[AdoptInMe]

Wow, we are going to be on edge for the next month. We knew that our dd's birthmom was pregnant and due soon, but we just got a call from her a few days ago, asking if we would take this baby too. The baby is due 11/21. She said she wanted to wait to call us until she was sure with her decision. She says that we are the only people she wants to have this baby, and if we don't take him, she will keep him, but feels she can't. We are ecstatic, because we were trying to figure out how we were going to have another baby. The birthmom is in a tough situation, because her other 2 kids were taken away by DHS and this baby's father has a restraining order against him for abuse and he uses drugs, etc....

The problem is that the father does not want this baby put up for adoption. They live in FL, and he was served his 30 days to contest on Monday. So, he has a chance to prove that he will take care of mom and baby before birth and after and that he has a stable job and everything, all done through the court system. He wants the baby and so does his mom. But he is going to stand trial soon for abusing a pregnant woman and trying to keep her from dialing 911 (all with her other 2 kids watching).

The agency we used is involved, but say that they can do absolutely nothing until the father's 30 days are up. They can't help the mother in any way and can't make an adoption plan until that happens. His 30 days will be up a week before this baby is due!!!!!!!! Our dd came a week early, and her other 2 babies came right around the due date or a week early.

OMG, we could have a baby boy in a month! We are so excited, but so worried that the father will fight this. And we can do nothing. We are going ahead and completing a new homestudy, because we want to be prepared in case, but how are we going to make it through the next 27 days??????

Sorry this is so long, but I needed to write it all down, especially for people who will understand.

[finallyamom0310]

That is a whirlwind of emotions that you are going through and I hope it works out best for the baby.

[Gwen72]

I have no advice since I have never been in this situation. I just wanted to give you a and say that I will be praying for you all.

[BlessedbySnuggs]

Same here, no real advice, just wanted to send

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Sounds like this is a really tough situation for all involved.

Good luck and please keep us posted!

[timleenettesue]

Praying for you and the baby. We were placed with our youngest because we had already adopted her older brother. Stay strong and keep us posted!!!

[feelingreyt]

WOW, talk about high emotions! You will be amazed though at how fast the time will go by. Trying to get everything prepared and redoing your homestudy. You are going to be very busy, which is a good thing!!! Staying busy always makes time fly!

I do realize it will be a hard 27 days regardless of how busy you are. The unknowns, the what if's. Just remember to breathe and cherrish every moment with your dd.

My thoughts are with you.

[AdoptInMe]

feelingreyt, I totally forgot about the fact that this may be the last month that my dd will be an only child. Thank you for reminding me! That helps so much. I was thinking about how to prepare her, but had never thought about preparing myself for having more than one. YES, I will cherish her and focus on her.

Thanks for all the kind words, everyone.