[mandirenee]

Hello all!

I'm still here. Just nothing going on.

Carson has been sleeping in his big boy bed for 2 weeks now. The first week he did great. Never got out of bed, went right to sleep. Now he's figured out that he can get out, so it's a struggle. We have to go in for about 30-60 minutes and get after him and make him get back in the bed, which then breaks his heart and he cries.

He's only 19 months, so I'm ok if after another week or so he goes back to the crib, but I would like to try to stick it out so that IF a baby comes it's one less thing to worry about.

[Yash]

Thanks to everyone for their warm welcome.

[chrisandaaron]

Yeah for the big boy Mandi! Troy is still transitioning. He seems to need the security of his crib to fall asleep. He lays in his big boy bed, but he won't go to sleep and eventually he starts getting out. When we can we give him the chance to go to sleep in his big boy bed, when he starts getting up we put him in his crib, once he falls asleep we move him back to the big boy bed. He thinks he is pretty special when he wakes up in the morning in his big boy bed. Unfortunately I am currently rotating 1 crib mattresses between his toddler bed and the crib in our bedroom. We only use the crib in our room if someone is sick, but that has been a LOT lately! I need to get out and buy another mattress soon.

[OnTheJourney]

Welcome Yash!

Mandi - Good for you! Carson is the same age as my ds and there is NO WAY I'd have the patience to do the big boy bed right now!lol Yeah Carson!

Chris - I kinda got lost with the crib and bed and matress! lol I hope you all feel better soon.

[mandirenee]

8:54 this morning the phone rang (and I as always said "I hope that's the agency") When I looked at the caller ID, I couldn't belive my eyes. It was the agency!

Our book had been shown to a pbm and she didn't want to meet with us - she knew we were the family!!!! We are going to meet her after she moves in about 3-4 weeks. She said out of 15 books, she loved us.

The baby will be Cauc/Hisp and our son is also Cauc/Hisp so we really feel like this is the match for us! She will have an u/s in the next month or so, so let's pray for HEALTH and think PINK But of course, BLUE is great too!

The due date is August, but her other babies delivered one month early so it may be July. It's a loooooong wait, and I'm sure I'm going to be very nervous. (we matched May before and ds was born end of Aug)

This just came right out of the blue...we had no idea our book was being shown. I'm so happy.....I can't wait to hear the same news from each of you! I'm going to needs some emotional support along the way.

[KansasMomToBe]

Congratulations!!!! That is wonderful news!!!

Our SW at the agency emailed us last night around 7pm and told us to call her at home when we got the email. So at 9:15 we called her. She said that the background check procedure in our state was recently changed so they are needing to get our fingerprints and resubmit our background checks. So.....we continue to wait for our paperwork.

However, on the upside, the social worker is working on our file and is concerned enough to give us her home phone number. She may regret that in the future LOL

[2manyks]

not much time to post but we just got back from the ultrasound. its a BOY! i was thinking pink, but blue is great too. now, my babies who will be 17 months apart will be best buddies. got so much more to post, but going to lunch with birthfamily. ttfn.

[chrisandaaron]

Mandi- YEEEAAAHHHH! I was so excited to read your post!

Mom 2 Many- I know you were hoping for a girl, but I'm sure you are already totally in love with your future baby boy! The visit is going well I hope???


No news for us. There isn't much more time in week 3, so we shall see.

[OnTheJourney]

Yay Mandi! Hopefully the ride will be smooth and seem short!

mom2many - why do we not have any BLUE pompoms! Can't wait to hear about the visit. Hope it is going well.

Kansas - silly SW giving her home #. heheh She better be the best SW ever or you could call and call and call and ...

Nothing new here. Just trying to get back on schedule after a very busy week with DH's G'ma's funeral and family in from out of town. DS missed so many naps and had a few late nigths, Hopefulle we get back on track sooon. He is playing me out!

[momtosami]

Mandi-that is great news!!!

Mom2many-how sweet, a little boy!

Nothing new with us either.

[mommamarci]

Mandi- Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck with the wait. I was so relieved we did not have to wait once matched!

[2manyks]

so much going on. i had a total breakdown on thursday nite. it had been a heck of a day and i guess i just couldnt take it anymore. plus my dh was out working late and so i was home all alone - except for the kids - who were in bed. i managed to keep myself together until i got them all in bed and could crawl into bed and fall apart.

emom came. i took her to the dr. she smelled like smoke. she told me she quit. i dont like smoking, BUT i matched with her knowing she already smoked. i never asked her to quit. but she told me she quit - to make me happy i guess. when i asked her about it she told me she stood by a guy at the airport that smoked and thats why she smelled like smoke. later that night we went out for pizza - everyone - her family and mine. we stopped at the pharmacy for some scrips for her. she started having a panic attack. i sent her outside while i got the scrips. we went back to her hotel and i told her to go lay down and i would take her kids and mine swimming. her dh came and told me he was taking her to the er. they didnt tell me their son didnt know how to swim. so i am watching and realize he is drowning. a million things flashed through my mind. her kid will die and she will sue me for all im worth. how did i get myself in this stupid situation. we pulled him out of the pool and he coughed and sputtered and he was fine. except for he said *i what mommy* in a very whiney voice every three minutes for the next 3 hours. ugh. they called me and said she was being released from er and would be home in 20 minutes. i pulled all the kids out of the pool and went to her room to get them all in their jammies. i was accosted by the smell of smoke in their room. it is a non-smoking room of which i am paying for. so now i am calculating how much i am going to be charged for cleaning cause she smoked in the room. as i was searching suitcases looking for pj's i came across PACKS and PACKS of cigs. ok, so not even an occasional cig, but packs a day. like i said before, i am not opposed to her smoking, but i am bothered she would lie to me. they didnt get back until really late that nite. i had all my elementary age kids with me and they were falling asleep all over the place. i was trying to figure out how i was going to get 6 kids out to my car by myself. it was tiring ind stressfull. we finally got home and 2 of my kids went through their list of what homework they still had to do. what part of *do your homework before we go* did they not understand? i made them go to bed without doing it. i was exhausted and needed ME to be in bed. i did confront her the next day and she STILL denied smoking. whatever. i guess our relationship isnt what i thought it was. i have posted all this at the risk of reviling too much. but i need the support badly.

[OnTheJourney]

mom2many - (((((hugs))))) That sounds like a very difficult situation to be put in. I am so sorry you had such a stressful visit. I am glad you allowed yourself to break down and let it out. Lean on your DH if you can and vent with us too. I hope this visit did not damage your relationship with pbm too much. Remeber when things are sooo hard, look at the big picture and try to let go of the hard feelings. Yeah I know, easier said than done. But if it helps, I will say a little prayer for all involved.

[KansasMomToBe]

2many- Although the smoking isn't a deal breaker for you,I would also be by disconcerted by her dishonesty. However, maybe she is afraid of you deciding not go through with the adoption or maybe she is telling the truth and her partner is the one smoking.

[snaps]

Hi - I evidently have missed this thread somehow. We are also adoptiong for a second time. We have a 28 month old through domestic adoption and have officially been on the books for about 5 months now. It is definitely different (you don't stress about the little details so much), but I have to say I am starting to go crazy about the wait. We are not getting any younger you know.