| Welcome to the Forums. | Register |
| If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ. You may have to register before you can post or search: click here to proceed. To start viewing messages, select a forum below that you would like to view or click View All of Todays Posts. | |
| Forum Categories |
|
 |
|
|
Thread Tools | Search this Thread | Display Modes |
|
#1
08-27-2008, 07:13 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
An Interesting Conversation
We never really talk to Em about adoption a whole lot. She knows she is adopted, we read stories (Happy Adoption Day almost every day the first year plus she was with us), we have pictures of us with the judge on “Adoption Day , and I have pictures we sometimes look at of her first parents. It‘s not something we focus on- it’s just kind of a fact in her life. But she never asks about it and it has always worried me that I’m not handling it exactly right. And that I’m going to screw up her whole life somehow. She was adopted from foster care at age 2.5 and we have a closed adoption.
Tonight Emily is getting ready for bed, I’m helping her put on her jammies and I’m combing her hair. We are talking about puppies and mommy doggies and how she wants both because puppies would be sad without their mommies and everybody needs a mommy. So I said, “Em do you know about babies - they grow in their mommy’s tummy” and she said, “yeah”. And I said “But you weren’t in my tummy” and she said “I know that Mommy I was in the other person’s tummy”(so she does understand and remember what we have talked about before). I said “that’s right she was you’re first mommy”. And she looked at me and got a little silly and said “But when I was in the other mommy’s tummy I kept saying let me out I need to go to Suz’s house, I need to be with my mommy and daddy and brothers”. Then I told her, that her first mommy loved her very much and she said “I loved her too but I loved you the most”. I just thought it was very interesting since she has not really talked about it that much but it seemed like she is very secure and happy and comfortable talking about it and she does understand about being adopted .
__________________
"One life you get to do what you should" - U2 Mom to 3 great sons (ages 10, 13, 18)  and one miracle by adoption (It's a girl 7) 
Last edited by SuzBerg : 08-27-2008 at 07:20 PM. 
|
Adoption Information
|
#2
08-27-2008, 07:23 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Ahhh.... such a cute story. " I love you the most" would melt my heart
__________________
3/08 DS born  3/14/08 He's home!! 10/08/08 Finalized!!!!    * From 1st meeting with Agency til baby was at home in our arms was 4 months! God truly blessed our family. We owe EVERYTHING to him *
|
|
#3
08-27-2008, 07:24 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
What a great conversation.
|
|
#4
08-27-2008, 07:25 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Suz~ That is soooo awesome! As a First Mom I must tell you that I hope that my bson feels the way your Em feels in that he loves me but loves his mom most! To me that means she has done the job I asked her to do
Isn't it wonderful that kids have enough love to go around So, So, sweet!Give her a hug from me 
__________________
[/color][/b]Michelle [/color] "I have learned that people won't remember what you said to them, they won't remember what you did to them, but they will always remember how you made them feel"
|
|
#5
08-27-2008, 07:28 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
That was just sweet Suz!
Sounds like she understands about adoption and its really no big deal to her... Great story! Thanks for sharing! S
__________________
1993 decided to start a family 1995 discovered problems 1995-1998 fertility Drs and surgeries 1999-2003 break from it all 2003-2005 thought about adoption but trying to find a way to afford it. 2006 decided to do whatever it took to create a family. Money should not decide a family! January 2006 gathering information applying for homestudy. July 2006 homestudy completed- we are officially waiting! July 06-March 09 Several situations that didn't work out.. Our baby will find us, until then...We are 4-everwaiting for our angel  It finally happened after over 2.5 years of waiting, our angel found us!!! ... Baby Girl Born March 10th! Home forever March 19th, 2009 
|
|
#6
08-27-2008, 07:32 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
And I said “But you weren’t in my tummy” and she said “I know that Mommy I was in the other person’s tummy”(so she does understand and remember what we have talked about before). I said “that’s right she was you’re first mommy”. And she looked at me and got a little silly and said “But when I was in the other mommy’s tummy I kept saying let me out I need to go to Suz’s house, I need to be with my mommy and daddy and brothers”. Then I told her, that her first mommy loved her very much and she said “I loved her too but I loved you the most”.
I just thought it was very interesting since she has not really talked about it that much but it seemed like she is very secure and happy and comfortable talking about it and she does understand about being adopted . Wow..what a wonderful story! Your daughters comments have warmed my heart and BTW: I'm a B-mom. YOUR comments brought tears to my eyes as they were the words I prayed my daughters Mom would say to her one day. I think your daughter is so comfortable with adoption because you are. Thank you for sharing her comments and yours with us. Tracy
__________________
Pay no attention to the Troll 
|
|
#7
08-27-2008, 07:34 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
What a sweet story. I just proves that children typically understand more than what we think they do!
__________________
02/08: decided to adopt- researching which avenue to pursue!! 4/08: application submitted with agency 6/25/08 - officially waiting 6/28/08 - Matched!! 6/28/08 - it's a girl!! She's born!! 6/29/08- We meet the most beautiful baby girl in the world & the amazing mother that gave birth to her!! 7/9 - ICPC has cleared - we can go home!! 2/17/09- Finalized!!! After dealing with infertility, IVF & a miscarriage I finally realize what God had in store for us! What a joyful time to be alive!
|
|
#8
08-27-2008, 09:11 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
That is ridiculously cute and sweet!
__________________
2/07 - Started researching agencies 7/13/07 - Signed with agency 8/07 - 10/07 - Adoption put on hold 12/19/07 - Homestudy complete 2/25/08 - Officially waiting 5/29/08 - Matched!! Due 7/08 6/3/08 - Baby F born. Surprise! 6/7/08 - Adoption plan fell through  7/11/08 - Matched! 20 month old girl and 3 month old boy 7/12/08 - The kids are in our care! Instant Family (just add water)! 3/20/09 - Finalized! We are legally, and in all other ways, a family.  
|
|
#9
08-28-2008, 04:59 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I think she just told you in so many words that you're doing exactly the right things Suz.
__________________
Homestudy started 7/06 Homestudy finished 8/06 Officially waiting 9/12/06 Matched and met our beautiful baby girl 3/25/07 Finalized!!!! 10-25-07 
|
|
#10
08-28-2008, 05:02 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Suz I cant' imagine how wonderful that must feel.
__________________
“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” - Barbara Kingsolver "If you have love, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." - Sir James M. Barrie "Nothing's gonna change my world." - John Lennon
|
|
#11
08-28-2008, 06:28 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Suz, what an absolutely beautiful story!! I think you obviously have captured that elusive "balance" that I know I strive for with DD! Yeah!
|
|
#12
08-28-2008, 06:32 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
What a smart and sweet little girl-it seems you are doing everything right
|
|
#13
08-28-2008, 08:48 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
What a nice story. More tips for me on when i have that proper talk with her. Right now DD is just 2 and i read adoption stories to her. :-)
|
|
«
Previous Thread
|
Next Thread
»
| Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests) | |
| Thread Tools | Search this Thread |
| Display Modes | |
Linear Mode
|
|
All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:43 PM.
