[fisbaby]

So I read through the forums usually daily but I don't know why today's just got me thinking. I read Crick's thread and I guess it just started really making me think about helping my little guy to understand where he came from. I mean he's not even a year and we have had him since the day he was born but he does have a half sibling too. I just started crying and called my DH asking him if he worried about it. I know he's right in that he'll be ok b/c he knows how very much we love him. We tell him that and show him that constantly. Sometimes I read an adoption book to him or tell him how glad I am he was given to us but I wonder at what point do you start talking about it more or do you just know the right time? I just want him to be ok, I don't want him to ever ever doubt how much we love him ya know?

[Stormster]

Yes I know. I think you actually cut to the core of my feelings on the matter. I want him to feel in his life that the fact that he's adopted didn't mean he was less loved.

You should read Belle's blog. Because she knows how it feels to be an adoptee AND she feels extremely loved by her parents. She's crazy about them.

Read positive adoptee stories. There are many and I find them very healing. Yeah there are harsh realities to face but overall it's going to be fine! Promise

[fisbaby]

Thanks Stormster, you always have the right words! I want him to know we love him and I want him to keep on loving us .... I know he will in my heart, just have to not worry about it!

[RobinKay]

Originally Posted by fisbaby

So I read through the forums usually daily but I don't know why today's just got me thinking. I read Crick's thread and I guess it just started really making me think about helping my little guy to understand where he came from. I mean he's not even a year and we have had him since the day he was born but he does have a half sibling too. I just started crying and called my DH asking him if he worried about it. I know he's right in that he'll be ok b/c he knows how very much we love him. We tell him that and show him that constantly. Sometimes I read an adoption book to him or tell him how glad I am he was given to us but I wonder at what point do you start talking about it more or do you just know the right time? I just want him to be ok, I don't want him to ever ever doubt how much we love him ya know?

My dh was adopted at a couple of weeks old. He said he has always known he was adopted--cannot remember ever not knowing. My in-laws read him his little adoption book, loved him and raised him. His siblings were also adopted. None of them had issues about it or wanted to search.

Love your little one, read your book to him and just live your life. We can't control what the future will bring, but we can do our best today to love each other and take care of our children.

[finallyamom0310]

You actually hit it right on the head for me as well. I think as aparents we all worry about when to talk to our kids about it and how to make sure they know that we don't love them any less etc.

I also read a lot on adoption and have had so many fears lately that talking to DD is going to be tough even in an OA and with visits etc. Hugs coming your way.

[feelingreyt]

Sometimes I feel panicky when I think about how my baby is going to handle being the only child out of 4 adopted out. All I can do is love him, love him and love his some more. Which is the easy part!!
My son will know very young about his bsisters(his bmom's children. Don't have a clue about bdad & his other bios). In fact, we have visits with them already. I don't call them his sisters, we just refer to them by their names, but he will know who they are. We are related to them, he has to know.
We live totally different lives than his biofamily. I sometimes worry about the girls seeing how his life is so different and have issues with that themselves.
Yeah, I have my moments too. My heart feels for you!