[Betelnut]

Boys, on average, have more developmental, physical and emotional issues. (At least that's what I've always heard.)

On average, I'm saying, so don't flip out and say that your son is perfect--I'm sure he is.

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by waitngforastar

Maybe it is because they don't know what a TEENAGE girl is like? lol...

Or a 6 year old girl...lol...

There are 5 little girls on our street - all 6 years old...

DRAAAMA!!!!!

I have never seen anything like it!

[Stormster]

I'm not sure why but gender preference makes me uber uncomfortable!

[finallyamom0310]

Originally Posted by mdesi

I don't know other people's reasons for wanting a girl over a boy. We are open to both. However, we both want a girl b/c DH already has a boy. We want to do the other girly stuff this time around.

We didn't get to specify with our agency either but we were hoping for girl. For DH it is the same reason as Mdesi listed. For me, it was purely that I was hoping to share my mother (spritually and through lifes lessons that I teach like she did) with my daughter.

[Shadowfaerie]

We were actually the second choice family for our son, the first family chosen passed him by because they wanted a girl. Their loss.

[jren]

I'd heard this before, too. The explanation I remember had something to do with carrying on the "family name" - like with adoption, it was no longer necessary to carry on the family name through genetics, so having a boy was seen as less important for that purpose? This was 5 years ago, so I don't really remember the exact explanation we were given. At any rate, I thought it was a dumb reason (that the agency or article gave). I can see wanting a girl or boy for other reasons - same reasons that bio parents are hoping for one sex over the other. We didn't specify either time.

[Gs_Mom]

We orignally wanted a girl(s). Now that we have two boys, I can't imagine it any other way.

I heard too that the theory is the loss of genetic continuity. I heard too that it was men who had the most difficulty with the issue. (not sure I agree .. its just what I heard.)

A nod to my father-in-law -- we originally were told the birthmother we matched with was having a girl. When we told my in-laws that she found out it was a boy my FIL said "Great. Now we have someone to carry on the family name." I will never forget that. It was such an instinctual reaction, I knew he would accept our child and I had no reason to worry he (DS)would be treated any different by his grandpa. (Now if the boy can't play sports, that will be a different story.)

[loveajax]

Hmmmm...

I can "confess" that although we did not have a gender preference, I wanted a girl. My sister and I are much closer to my parents than my bros. I always "envisioned" doing "girl things" with a daughter (I am not a tomboy really!).

of course, now that I have a girl, I would love a 'mama's boy!" (I think I'll have to settle for my new male puppy when he arrives!).

I think little girls are easier as babies/toddlers (as a general rule....) but I am not looking forward to the teen years. My dad always says that he loved me until I turned 12!

eta: Dh and I do feel some pressure to adopt a boy to contine the family name...his bro and male cousins have girls and are done having kids. ironically, dh is adopted so i don't think it's a thing about carrying on some grand genetic history!

[JenC]

I know around here, it's the assumption (very WRONG!) that all young black males are "thugs".

[SchmennaLeigh]

Originally Posted by Fran27

I think it's because most adoptive parents are women (either married or single really), and they think it would be easier to bond and relate to a girl as they grow up, as it's a 'known territory' as opposed to boys.

This is an interesting concept. And the exact opposite of what I have experienced. I was absolutely afraid to parent my daughter because I feared that I wouldn't bond with her. Very interesting train of thought though, Fran. Got my brain moving.

A note: My daughter's family was open to either gender but wanted a girl because they already had three boys.

[Stormster]

I'm proud E will carry on DH's family name since I think we're pretty much the only ones who will. Also DS looks exactly like his paternal Grandfather, aunt and cousins (not like us) and I'm telling you they have convinced themselves he is their bio relative anyway.

As for the girl/boy thing I used to be a little bit jealous of my best friend's daughter (she's going to be 2) but truth be told I'm helplessly hopelessly in love with my little boy.

And he won't want any of that American Girl stuff which gets mighty pricey!

[slugbug0930]

We really didn't have a preferance and were open to either gender. Though I have to admit I love having a little girl......& the clothes are so much fun!

[Stormster]

See I love little boy clothes. You are forced to get creative!

[finallyamom0310]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

This is an interesting concept. And the exact opposite of what I have experienced. I was absolutely afraid to parent my daughter because I feared that I wouldn't bond with her. Very interesting train of thought though, Fran. Got my brain moving.

A note: My daughter's family was open to either gender but wanted a girl because they already had three boys.

Its funny as although I knew I wanted a little girl to pass family traditions onto I worried about this too. The old saying, "Mama's boy, Daddy's Girl" kept ringing in my mind.

[Fran27]

I really like this thread.

I think Loveajax got a point too, maybe the people who'd rather have a girl have a great relationship with their mom and are hoping for the same thing with a daughter?

Honestly I didn't care about gender. I was never very feminine and I'm more interested in video games than make up, clothes and shoes (sorry for the horrible cliche!) so apart from the cute little clothes having a girl scared me lol. Truth is, in the end it doesn't make a huge difference, you could end up with a boy who likes dolls or a girl who's into physical stuff.