[momtosami]

Hi everyone, it is so slow around here. Anything going on with anyone? I am wondering if things have slowed down with situations or what.......

[ermiller]

Nothing with us....

Of course it has only been 2 1/2 weeks officially waiting

[spischer]

Nothing happening with us either....I figure the beginning of next week I will email our agency and see what "happened" during the month of July....do you guys think asking them once a month is ok/not enough? I just want to keep up to date as to what placements have taken place.

Thanks!

Baby dust to all those who are waiting!!!

[jjlutefisk]

Nothing here either. We have been waiting just over 3 months. I'm not jumping every time the phone rings but maybe I twitch a little....

[Yash]

I've got news. Birthmom's and unknown birthdad's 60 days to appeal TPR is offically over. YIPPEEEE!!!! Now I don't have to worry about birthmom or relatives popping up.

So the wait begins for the paperwork to return from the capital so I can sign adoption placement papers. Then we'll be a mere court date away from being done. YIPPEEE!

As for my Vietnam adoption, 1 month and 1 day left for me to get a referral. I'm getting nervous. I think I might email my agency today. I know some couples have moved from the girl only list to the either sex list. I struggled with doing that because I didn't think it was fair to the families that had been waiting for a baby boy. But really how important is the sex of the baby? I have a son. I have a daughter. I just want a baby. A "simple" adoption. LOL! I better send my agency that email now before I change my mind.

[Linny]

We've only been waiting since April...which isn't long, I realize; but two of the last three babies all came within a three or fourth month wait time. (The other was longer because we were gender specific then. We aren't now.)

Soooo, I don't know. I'm concerned for the first time that our age and the fact we've several kids will make a huge difference. Additionally, we just can't swing the higher fees either...so, our hands are tied for several situations.

Sincerely,

Linny

[chickymum]

Wow I never saw this here before. We are about to start our second homestudy. (Aug 8) I just talked to the worker and she said to me we will be just talking about why we want to adopt etc. Oh boy what do I say to that? I feel like the question should be why wouldn't we be wanting to adopt. It just feels like the way it is supossed to be.
Our first adoption was older child domestic. This one we are looking into infant international. I am very excited.

[KansasMomToBe]

Welcome chickymum!!!! Good luck with your homestudy.

We did not get picked for the situation last week. The dad liked us and the mom liked another couple more so they went with her choice. Oh well, eventually our child will come to us. (In God's time)

I really wish we could get some more matches in here so things didn't feel so bleak.

Yash, I'm really happy for you. It sounds like things are very exciting at your house!!!

[2manyks]

is everyone as depressed as i am?

[ermiller]

I am sorry you are feeling depressed

It must be hard to grieve this loss, even when you are "happy" that she parented, because this is your son's birthmom too.

As for me, I'm ready to quit feeling anxious about waiting and get into an "it will happen when it happens" feeling because WHO knows how long it will take since we are with a very small agency.

[JenC]

Well, our only update is we are <this close> to officially waiting. I'm mailing our profiles today even though our homestudy update isn't quite done - she's just finishing putting it all together. Nevermind the fact that she's been working on it since JUNE.

I thought our profile looked good, but now that it's done I'm not so sure! I guess we'll wait and see!

[Yash]

Chickymum - Welcome to the group. Best of luck with your homestudy. The second time around I felt much more comfortable. I had the dryer going when the SW was over. I never would have dreamed of doing that the first time. Jory wasted his cheerios all over the floor so we talked while I cleaned up the mess. My SW was a father of three and very laid back and understanding.

KansasMomToBe - If I told my son about the progress we made, it would be a very exciting time in our house. I promised him a ride on an airplane when we finalize Rowan's adoption. He asks me periodically if we've finalized her adoption yet. As for me, I think I'll really be excited when I'm in the courtroom.

[Yash]

Let's bump us up!

[Linny]

Another downer, perhaps? (sigh)
I've been phoning agencies (as many of you already know)....and I'm finding fees are even worse than I imagined. (sigh) We still have options of dealing with our local attorney and/or agency. I know, I know...if it's to happen, it will. But, sure hard to wait---especially when we know we're so much older!!!!!

We have been approached with fostering again. (Haven't done this in over something like 15yrs, though we're licensed to do so.) We're thinking about it as our agency deals with fostering in a totally different way....

Still.......there's no guarantee there either, I know. (sigh...again)

Let's hope SOMEONE has some great news SOON!!!!

Sincerely,

Linny

[longingforadaughter]

I know that I should be more mature about this but I wish my baby was here!!!

Ok...now if I can just put a in my mouth maybe I won't say anything else silly.

Now back to our regularly scheduled waiting period...

Debbie