[DancinBear63]

We've finished our profiles, turned in our paperwork, and are counting down the hours until our home visit tomorrow. I am absolutely feeling ill right now, realizing that THIS IS FOR REAL!!!

You'd think that by now I'd have learned to relax, but I haven't been this nervous in a long time. I've read so many posts that say that the home visit isn't bad, and that re-grouting the tub isn't necessary. Still, DH and I have become absolute lunatics- well, maybe just me. For reasons that we've not figured out yet, we got a bug to paint the room that will eventually become our office, and I am scrutinizing every picture in the profile (again).

Please tell me that I'm not alone here.
Yikes! If I'm this wound up now, how will I handle waiting after we're homestudy approved?

[djvj]

i'm a bmom not an amom but i am sure if i were going through this process i would be absolutely be just as stressed/worried and scared as you are....this is such an important thing in your life and having a stranger come evaluate you is intimidating!

i wish you the best of luck, and hope you let us know how it goes...

[Adopted-B-4]

You are definitely not alone! I think we all get nervous and crazy and excited each step closer. It does get better. I felt the same way though, like everything in the house had to be perfect and I must have second guessed myself a million times about our lifebook. Honestly, the homestudy was great both time. It was more like a conversation and visit from a new neighbor or something, it wasn't as in-depth as you might think. Good luck and try not to worry!

[GuatMommy2Be]

I just wanted to say, IT'LL BE FINE! It's perfectly normal to be feeling like this... it's a huge step! I hope your visit goes smoothly and post here when you're done!

[adoptingourfirst]

Just in case you were still wondering! It's perfectly normal to be freaking out - or at least that's what everyone told me when we went through the H.S. I cleaned our house like we were putting it on the market and everything in it! It was spotless. Our S.W. spent all of about 5 minutes walking through the entire house! She didn't notice that there wasn't a hint of dust, no smudges on the windows from our dogs noses, or that miraculously all of the laundry was done and put away properly!

You will do fine, I'm sure your home is fine...RELAX! Be yourself, it will all be over soon!

[cbrink7]

I just wanted to let you know that we had out last visit last night (the home visit) and as I has straighting the table for the 100th time DH says-"I think you are thinking about this too much" to which I agreed, so you are not alone!

The visit went great and our SW (who helped make it great ! ) informed us that we are approved to adopt, so I guess it went as good as it could have lol I must say though that when she mentioned going ahead and buying a car seat I was in a "wow" state of mind that we WILL have our baby home soon YAY!!!

Good luck!

[Stormster]

memories! I remember we cleaned the house and then I messed it up again so we wouldn't look rigid and like clean freaks. I bought this huge expensive organic fruit salad, some fresh flowers and chocolate chip cookies but she only had one cookie and we were so chummy by the end I gave her the fruit salad to take home!

Try to relax. After all they are meant to be seeing the REAL you! I think most SWers can sense when people aren't being themselves. Good luck!

[Fran27]

It's totally normal. And a good thing. Double happy feeling - homestudy done AND a clean house

[DancinBear63]

Thanks everyone, we survived!!!

I think part of the issue is that we just don't feel like we 'click' with our SW. We really do trust her, and sense that she will do what is best for all parties involved, but it's somewhat awkward at times. She gave much more loving attention to our cat than to us.

Like you all said, there was no white-glove inspection. She was more interested in the purpose of each of the rooms, and how she'd write it up. After that, we sat down to go over some more questions. For me, one of the hardest ones was about my relationship with my brother. He's 7 years younger, still 'finding himself', and lives 400 miles from here- what can I say? Also, we felt that we had to defend our racial preference again (which I am NOT getting into again today, sorry).

I still feel sick to my stomach...DH and I are going to go out for dinner. Maybe I just need dessert to feel better.

Thanks again!