax]

Gwen, I can't imagine how stressful this is...hang in there! Thinking of you all, Karen

[devildogwife]

Wow, what a rollercoaster you are on! I'll be thinking of you and checking for updates the rest of the week.

[cetalley]

Originally Posted by loveajax

Gwen, I can't imagine how stressful this is...hang in there! Thinking of you all, Karen

I agree, my heart goes out to you, and I too send baby dust. However I am a firstmom whom indeed relinquished due to coersion, not from DFS or anything of the likes, I don't even know anything about public assistance. I do know that when giving birth your hormones are way way out of whack. No body should be around the mom or baby, UNLESS they were personally invited. We have every right to change our minds, and she should be left alone until, she decides otherwise. Forget what you have been told. Go strictly by what new Mom wants and her decisions only. This DFS is 100% coreect in saying they cannot threaten her with foster care, I know this happened to me, and I have lived this nightmare for 22 + yrs now. She is only a Birthmom AFTER she deicides to place and sign those papers. Please , I beg of you to leave her alone, until she personally request you to be there. I know this is hard, but SHE needs to be able to decide without pressure of parents being around whom wish nothing more than to adopt her baby. JMHO, when the time is right GOD will see that you become loving wonderful parents!

[Stormster]

Originally Posted by cetalley

I agree, my heart goes out to you, and I too send baby dust. However I am a firstmom whom indeed relinquished due to coersion, not from DFS or anything of the likes, I don't even know anything about public assistance. I do know that when giving birth your hormones are way way out of whack. No body should be around the mom or baby, UNLESS they were personally invited. We have every right to change our minds, and she should be left alone until, she decides otherwise. Forget what you have been told. Go strictly by what new Mom wants and her decisions only. This DFS is 100% coreect in saying they cannot threaten her with foster care, I know this happened to me, and I have lived this nightmare for 22 + yrs now. She is only a Birthmom AFTER she deicides to place and sign those papers. Please , I beg of you to leave her alone, until she personally request you to be there. I know this is hard, but SHE needs to be able to decide without pressure of parents being around whom wish nothing more than to adopt her baby. JMHO, when the time is right GOD will see that you become loving wonderful parents!

I agree with this but I don't think one can overstate how unfair it is to Gwen and her family to be so intensely "jerked around". Gwen I am so sorry!!! Whatever happens it will be for the best and you will be ok. But man this is horrible! ANd I have a few horror stories under my belt as well and not easily shocked. GOOD LUCK, HUGS AND IF YOU NEED ANYTHING LET ME KNOW PLEASE.

[KLL08]

Gwen...thinking and praying for you and your husband and baby boy today. I wish you all the best...lots of baby dust!

[Asha0314]

I know this is a difficult time, and hopefully you will know soon one way or the other as to her decision.
Best Wishes.

[Gwen72]

cetalley- We were personally invited to the birth by the baby's mom. She told us 3 days before the birth that she wanted us to go with her to the hospital and she told social workers that she wanted us to be with the baby as soon as he was born. We had to move mountains and a lot of friends and coworkers really pitched in to rearrange our schedules for us to be there for her and this baby. When we got to the hospital and were getting checked in she told the triage nurse that we were the baby's "parents" (her words). Everything was according to her plan. She has been caught in lies in the past and swore she was telling the truth this time. Maybe she did simply change her mind. I still feel stupid for putting myself in the position to possibly be duped. We went to the hospital today to see her and she pretended to be asleep and did not acknowlege us. I told her we were going to go home and give her and her family some space. I told her to take all the time she needed to make her decision. I am a firstmom who placed my child for adoption only 3 years after you placed yours. I do not want her to be pressured or coerced into this decision. Earlier this year I refused to be shown to a mom who was being coerced by her family into placing her child. There is a difference in a woman scamming you and a woman simply changing her mind. I have given all due regard to this mom and I pray she chooses us to raise this baby instead of the state decideing who raises it for her. Thank you for your prayers and baby dust. I will keep everyone updated when I hear something this weekend.

[lovemy2boys]

We'll all be thinking of you and your DH, Gwen...

Try to take it easy...