[Teekay74]

It sounds like pbmom had the baby on the 29th. We have not heard from her though. She is avoiding phone calls from me, and from her sw'er. It doesn't look like this going to happen. I'm sad, but I think it's harder because I don't know anything. I'm happy for her if she thinks she can parent, and I support her 100%. It hurts for me too. It's not just the baby, it's her too. I've been talking with her, and meeting with her since August, and this is how it ends. Hmmm
The no closure thing kinda stinks.

[HappyTwinsMom]

I'm sorry this is happening. You're right, the lack of closure has got to be so hard. When we had our failed placement, at least we knew right away that she had decided to parent. We weren't left hanging around wondering....

[marathon]

Teekay- I wish I could say something to help you. I am so sorry you have to go through this. No closure and not really knowing is just so hard. I am praying for you and all involved. I still believe the world is conspiring for your greatest happiness. Best of Luck!!!

[sarah16]

How sad, I'm so sorry.

[Celesyee]

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. It's all so confusing! When we had our failed adoption, birthmom said she just needed time to think...that was in November and we haven't heard from her since. Take the time to let things settle and grieve. There is a baby out there for you!

[wishing4real]

Tina: I have been checking every few hours for your update. I am so sorry to hear this is happening. I had so much hope for you. Please take care of yourself and your family. After having been through this before, I know that it hurts. The lack of closure is sure tough, I think because it still leaves you with some hope and the unknown is the hardest. I also know that once you know someone that well, after having spent time with pbmom, it is kind of like losing a friend as well. So the hurt is two fold. It is difficult to understand how they can't at least have the courtesy to tell you their decision. That would at least help you to move past this. You are in my thoughts!

C

[lahdh4]

(((hugs)))

[specialk4b]

Tina - prayers for peace. I wish I could do something more.

[Tigger2]

I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[loveajax]

Teekay, I am sorry and I am also sorry that you don't have "closure." Hang in there...I am sure this is so very hard.

[fastaff]

So sorry this is happening...I echo everyones sentiments...the RIGHT baby will find you at the RIGHT time.<<<<<hugs>>>>

[srusse24]

I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is so tough to be in the dark about what is going on with a child that you felt was going to be yours.

If nothing else, I pray that you will get some closure to this.

Best wishes!

[sbaglio]

I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Wishing you the best.

[mommy3]

I'm so sorry your situation appears to have changed. We experienced exactly the same story when we were waiting for our dd -- and it was hard to move on. Amazingly, we got a call the same day I was truly able to let go (about 2 weeks after the due date) and THAT was the referral that brought us our dd. Best thoughts as you move forward. susan

[Ktates]

Tina - I am sorry to hear this update - it would have been nice if you were told either way. I had been wondering how things are going and had asked about you on one of the other forums...you are in my thoughts.