[i.mom]

I have been reading alot of the posts here and wondering what opinions are about communication with your agency.

We were matched almost 3 weeks ago-financially and contractually if you know what I mean. I'm pretty sure that I recall being told that I would get medical info immediately and calls weekly to update and check-in regarding appts, etc...

Each week we have had a "new" caseworker and no one seems to know what is going on, or where exactly the file is, or everyone is STILL on the phone...It is so frustrating and feels soooo awkward. (Like a bad lifetime movie...) OBTW, baby will be born end of July.

I don't want to be a pain in the #$%, but I would like to have some info!

How often to do you try to maintain contact with the case worker?? Am I asking for too much?? I'm kinda feeling like I'm losing my marbles!!! Does anyone out there know what this like???

[slugbug0930]

I understand where you are coming from.....not becasue our agency was unresponsive but just because it is really hard not to worry and need the info everyday!

Our agency has always been very good. Both the caseworker for the birthmom and our caseworker are always were very prompt in returning our calls or emails. Of course they can only pass along the information that they have but if they didn't know they always told us that they were waiting for the answers and let us know right when they found out.

Just keep calling or emailing & hopefully they will pick up the slack on their end and start giving you the information that you request when it becomes available to them.

[bromanchik]

I have to wonder, other than verification that this mom is pregnant, what kind of information you are expecting to get. Medical information is private and confidental. A match does not entitle you to medical updates or other personal information.

[Fran27]

Originally Posted by bromanchik

I have to wonder, other than verification that this mom is pregnant, what kind of information you are expecting to get. Medical information is private and confidental. A match does not entitle you to medical updates or other personal information.

In lots of agencies, yes it does. Obviously it doesn't always mean the information is correct, but they are supposed to give you the information that they have.

i.mom, my guess is that they are very busy, and mostly that the birth being so far away, they probably don't consider it an emergency, considering that you're already matched anyway. I would keep calling and leaving messages though.

[Cjmeck]

Originally Posted by bromanchik

I have to wonder, other than verification that this mom is pregnant, what kind of information you are expecting to get. Medical information is private and confidental. A match does not entitle you to medical updates or other personal information.

The day we were matched, our agency sent us our daughter's bmom's medical/family/social history. It is very relevant to your child's life and your decision on whether or not to move forward. This approach was standard to all of the agencies that we talked to in our research process. I'm sure they take HIPPA laws into consideration, however, I assume that the emom's must sign a disclosure/waiver of some sort.

Our match time was very short before birth (less than 24hours!). However, our agency explained to us that after they sent the packet of history info, that we likely would not hear anything back from them until emom went into labor. So, it can be quite normal, although nerve wracking, to just sit and wait. No news is good news, I think...

Congrats on your match!