[jf5505]

I wanted to know if you guys have any ideas for what to get a birthmom your meeting for the first time, gift card, basket of goodies...etc...HELP!!!

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by jf5505

I wanted to know if you guys have any ideas for what to get a birthmom your meeting for the first time, gift card, basket of goodies...etc...HELP!!!

I don't want to start a symantics war - just wanting a bit of clarification...

Do you mean your child's birthmom, or do you mean an expectant mom who is considering placing her child for adoption?

The reason why I ask is because we brought nothing for our first time meetings with the expectant moms (who ultimately placed their children with us). To us, bringing a gift for a first meeting would have felt uncomfortable...

When our boys were born, we brought a small gift to the hospital (an angel picture frame/statue for one and a journal and a book of poetry for the other).

Maybe you can pay for dinner if you go out to eat...

[thanksgivingmom]

When I met Cupcake's Mom I had already placed her for adoption - so our first meeting was several months after placement and she brought me a bouquet of flowers. It felt very appropriate and I appreciated the gesture.

Had we met before placement I don't think I would have felt comfortable receiving a gift. Although like lovemy said I think I would have accepted having my meal paid for. Anything beyond that woudn't seem appropriate for me.

[jp4ga]

We sent the bmom of our baby girl a photo album that had tons of premade pages. I made sure to write down what the pre made pages were so that when we send pictures she will have pictures for the pages. She said she liked it, and we send pictures often.

We gave no gifts on first time meetings.

[devildogwife]

When we first met Cam's birth mom, we got her some lotions and chocolates. We also took her out to lunch and just got to know her. I can't believe it's been over a year since we first met....Wow. Anyway, if it's okay with your attorney, perhaps something small.

[Gs_Mom]

Our first meeting was shortly before birth. (We flew into town to be there for the birth).

I got the birth mom some scented lotion, a bath robe, and some slippers. Figured she would enjoy having something new to wear after the birth. I put it all in a large decorative box that she could reuse, thinking it would be a good place to store the pictures, etc. we would be sending later.

I think she appreciated it.

[Gwen72]

The expectant mom we are matched with is a single mom of a little girl. The first time we met, we brought her groceries and a picture book for her daughter. If she does choose to place the baby with us, I have a picture album for her to put all the pictures I'm going to send her in. I am going to do the nursery in "Winnie the Pooh" and it's a "Winnie the Pooh" picture album.

[belleinblue1978]

I didn't want anything the first time I met with my son's parents. It would have made me uncomfortable, and honestly, I may not have accepted a gift.

[Emberbit]

I would have been very uncomfortable if the parents I was considering had brought gifts to the first meeting (I met with two couples before deciding on the first...).

After the official "match" thy sent me a fruit arrangement as I was craving fruit at the time.

[hope.4.Ali]

We did not give our emom a gift at our match meeting. When she was in the hospital we gave her an orchid. After the TPR, we sent her a photo album with recent pictures of our DS and plan on taking her out to dinner during visits.

Also, I want to note that I believe each state has different rules, but in the state of WI, we could not spend over $50 on gifts before the TPR.

[lahdh4]

For the first meeting between us and Supergirl's parents, well prospective parents at the time. They gave me a votive holder and some votives to go with it. It was small and thoughtful and that was it.

[loveajax]

When we first met DD's birth parents and oldest daughter (after the "match"), I gave DD's birth mom a bouquet of flowers and their daughter a set of board books. I know I always like getting flowers (or even better, candy!).

[BrandyHagz]

We met the weekend of my birthday and they had a birthday cake for me. We met in their home, however, so it wasn't real public.

It was the first time I'd had a cake - so it was something I remember

[sbaglio]

We gave DD's bmom a photo album when we first met, and took her and her mother out to lunch.

[BlessedbySnuggs]

After DD was born we sent a necklace with an opal on it(DD's birthsone) and she LOVED it. She says she wears it everyday.