[o2b30again]

Ok so our case is finally wrapping up and it is looking like our new children will FINALLY be coming I am sure that when we are introduced we will be introduced as "friends" of the social worker. At least that is what they are telling me they are going to do. Not sure if this is the best but I don't know what else to recommend. They are young...as you can see in my signature. I was thinking that momma crystal and daddy mike...what is your experience with this? I want to be able to talk to the children about their other parents and want to call them "momma_____" etc So would it be confusing for them to call me Mom as well? Please send any advice.

Also we know this is a permanate placement so can I ask the social worker to introduce us as "Momma Crystal"

Thanks!

[Lilly's Mommy]

Congratulations! You must be getting so excited!

I have no personal experience with this, so take my advice with that in mind. I think your idea of "Mama Crystal" is a good one. I have also heard of families starting out with using their first names, and letting the children know that they can call them mom/mommy dad/daddy as they feel comfortable doing so. That may be better with older children though.

It would certainly be worth asking your social worker about.

I hope you get more experienced replies!

[aMarylandfamily]

I would definitely asked to be introduced as you mentioned or at least "the Mommy of your new house" - while they may be young depending on the trama they have witnessed and/or experienced they are going to evesdrop on any conversation they can ... and they need not to fear you ... nor meeting your "friends" as they will think every time they hear the words they are in for a move ... and the 4 year old hears and comprehends much more than they are often given credit for - they may mix things up but they do know ...

Congrats!

[SuzBerg]

Our daughter was 2.5 at placement. Her fostermom called us Mommy Suz and Daddy C___, when she talked about us, showed pictures of us, when we were there and she would speak to us, etc. We only had a few pre-placement visits, but she transitioned very easily and as soon as she came to our house (she had not been to our house before placement as she lived far away) we were Mommy and Daddy, and she really never seemed confused. Just wanted to post our experience. Good Luck and Best Wishes with your new children. - Suz