[Sohmakun]

Yesterday, I attended a webinar for a well known international adoption agency. The program director asked all of us which gender would we like our child/children to be. I told her I wanted a boy if it didn't effect my wait time and she was shocked! She said to me 90% of propective adoptive parents want girls!

Thus, this is why I'm posting this thread today, could someone please tell me why adoptive parents want girls rather than boys!

[lovemy2boys]

That's interesting...I'd never heard that before...

Our agency didn't allow couples to request gender (we really had no preference) so I can't really say if that's the norm...

Although I can say that I am thrilled with my two little guys, thank you very much!

[Stormster]

i think it's probably true.

I don't know why though.

I do know that out of 8 possible situations we were approached about all 8 were boys. The only "girl" was a scam!

[SupaModel]

I've heard that most ppl want girls too. Thank god for me because I always wanted ALL boys!!!

[jules17]

We were told this numerous times as well. My friends who wanted to adopt girls had longer waits.

I am over the moon having all boys!

[4everwaiting]

I didn't know that everyone wanted a girl!

We really don't care, either gender would be great!

S

[DPline]

What I have heard regarding international adoptions (and I would assume it would apply to domestic) that most/many adoptions are started by single women/the wife and women tend towards wanting girls. Also, that there is a notion that girls are easier to raise. (With two boys and a girl, I have got to disagree personally! )

[ocracoke]

I had heard this -- although I think 90% sounds high to me. I did request a girl (international adoption). I did so because I am a single woman and I felt more comfortable raising a girl. I thought I could related more to a girl. But I also assume (based on years working with teenagers) that boys are easier to raise.

Samantha

[devildogwife]

Originally Posted by Stormster

i think it's probably true.

I don't know why though.

I do know that out of 8 possible situations we were approached about all 8 were boys. The only "girl" was a scam!

That was about the same with us too. We were thrilled that Cameron was a boy!

[Fran27]

I think it's because most adoptive parents are women (either married or single really), and they think it would be easier to bond and relate to a girl as they grow up, as it's a 'known territory' as opposed to boys.

I think if they request girls thinking that they will be easier to raise though they're in for a surprise

[Sohmakun]

Originally Posted by ocracoke

I had heard this -- although I think 90% sounds high to me...

The agency did have a China program so that may effect the demographics but even in the Russia program the wait for a boy was less that 6 months and the wait for a girl was about 16 months, so there are people requesting girls more than boys in other countries other than China.

[crystalp]

I was told that the reason most want girls is because if you are open to any race and you get a boy that is of a different race than you are, then you are changing the genetic makeup of your family name. Personally, I think this is a stupid reason for requesting girls only. I was hoping for a boy!

[Sohmakun]

Originally Posted by Fran27

I think it's because most adoptive parents are women (either married or single really), and they think it would be easier to bond and relate to a girl as they grow up, as it's a 'known territory' as opposed to boys.

I think if they request girls thinking that they will be easier to raise though they're in for a surprise

I guess I'm really the odd one then. I'd rather have a boy as my first child then a girl if it didn't make my wait longer. I think is because I'm a tomboy but other than that I cannot think of a valid reasons for a gender preference.

[mdesi]

I don't know other people's reasons for wanting a girl over a boy. We are open to both. However, we both want a girl b/c DH already has a boy. We want to do the other girly stuff this time around. However, I can tell you that at different stages, boys are easier than girls, and vice versa in other ages. (i.e. A 16 y.o. boy w/ testosterone rushes is way more difficult than a 16 y.o. girl. On the other hand, there is nothing in the world scarier than a 13 y.o. girl on a hormone rush, and it tends to last for a longer time, and they can hold a grudge like there is no tomorrow.)

[waitngforastar]

Maybe it is because they don't know what a TEENAGE girl is like? lol...