[Stormster]

So lately I've been getting compliments on my parenting from family. And I can't believe it! I always think I should be doing better or more....I was wondering if many of you are able to accept that compliment and say to yourself "darn right I am!" or at least agree!

It's so weird because on one hand it's the ultimate compliment and feels so good. And on the other hand I'm like "are you talking to ME????"



Ooooh I hope DS says that some day. THAT will count for sure!

[Leigh131313]

I asked my son who the best mom in the world was earlier today.....He said "Sarah - Eli's Mom"

LOL


Then he added, I'm teasin mom - YOU!!


anyhoo.......we all have our shining moments (both good and bad) Take the compliment and RUN!! Cuz that cute baby is going to be turning into a wicked little creature soon - enjoy the good times!!! lol

[Stormster]

Leigh noooooooooooooooooooooo say it ain't so!

[Adopted-B-4]

I agree, it's hard to take a compliment like that. Sometimes, especially with my MIL that I think she is really being fake about how she feels about my parenting. I guess the only people it really should matter to is my kids though, right?

[chrisandaaron]

Yeah, I hear ya! My little sister said something about what a great mom I was and how that actually surprised her a little. It was so sweet!

[Lilly's Mommy]

Even when DH tells me I'm a great mom, I think he's just making it up because he thinks I need to hear it. Maybe because we want more than anything to be great at mothering our little ones, it's a bit hard to believe that sometimes we are!

I try to store the compliments in my "back pocket" to counter the heaps of mommy guilt I give myself.

[lovemy2boys]

Lilly's mom - I feel the same way when my DH tells me I'm a great mom - it's almost like he HAS to say it ~ haha.

Not too long ago, my oldest son's firstmom told me I was a great mom...I was so floored that I didn't know what to say. It is something I'll treasure forever.

[SupaModel]

DH told me that a few times and I know he was being honest and true. I LOVE hearing that!! One of my gf texted me the other day and said i was doing a great job. Now that i thought was weird b/c she really haven't seen me with H in a while. Whatever i'll take what i can get

[EZ2Luv]

Stormster,
It is always the Mommas that are worried that they are not doing enough or could be doing better that ARE the Great Mommas. Those are the Mommas that want the very best for their children and want to do the very best for their children. Those are the Mommas that put their children before anything else include themsaelves. Those are the Great Mommas. You ARE a Great Momma.

EZ

[kelceesmom]

Storm,
It does feel kind of strange. I guess one reason is it took me so long to become a mom I guess I didn't realize that I could be a good one.

My ex gave me that compliment about 2 months ago out of the blue. He called me up and said to me "I never told you this but I just wanted you to know that I think you are a great mom and I appreciate how you are raising Kelcee."

The next day I emailed him (after I sat on it for 24 hours) and asked if he had done something wrong that I shoudl be aware of? All he could do was chuckle at me.

[aclee]

When I started cloth diapering my grandparents were just abuot bowing down to me in admiration and talking to everyone under the sun about it. I got sick of it. I think even their neighbors knew I was using cloth. I don't do it for the acclaim, I do it for Ty, and the Major Mother (earth) finally, when someone asked me about it I said. Eh...like all parenting, it's mainly a pain in the butt (but not that word), but you just do what you know you should for your kids.

When I switched to all organic stuff, and made all Ty's skin care products it started again. So I just told them it was because I was cheap (still close to Sainthood in my grandparents book).

I always feel like I should be doing more. DH needs much less sleep than I do. I get really ill and almost non-functioning with a highly disrupted sleep pattern. Thankfully Ty has always been a pretty good sleeper, but now that he is getting up again, I get up, make the bottle and almost throw it at DH, who feeds Ty. I always feel like I should feed him sometimes, but I usually don't and go back to sleep. I know some women would kill for a DH like that, but it gives me a lot of guilt!

Over all though, I *AM* proud of how I raise Ty and that's all I need. I don't need others to tell me I'm doing a great job. They they might thing their opinion matters, and that's the last thing I need from my grandparents (or in laws for that matter!)....

[nikkianni]

Take those compliments as something you deserve. Because I don't know about your family, but I know mine mean it when they say it.
When Eve was about a month old, both my parents thanked me separately for her and for being such a good mom. Mom said Dad even told her that he was surprised at how well I was doing. (I was never the mothering type really).
This Mother's Day, they got me a card that said that they'd always been proud of me, but that the thing they were the most proud of was the kind of mom I am. I'm keeping that card for when my daughter is a teenager.
I guess my point is, take the compliments because you deserve them. Because even if you don't always hit your own ideal of momhood, it doesn't mean you're not a fantastic mom.

[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by Stormster

So lately I've been getting compliments on my parenting from family. And I can't believe it! I always think I should be doing better or more....I was wondering if many of you are able to accept that compliment and say to yourself "darn right I am!" or at least agree!

It's so weird because on one hand it's the ultimate compliment and feels so good. And on the other hand I'm like "are you talking to ME????"



Ooooh I hope DS says that some day. THAT will count for sure!

I always say "Thanks" but inside I'm thinking "If you only knew.."
Like you, I'm always wondering if I'm on the right path with the kids.

[KatiesEd-dad]

Uhhh...I don't think anyone has called me wonderful mother. Although some have used another word after the word mother.


ETA: Sorry...I just couldn't resist!

[ourdreamcametru]

Well, in the past I have kinda had trouble with compliments on how we raise our children but now that I have one who is turning 18 and graduating high school with honors, never in trouble and the most polite, sweet young man you will ever meet, I do think we have done a great job and am much more comfortable raising our other two!