[paeju2]

Hi everyone! I am so happy I found this place. I have a baby boy "promised" to me by the emom next week. She's 39 weeks, and we have been talking over the phone almost everyday. She is 17 yo and is looking forward for an open adoption (which we are too) It seems that she was working with an agency and couldn't find any good match. She found us through my boss (that is her uncle)...anyway...I am scared...My husband and I are ecstatic...we do not have a dieper, and I am soooooooo afraid to go out and get it! And there is so much to be done! I would like to breastfeed him if everything is ok..anyway...I am just scared, I have hear of so many negative stories....any counseling on what to do? Please help...

[HappyTwinsMom]

Try not to focus too much on the negative stories you hear. Most adoptions go smoothly, but you never hear the positive stuff, right?

Hopefully, things will run along nicely for you and you'll have a baby boy in your arms in no time at all.

Hang in there!

[startedover]

Congratulations and I agree... Don't focus on the bad.
Kudos to you for breastfeeding. I was offered by my pediatrician to try that but I had breastfeed my two bio kids and thought I would enjoy the freedom of not with my ad (because I only had 5 days notice till her birth and didn't think I had time to get the ball rolling) WEll in hind sight I wish I had. She was a projectile spitter for a few months. Good luck and don't get discouraged

[evillemomndad]

Wanted to send huge congrats to you!

[jency]

Here's a positive story: We were matched and had our baby in our arms within 72 days of being advertised by our agency. From talking with the bmom, she sounded very sure of her decision. She signed the TPR within 48 hours and only requested pictures once a year if we were comfortable with that which of course we are. We're all from Arizona, a state that does not allow bparents to change their minds so we're now only waiting for a court date for finalization. It couldn't have gone any smoother. Even with the baby's name since she also picked the name that my husband and I already decided on. Other coincidences; is that my maiden name is the first 4 letters of her first name, and that baby was born on the 26th which is also my husband's DOB and our anniversary. Since things happened so fast, I'm so glad that we purchased everything ahead of time. Good luck and stay positive!

[devildogwife]

Hang in there! Baby boys are the best.

[Tigger2]

Congratulations on your match! As others have said, try not to focus on the negatives.

Remember to breathe, get plenty of rest and you might consider buying a few things ahead of time.

Wishing you the best! Don't forget to keep us updated.

[jalapeno]

Well, I wouldn't worry about not having stuff anyway. We had slightly less than 2 HOURS notice when we were placed with our first foster baby. We had no experience as parents and no supplies because we really didn't expect to be placed with a two day old infant. We had a great time with the SHOPPING SPREE! Turns out most newborn infants actually "need" very little other than every ounce of your time and enery.

Congrats! Oh, and try to get some sleep.

[paeju2]

Uau everyone!!! I got lost on the site yesterday and couldn't find my posting again...lol...but I've got it now....uau...you are great, thanks for all the positive energy...I've got a bunch of presents yeterday, and got some milk and bottles! I want to be looking at those little objects over and over again, imagining my baby boy. Tomorrow I am going to meet with the BMOM, she actually has some things she wants me to buyfrom her...I am taking everything...the agent said it is a good move, because it helps her feel important....I am very nervoud for the meeting tomorrow, but I have faith that everything will go smoth..I'll keep you all posted...thaks a looot for the rteplies, they were veeery important to me!

[fisbaby]

Congratulations! I hope things go smoothly for your family, just try to stay positive. Enjoy baby shopping!

[Isabo]

I will be thinking about you, the expectant mother and the baby and sending good thoughts that the situation works out best for all concerned, whether that be that the mother decides to relinquish or to parent.

If you have not yet done so, I encourage you to speak with the emom about whether or not you will attend the birth and what your role there will be. This time in the hospital during labor, delivery and afterward will be the emom's time to be Mom and Mother to her child, and it is an important time for her and the baby. I was also 17 when I relinquished, and I had no idea what the impact of relinquishment would be on me or my child - an impact that will last the rest of our lives. I did not begin to understand what a huge decision I was making. I thought I did, but I didn't. I was blessed to be able to spend 5 days in the hospital with my son - 5 days where I was Mom. That time was important for me to bond with my son and for me to say goodbye. Please give your child's Mother the space to do that, whether she realizes that she needs that space or not. I know that will be an exciting time for you, and you will want to start bonding with the baby immediately, but please step back and let her have her time with her child, without pressure. That time will be a special memory that she will treasure the rest of her life.

My best wishes to all of you,

[slugbug0930]

My advice is as follows......since we recently went through a short notice kind of adoption too I had similar fears.....

Don't rush out and buy everything. Buy a package of diapers.....not multiple.....because you may decide that you don't like that brand and you may be stuck with a whole lot of diapers you don't like. We bought a small package of 2 or 3 kinds to try them out and figure out which we liked best.

Same goes for bottles......buy just a couple of each kind until you figure out which type work best for your baby. We ended up with about 2 dozen regular bottles that we can't use because she gets too much air and thus an upset tummy. We had to go and buy all new bottles.

Don't go crazy with buying clothes as you never know how big the baby is going to be and you don't want to buy something that maybe too small. I had some items that she never got to wear as she was too big for them right from the start. Plus if you have a "baby party" friends & coworkers love to buy cute clothes for the baby. I also had several coworkers that have babies the right ages for hand-me downs.

Best of luck to you