[huggableteach]

I like the following book (and the rest of the series) I often recommend it to the parents I work with and they seem to like it. As a not yet parent myself I can't testify to its efficacy in the home, but I like what it has to say. Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years--Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful (Positive Discipline Library)
by Jane Ed.D. Nelsen (Author), Cheryl Erwin (Author), Roslyn Ann Duffy (Author

[mondk]

Sorry I just saw this thread...I just posted my own Jekyll and Hyde thread about my Joshie...and he is only 13 months! I have the feeling I'm really in for it!

Blessings, Michelle

[bajj]

We're at the tail end of 3 and he is still that way. If we are not in public I ignore his fit and it stops almost as soon as it started. If we are in public I take him to either the bathroom or the van and then ignore him until it ends. When he's done, we talk about appropriate ways to ask for things. Someday, MAYBE it will sink in. I keep having to remind myself, as bad as it is with him, it was even worse when his bro was that age and now that he's 7, it's not like that...although it is a whole new set of challenge.

[swd]

I've seen in other forums people have recommended Love & Logic. I just got the book and the basic premise seems to be to give your toddler lots of choices (everything from what to wear to what to eat and what to play with). The key is to give choices on things that don't matter to you and the two choices obviously should be something you can live with. (NOT "do you want to eat cauliflower or cookies for dinner?" but "do you want carrots or broccoli for your vegetable?")

That way, when they want something they can't have, you give them a choice of things they can have. If there's a temper tantrum, the choice offered is a time-out in their bedroom with the door open or shut. Then don't let them out til they're calm again.

Haven't tried it yet, as my LO is only 8 months, but it sounds reasonable to me!

Good luck!

[sadiegirl]

ROFLMAO

Not AT you Denice but WITH you.

I have several friends with 3 yo's and also belong to some mommy boards and this is SOP for 3.

My DS has been horrible as well...I also cried one day a few weeks ago, Ajax! I mean, it IS horrible, it makes you feel like you're not a good parent.

The choices don't work for my DS...I will say, "do you want XYZ or ABC"? He just says, no! He doesn't want ANY choice.

I hear 123Magic is pretty good. I've read parts of it but haven't put it into practice...yet.

[maricela]

NOOOOO....not sweet little Kelcee!!!

Yup...been there STILL doing that!!! I posted something similar about Daniella a couple of years ago & I just found the post in Archive. I don't know how to link it but I got alot of great advise back then.

Just keep doing what you're doing!! You know what I'm dealing with right now also. I'm right there with ya!!

Good luck!!