[mommieof2cuties]

Originally Posted by ProspectiveSingleMom

Wow -- I've heard of people who don't know their b-day choosing a date (i.e. children in countries where birth registration isn't universal), but to purposely lie to your kid about their b-day! And to do it for such a frivilous reason on top of it!

I am sorry but I am so sick over the fact that you can change a birthday! A birthday is such a special day for everyone and to take that way? We do birthdays, and even do the I got you days, we find a reason in our household to always have a cake! I jsut don't get the change the birthday thing at all!!!

Summer

[aclee]

Originally Posted by HansenFamAZ

...she has placed the last 6 children for adoption. She notes the pregnancy to be a surprise...

WHAT? How do you place 6 children and still get surprised by a pregnancy? Were the other 6 that she placed planned?? I've heard of women using abortion almost like birth control, so I guess there are families that use adoption like that too.

I couldn't say for sure if these parents are even "making" anything off this. It could well be that the agency is jacking up the price for other reasons...the "difficult" nature of the parents, and they could also charge more because let's face it, for PAP's this looks as close to a "sure thing" as it gets. The agency is even trying to market it in that way, so they know they will get more for the security of the situation as they are presenting it.

Shame on everyone...all around.

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by MamaS

A good reason would be a child having a birthdate too near Christmas, or a parent wanting a child to be able to postpone school for a year, or (this was my godchild) the parents wanted the bd moved from October to July because pool parties were so easy to do for birthdays. The judge did it and took six months off the child's real age.

These are "good" reasons? If I didn't "know" you to be so honest, I would think you were making this up!!

My boys both have birthdays close to Christmas - I can't fathom being of the mindset that "this" would be worthy of a b-day switch...

In fact, I honestly can't say I think ANY reason would be good enough (although there may be some good reasons and I just can't get over my surprise long enough to think of one...)

From an adoption standpoint, I'd have to say out of all the things that birthparents take exception with (justifiably so - not being snarky here), this would have to be one of the biggest slaps in the face.

Wow - never in my life heard of such a thing...I'm kind of in shock right now...

[thanksgivingmom]

I would just DIE if Cupcake's Mom tried to move her birthday!

None of the reasons make sense to me....pool parties?? Holidays??? Sorry, none of it works. (And while I'm sure it's not the "reason" let's not forget having kids be "younger" to play HS sports!)

I know of one person who doesn't know his birthday. He was never adopted but he was born in a country that didn't keep a good registry. His mom knew his birthday but passed away when he was young. His father didn't know his birthday (even what year he was born!) and to this day he doesn't know his bday or how old he is (though he believes in his young 30's).

That is a TRAGEDY.

To take that information away on PURPOSE??? Inexcusable.

[paigeturner]

TGM - I was told when I began my search that my son's birthdate may have been changed at adoption to protect "my" privacy! That was only 25 years ago.

These reasons listed are plain silly and I can't believe the courts would allow it! Pool parties? Unbelievable.

[thanksgivingmom]

Ugh Paige, so ridiculous. And I love how the reason is twisted to make it seem like it's for your benefit. Classic!

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by paigeturner

TGM - I was told when I began my search that my son's birthdate may have been changed at adoption to protect "my" privacy! That was only 25 years ago.

These reasons listed are plain silly and I can't believe the courts would allow it! Pool parties? Unbelievable.

Kinda makes you bow your head in shame at the audacity of our fellow man...

[ProspectiveSingleMom]

Ya know, if it's okay to change an adopted child's b-day becase it's too close to Christmas, then why don't ALL parents get that option (including those who are raising their bkids)? It's bad enough that these laws are still on the books, but the fact that people still take advantage of them completely floors me.

[aclee]

Ty's birthday is a month after Christmas...I figure that's worse than actually right near Christmas because a month later everyone's Visa bills have come rolling it. Most important in my son's life? The amount of presents he gets...I'm totally changing it.



Since I'm changing it anyway, I WILL go for a summer birthday, because the summer parties at a park are way cheaper than renting a place for the kids to run around. I think I'll pick an early June birthday. Then he gets the warm weather, but doesn't miss out on bringing cupcakes to his school to be celebrate with his class.

I have it all planned out. I will MAKE him perfect!

As far as bio parents getting to change a birthday? They got to PICK the month they would deliver...if they aren't happy, they should have planned better

Okay...I'm rolling on the floor now. I can't honestly believe this really still happens. (especially if it's happening under the disguise of those "good" reasons!) I know it happened way back when (and it WASN'T for anyone's "protection" but the aparents...sick!) BUT I really thought people realized this sort of thing was part of the closed era, and an HUGE ethical no-no now? They don't? Sad...maybe these are the same people that don't even tell the kids they are adopted.

[paigeturner]

Hey! This should mean that I should be able to change my birthdate...to 1974 - Because I want to be 10 years younger. Why not?

[Tazer]

Originally Posted by aclee

Ty's birthday is a month after Christmas...I figure that's worse than actually right near Christmas because a month later everyone's Visa bills have come rolling it. Most important in my son's life? The amount of presents he gets...I'm totally changing it.



Since I'm changing it anyway, I WILL go for a summer birthday, because the summer parties at a park are way cheaper than renting a place for the kids to run around. I think I'll pick an early June birthday. Then he gets the warm weather, but doesn't miss out on bringing cupcakes to his school to be celebrate with his class.

I have it all planned out. I will MAKE him perfect!

As far as bio parents getting to change a birthday? They got to PICK the month they would deliver...if they aren't happy, they should have planned better

Okay...I'm rolling on the floor now. I can't honestly believe this really still happens. (especially if it's happening under the disguise of those "good" reasons!) I know it happened way back when (and it WASN'T for anyone's "protection" but the aparents...sick!) BUT I really thought people realized this sort of thing was part of the closed era, and an HUGE ethical no-no now? They don't? Sad...maybe these are the same people that don't even tell the kids they are adopted.

OK...new Mom here; baby was born July 26 as a preemie so I'm changing it, ok? I'm making him late, very late think I'll call my job and tell him he won't be born until Sept. 30th.and I won't be back until mid-Feb. Oh but he's our final production and I want him to be a baby for a long time, Ok I'll change the year to 2010. Oh shoots that means I'll be 40, well if I'll be old I might as well go for the gusto. So:

Announcing Baby Aidan's Birth!! DOB>> 9/30/2027

Altered at Mommy's request (subject to change without notice.)

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by Tazer

Ok I'll change the year to 2010. Oh shoots that means I'll be 40, well if I'll be old I might as well go for the gusto. So:

Announcing Baby Aidan's Birth!! DOB>> 9/30/2027

:

I think you're missing the point here, Tazer, if you can change Aiden's Birthdate to 2027, you can certainly change yours to 2002!!!

[leenie71]

I know which "agency" this is and saw the posting myself. I was floored by the cost....I thought it was just me! Obviously, there are people who can afford a ridiculous "fee" amount....yeah, just what are the fees for? I want to email them and see how they justify the cost. This is a total FOR-PROFIT situation. I'm sure the agency doesn't mind that the bmom keeps getting pregnant....more money for them.

Whoever pays this amount, even if they have it, is completely out of their mind and is just encouraging this practice.

[ChromaKelly]

I have seen the exact same "situation" you posted and could not shake it for days. Seriously, WTH??? The fees are outrageous. I have to wonder if that couple gets some kind of kickback.

[proudmum]

Ok,,, iam DISGUSTED that the "couple" changed their childs birthdate so they had "TWINS" i cannot believe some people,,,,, i am so shocked at this one..

As for the ad,, i am disgusted too.... we are in NZ and we do NOT pay anything for our adoptions,, we only pay for ours and bmoms lawyers fees which came to $500.00 (US) for us.
Only one department does adoptions and that is government run,,, we are not allowed to give any member of the birthfamily money or anything for that matter,,, if we did adoption would be cancelled,,, we are not allowed to "advertise". if we are adopting through family or someone we know , it still has to go through this department and believe me we get throughly "screened".....
Mind you we are a small country ( whole countrys population is a bit less then the population of Los Angeles LOL) and adoptions are not very common at all... but still i dont think anyone should have to pay any of these agency fees that i am hearing you talk about,,,
It makes me so sad,,, after all its all about the child and i cant believe people would want to make money off of them,,,