[megaphonemo]

No congrats yet, my friends.... Birthmom is having second thoughts - and that is okay, because we know that they love her A LOT... Today was grueling, hours with her, and me and the agency social worker and turns out she is not being discharged until Friday, which means no signatures until Monday - and that is the exact scenario we had in August when we had a baby for 2 days before it disrupted.... We are nervous and (again, don't mean this to sound harsh) we want them to decide already, and not make us wait!! Stay or go, but decide already.... Harsh, I know, but I gotta protect my self and my little one who is 2.5, you know?? A no now would be a lot easier on everyone than a no after she has been here for 2 days....

You'd think I' be better at this since this is the second time around - but this time EVERYTHING IS HARDER!!! Every - friggin' thing!!!

Mega

[chrisandaaron]

Oh Mega-
That is rough. I completely understand. I can handle the "NOs" (especially when I know pbfamily will care for baby), but I can't stand the waiting and wondering and the back and forth uggghh

I'll be thinking about you and praying for a resolution, SOON!

[2manyks]

isnt that the truth - the worst is the not knowing. my thoughts and prayers are with you mega and that everything will work out as it was meant to be.

i gotta go pick up my kiddos from school but have a thought to share with all of you when i get a chance later.

[chrisandaaron]

Well, I took both kiddos to the Dr. and one has an ear infection (took him in for a cough). The other has who knows what, but the doctor says I need to get him taking antibiotics again or we will be dealing with pneumonia all over. Ever since he was in the hospital last week he refuses all meds (spits them all over). We changed antibiotics once to something more tasty, but no success. The new ones are supposed to taste really good, but I can't even get them near him. Any suggestions? I've tried applesauce, hiding them in his milk, giving him pills (like his vitamins), shoving the syringe to the back of his throat and trying to hold his mouth closed... nothing works. He won't even take grape motrin which he used to love (he'd even say, yum, yum).

On the baby news, I am hoping to find out something tomorrow or Saturday. I'm not sure how prepared I should be. We haven't been chosen, but I know they are planning placement for this weekend if we do get chosen. I'm trying to play it cool, but I am wondering if I should give my co-workers a heads up (I'm supposed to work Sat.) or just suprise them if I have to leave. At least it motivated me to get some cleaning and laundry done today. It was way out of control.

[2manyks]

ahh, nothing like a new baby coming to get stuff done around the house! i did a ton of cleaning out today too, even though our baby isnt coming until this summer.

on the emom news. she is still sick and supposed to be on bedrest. im not sure how closely she follows that. she says she feels terrible and can hardly get out of bed. but yesterday she spent shopping - most of the day kind of shopping. tomorrow is her mri appt. she was also supposed to have an ultrasound yesterday to determine the sex of the baby. she didnt feel like going to the dr. i will tell you all the truth - i am burned out. i have been in an open adoption with her for almost 2 years. emotional it is taxing on me. she is sooooooo needy. always asking for money (which i rarely give her) or hinting at her financial needs. she has a list of other needs too. always a one sided conversation with what is going on with her, hardly ever even interested in hearing about the baby i am parenting. it is really wearing on me and i guess i just need a break. i just needed to vent i guess. yesterday she called me with a huge list of bills she wanted me to pay and the pressure of what can i legally pay and what do i want to pay. it just makes me tired. ok - i am done with that.

BTW -chris. when you give the kids the medicine do like yousaid and put the syringe to the back of the mouth. dont try to hold his mouth shut - that wont work. try squeezing his cheeks inbetween his teeth so he cant bite down and he wont be able to swallow. it totally works. he will try to shove the medicine out with his tongue, but i will go down his throat, much to his dismay. good luck! i have a 12 yo who had oral surgery today and cant swallow a pill. its making me crazy!

D

[chrisandaaron]

mom2many-
I hear ya. That has to be hard. I have had a few friends like that. I am rarely someone that doesn't answer my phone, but occasionally I just have to let some people go to voicemail for a while. Then I call them back when I feel up to it. Sad, but true.

Thanks for the tip, I will try that. We did get the Drama King to take his medicine tonight. Once he had fallen asleep I woke him up just a little and was able to get some in. Dh somehow got the rest in when he got home. Of course my other little guy (the one I didn't really think was sick) just sucks his medicine down right out of the syringe. Gotta love that kid. He has been a little angel as usual. I actually told our SW that I didn't care about much else, but if she could find me another baby like him (sleeps through the night, eats anything, rarely cried, will play quietly for hours) I would really appreciate it, LOL!

[srusse24]

chris- I have been following your situation and am dying to know what is going to happen. Any calls yet?

BTW- We used the same agency you all are using (Marci recommended it) to adopt our second child. We were chosen the first time within weeks of our HS being approved. That matched failed, but our son's bmom chose us just 11 days after the failed match.

Good luck! I'm thinkin of ya!

[OnTheJourney]

wishing - I forgot about your baby! Sorry and Congrats! She is adorable. I hope things are going well and you are getting some sleep.

Mega - fingers and toes crossed and sending good vibes your way. I hope you all find answers soon.

Chris - hope you hear something soon. I think waiting when you know something could be brewing is soooo much harder than waiting when nothing is going on. (ok, that made sense in my head.)

2many - (((hugs))) I hope your match goes smoothly and somehow seem shorter than it is.

Nothing new on the babyfront here. We had the one week before christmas where we had 3 calls in 1 week but not the right situatuions for us. Our agency doesn't call when they show your file unless it is a situation outside of your comfort zone that they think you still may be open to. So no news could be good news But I do have DS's new room all ready and we have been playing in it all week, so this weekend we are going to move the crib and him in.

[momtosami]

Well, this was our first week at waiting and it seemed ok but I have been sort of anxious this week. I have worked at a Consignment sale this week and I think seeing all the baby stuff has me anxious. I have got to RELAX.....

Chris-I really can't wait to hear news from your situation-I would be pacing the floors-heehee.

Hope you all have a good weekend

[2manyks]

went to target last night to have the kids pick out their valentines. has anyone seen their new baby line? all the stuff is just adorable. bedding, sleepers, tiny little shoes and flip flops. i could go on and on. hope we get news of what sex our baby is soon so i can do some serious shopping!!!!!

going out of town on monday. we are headed to mexico on a work trip with my dh. i am taking the oldest half of my children so it should be fun and relaxing. no babies to tend to. i cant wait. should i tell our emom i will be out of town? she calls a couple times a week and im sure my cell wont work there. i dont really want her to know i am on a vacation cause it just makes her jealous. i thought about making up a lie about something but im not that kind of person so i cant really do that. i guess honesty is the best policy. it just that i have several trips coming up and it will just mess up her thinking if she knows. what do you think?

Chris - im sure you are tired of the asking but - any news?

[mandirenee]

All,

I posted awhile back - I'm a little shy on the forum. I read alot, but don't post too much.

I also work full-time and with a 17 month I'm busy. Anyother mom's working? I'd like to know I'm not the only "working mom" out there.

We are signed with an agency (a very popular one on this board). We signed with them for our first baby, but matched in 2 weeks with another birtmom. This time we only signed with this agency in OH.

I'm feeling left out because we signed up and had our books to them November 23rd, but we haven't had one call. We know nothing.

Chris - I'm so excited and hope to hear an update from you today.

[chrisandaaron]

No news yet!
Momtosami, I've been pacing all afternoon too! Not to mention obsesively checking my email all day (not sure why, they will call me if we are chosen)

Mandi-glad you are joining us! I am a working mom Too! And I thank God for that on days like today when I need to take my mind off something! I work part-time, sometimes more. I have been working a ton lately, in hopes to take some time off once our baby is here. I totally wouldn't worry about not getting calls. They typically don't call unless you have been chosen or they aren't sure if the situation would be OK with you.

Thanks everyone!

[chrisandaaron]

No news! Off to work this morning

[2manyks]

chris - what do you think the no news means?

[pwheatle]

I have to join this thread! I couldn't help myself when I started reading about some of you others who were waiting at the same time I was. I don't post often but I have been around for years reading everything. I am in Canada where adoption works differently and then my situation is a bit different too. Last January I adopted my twelveth baby. I was matched with her from an agency when they had no one on their books to adopt her. I in general adopt from the provincial program rather than agencies as my children all have handicapping conditions and here agencies don't generally have people applying for special children. Long story short I am hoping to adopt again as soon as all the paperwork surrounding adoption is completed. I waited five years for my last baby and surely hope it will not be another five for the next! I have a feeling it won't be but that could simply be wishful thinking!
Good luck to us all!
Tricia