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05-27-2008, 01:19 PM
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Hopeful aparents and networking...
I would love to hear thoughts on this from all sides.
Expectant mom upset by offensive offer | Top Stories | NWCN.com | Northwest News and Weather Basically the story is that a waitress who is 5 months pregnant and not wearing her wedding ring was left a note along with her tip saying that the couple was happily married, financially secure and hoping to adopt a child. This was written on the biz card of their attny along with their phone numbers. Is this going too far?
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05-27-2008, 01:25 PM
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I think this is incredibly presumptuious (spelling?). I'd have been offended too...
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05-27-2008, 01:32 PM
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i'll have the prime rib, oh and, yeah i'll take that kid of yours...eeeeek. totally and completely unacceptable, imo.
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05-27-2008, 01:46 PM
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Ok, I didn't read the article but that is way out of line! To bad you can't report people like that to a bar association or the BBB! I know we can get desperate sometimes but come on.
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05-27-2008, 01:48 PM
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That is way out of line. Most women stop wearing their wedding bands while pregnant because it no longer fits! I know it is hard to wait, but come on, just think of how that poor mother feels!
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05-27-2008, 01:50 PM
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I have to say I'm not really offended as a bmom - If I were pg, considering adoption and this happened, these folks wouldn't get a second thought...
I'm more offended as a woman (who is not married) more than anything. Since when can't single women raise a child - or that they consider adoption?
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05-27-2008, 01:57 PM
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What's next? Couples going into Babies R Us trying to "filter out" pg women shopping there? Or gee, the local OB office?
Gawd!
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05-27-2008, 02:03 PM
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Wow, this is AMAZINGLY offensive in my book. It's incredibly presumptious to EVER assume that ANY woman you meet who is pregnant is considering adoption, no matter what her job/age/ringed state.
Yikes. I have to admit though that I just don't "get" networking. My agency doesn't promote it, and I don't think I'd feel comfortable with it, even in cases that weren't as egregiously rude as this one.
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05-27-2008, 02:05 PM
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Yikes, this is really horrid!
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05-27-2008, 02:06 PM
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Yikes! That goes beyond presumptuous. Do these people not understand the word "boundaries"? I automatically assume that any pregnant woman (regardless of her age or presumed marital status) is going to parent - unless she says otherwise.
Too rude! I hope the waitress called the attorney and complained about this behavior. (Sorry, I didn't time to read the articular - if it has the answer!)
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05-27-2008, 02:09 PM
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Too far and very presumptuous. Have these people never been around pregnant women before? My SIL's all had to take off their rings at about 5 months. It hurt their fingers. Major jump to conclusions.
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05-27-2008, 02:11 PM
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That's just going too far. Handing cards to random pregnant women seems kinda stalkerish to me.
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05-27-2008, 02:20 PM
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Well.
Ok...let me play 'devils advocate' for just a sec. She's 5 mos pregnant? At five months, I wasn't showing all that much - and even if I was a bit, you couldn't specifically tell I was pregnant. Maybe the couple just happened to leave the card on the table of what turned out to be a pregnant server...but they didn't do it on purpose. Remember, all the networking books tell couples to do just that...hand them to servers, check out clerks, bank tellers...everyone. I have to think that's what happened....I have to, because if it is anything but that, I might throw up.
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05-27-2008, 02:23 PM
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Yes, for sure way TOO far! This is totally inconsiderate and demeaning. I am glad this couple made this public... Maybe this attorney's office will think twice about who they represent... Tacky! Totally Tacky!
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05-27-2008, 02:35 PM
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Very tacky...very weird. And, I'm with Oceans, what bothers me the most is who cares if she's single? And while I've been happily married for 24 years, I haven't worn a wedding ring for over 20. I just don't like jewelry. I thought about getting one tatooed on once, but then I thought that maybe my 2nd husband wouldn't be too thrilled...so I stay ringless.
Interesting that the couple hasn't responded to calls from King 5 for comment. I'd love to hear their justification...
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