[aclee]

Originally Posted by makarios79

Just like my parents told me when I was in their house, you can do whatever you want to when you leave.... But as long as it's my house, it's my rules...simple as that

I'm not trying to protect them from becoming anything....after all (according to popular thinking anyway)..you are going to be who you are anyway RIGHT?!?!?

The majority of the toys in my house are what you would consider "boy toys" and the only "girl toys" are those of my niece and my boys aren't allowed to play with any of her stuff regardless of what it is, just for the simple fact that they are not all that gentle with handling and often break her things.

If you want to, good for you....i think everyone should be free to raise their children how they want to, as long as they aren't abusing them. But it doesn't mean I have to or that my children are any worst or better of..it's just the way it is in my house simply put....

I agree...Everyone makes their own choices as a parent...I'm just not an "it's that way because I say so" sort of Mom...maybe I over think everything I make every choice I make for Tyler, for a reason.

[aclee]

Originally Posted by Vogi2002

Though they do love those strollers....

Clearly Ty is going to need a stroller for Christmas...I think I'll tell his Auntie that...she will be TICKLED that she can buy him a baby doll stroller. Course I think she was going to buy him a vacuum anyway...

[SupaModel]

I personally feel that sexual orientation is something that you are born with. Now later if my son came to me and said he was gay. I have NO PROBLEM at all with that. I would love him no matter. If my son came to me and said he felt he was transgender I have NO PROBLEM with that. Again I understand that this is something that your born with.


However, I stand by what I said earlier I will not be dressing him in dresses, my shoes, my make-up etc... that is something I don't agree with. I do have that right don't I?

[OakShannon]

I have my own issues with barbies and Bratz. I don't like the way those dolls are designed. But there are many types of family dolls that kids can use with blocks or a dollhouse and I think there is a lot of value in the kind of play where they get to take on the roles of different members of a family. Kids learn so much through that kind of play. It not only lets them explore family roles and dynamics, but the process of creating and acting out a story actually helps develop pre-reading and comprehension skills.

My son is the person that he is. I can love, nurture and appreciate him. I can help teach and guide him. But I cannot make him something that he isn't - no matter what toy I give or refuse him or what interests I allow or discourage. I always want my son to know that I love and accept him unconditionally - whether he turns out to be a rough and tumble boy or a child who wants to wear my dresses and heels.

[aclee]

Originally Posted by SupaModel

I personally feel that sexual orientation is something that you are born with. Now later if my son came to me and said he was gay. I have NO PROBLEM at all with that. I would love him no matter. If my son came to me and said he felt he was transgender I have NO PROBLEM with that. Again I understand that this is something that your born with.


However, I stand by what I said earlier I will not be dressing him in dresses, my shoes, my make-up etc... that is something I agree with. I do have that right don't I?

I asked before and you didn't answer (I don't think you saw it) I know that you have said that H will be an only, so you wouldn't have girls dress up clothes at your house, but say you are at a friends house, and H is a little older. The kids go off an play, and they play dress up and they all come back and laughing and laughing and they are all wearing dresses...Clearly YOU didn't put him in it, but would you make him take it off?

[aclee]

Originally Posted by OakShannon

I have my own issues with barbies and Bratz.

Everytime I see a Barbie I remind myself if she exsisted as a real person, her waist would snap and she would fall over and die. Then I always feel better...

Seriously have you ever spent time trying to get a pair of skin tight pants on a Barbie...trying to get the little waist over her hips. It's hard.

[makarios79]

Originally Posted by aclee

I'm just not an "it's that way because I say so" sort of Mom...maybe I over think everything I make every choice I make for Tyler, for a reason.

Nor do you have to be... There is no "one size fit all parenting" strategy that assures success for every kid....I wish these little ones did come with an instruction manual...lol

We all overthink things as parents....and no one person is going to do something the same way some other parent would....Doesn't make either way wrong or right.....

I am positive you are a GREAT MOM! I read lots of your post..I can just tell...lol

[SupaModel]

Originally Posted by aclee

I asked before and you didn't answer (I don't think you saw it) I know that you have said that H will be an only, so you wouldn't have girls dress up clothes at your house, but say you are at a friends house, and H is a little older. The kids go off an play, and they play dress up and they all come back and laughing and laughing and they are all wearing dresses...Clearly YOU didn't put him in it, but would you make him take it off?

It really depends on the situation. Would I go out and buy him dresses and stuff? NO! Also I think age plays a role. If he's 1 or 2 an playing with my shoes etc.. then no i don't have a problem with it. If he's older then yes I do have a problem.

[OakShannon]

Originally Posted by SupaModel

I personally feel that sexual orientation is something that you are born with. Now later if my son came to me and said he was gay. I have NO PROBLEM at all with that. I would love him no matter. If my son came to me and said he felt he was transgender I have NO PROBLEM with that. Again I understand that this is something that your born with.


However, I stand by what I said earlier I will not be dressing him in dresses, my shoes, my make-up etc... that is something I don't agree with. I do have that right don't I?

Of course you have that right. He's your child. I might just wonder what about that seems wrong to you given that it is a very common type of play at a certain age. He would probably just be exploring what it would be like to be YOU and you will be the person who makes his world feel safe and secure. He will look up to you greatly. You might also consider what message it will send if you refuse or act upset at this type of play, because very young children don't have the same baggage around gender and gender roles that adults do and so he won't understand why it's wrong.

[aclee]

Originally Posted by SupaModel

It really depends on the situation. Would I go out and buy him dresses and stuff? NO! Also I think age plays a role. If he's 1 or 2 an playing with my shoes etc.. then no i don't have a problem with it. If he's older then yes I do have a problem.

No I don't antcipate going out and buying Ty the full line of princess dress up clothes either, but eventually when there are boys and girls in this house, everything is fair game In my experience wearing Mom and Dad's shoes usually goes till about 3...

[SupaModel]

Originally Posted by aclee

No I don't antcipate going out and buying Ty the full line of princess dress up clothes either, but eventually when there are boys and girls in this house, everything is fair game In my experience wearing Mom and Dad's shoes usually goes till about 3...

Between 1-3 yrs old I can deal with. Now if he was republican that's something we could NOT accept!!

[nikkianni]

My brothers would SO love that I'm about to tell this story.

My Grandma used to keep a dress up box for us kids. Most of the clothes in it were hers. Beautifuly old cocktail dresses, furs (it was a different time), etc.
There were a few "boy" things like ties or vests.
There are pictures of my manly man brothers in full flapper mode complete with strands of pearls and glittery hats. They're hilarious.
They wanted to be included in what we girls were doing at the time, and that happened to be dress up. If I remember correctly, they were normally spies in disguise or something to that effect.
These are the boys who grew up playing football and baseball.
I don't think it's a boy/girl thing. I think it's a kid thing.

[aclee]

Originally Posted by SupaModel

Between 1-3 yrs old I can deal with. Now if he was republican that's something we could NOT accept!!

Doesn't being republician and wearing high heels go hand in hand? Maybe we should worry if our boys wear heels?

[SupaModel]

Originally Posted by aclee

Doesn't being republician and wearing high heels go hand in hand? Maybe we should worry if our boys wear heels?

Hahaha.... Oh my god Aclee you little minx

[Stormster]

Originally Posted by aclee

Why do they all look happy, but the CC one looks like it's screaming?

ROFL! Actually they don't make the toddler toy in boy only the baby and I want the toddler!