[jjlutefisk]

Welcome Sam's Mommy! I just had to reply to you. When we started on our second adoption for our 4th child, I was still haunted by our two failed matches. There's just something about welcoming a baby into your heart and then finding out that you will not be his or her parent that just rocks you to your core.

After we were disappointed twice, we asked the agency not to call us until after TPR was done. When we got the call, I almost didn't believe it!


When we did our homestudy for our second adoption, we just wanted to be called after the TPR hearing (our agency routinely uses cradle care). Fast forward 6 months and we get a call about a Safe Delivery situtation. I thought that it would be just 72 hours and she'd be all ours. I just wasn't familiar with Safe Delivery. Then they told us (before we said yes, of course) that there was a 28 day waiting period and the law said she had to come home with us during that time. No cradle care. 28 days of waiting and dreading for the phone to ring to tell us that someone came back for her.

We decided to step out in faith and bring her home. It was a hard wait for those 28 days to end. It was nice that it ended on Thanksgiving. And we gave thanks!

It took almost 4 months for the TPR to happen. 4 long months but it happened and now she's officially ours. We finalize in 6 months.

My point is that you just never know when or where or how that call will come. For me, both calls were on days that I was caught completely off guard.

Adoption is such a roller coaster. And the second time around isn't the same track! So many highs and lows. I have always been thankful for these forums here. I have laughed with people, cried with them, checked the forum over and over for news about them, prayed for them. And yet, I've only met 1 forum user in person and I feel like I know everyone so well. It's a good thing.

[Linny]

Sooo, here we are. She may have some special needs---and we knew that going in; but it's okay. I was a nervous wreck for the first few days, but ya know...after praying about it (yes, really) and all of a sudden, the confusion was gone---and that *peace* ....well, you know what I mean!

We're undecided about names still---THIS time, I had the boys' names all chosen and ready...but NOT another girl name! LOL

I don't post the babies on the public board; but I assure you, she's lovely. ....Very tiny but geting more active every day!

I'll keep you updated as I can. Pretty busy right now and NOT home; though we're staying with friends and family.....which makes it even better!!!!

THANK YOU for ALL of the well wishes, folks! I SO appreciate them!!!! ((((Hugs to all of you)))

Most Sincerely,

Linny

[oceanica]

Linny!!
I am so, so happy for you!
Congrats and lots of hugs!!
I hope you aren't commiserating with me too much with the all-nighters!
Really, this is so great. I am ecstatic.
I wish I could see her.
Give us an update soon.

[sams-mommy]

JJ, thanks so much! So glad to hear good news! Congrats on the new addition. Very funny that we had a 45 day waiting period with our son and it ended on Thanksgiving 2007!! At first we didnt even realize because we were in contact with the birthmom and knew she was ok with her decision, so we never dreaded the wait. A friend of ours apparently was keeping track and called us and said congrats and felt the same way, very thankful!!

You know I used to love rollercaosters!! LOL!!
It's so hard being patient, so I think I will be here alot.
Thanks for listening or reading I should say.
have a good night!

[momtosami]

Linny, so glad to hear from you!! I understand about the picture posting.

Sams-mommy-welcome and I hope that your wait is not long!


For some reason I have been thinking about posting pictures as well and I was wondering if anyone knows if you can delete posts??

Thanks

[ermiller]

Well, I wanted to update here that we have "lost" our match as the mom has decided to go with another family. The mom had been feeling some unsureness about whether she looked at enough profiles before picking ours, so we knew she was going to look at some more. She decided to meet a couple additional families and ended up feeling that one of them was a better "match" for her than we were. I want her to do what is right for her and for her son but it has been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster for us this last month.

So we are back to waiting...

[jjlutefisk]

I'm sorry, Erin.

[sams-mommy]

So sorry Erin, I'll be waititng with you. Our first experience with trying to adopt led us to Alabama an hour before the baby was born. She was 7lbs 4 ozs. and we weren't allowed to see her that night so we went back in the morning. Well the birthmom was walking downstairs to have a cigarette and thats when we got to meet her.She said go up and see her she's in the nursery! Omg we couldn't believe it, it was finally here. We went up and saw her through the nursery glass, she was sleeping and sooooo beautiful. We waited for "T" to come up to the nursery but she called us instead. She said "hey there is a little problem. I tested pos. for drugs and the dpt. of social services is coming to talk to me, I will call you after." We were in a bad dream, after 6 yrs of waiting for a baby and we were this close, and we were told to go back to the hotel, she would call us. It turns out b/c she wasn't ready to talk and tell them she was doing an adoption the state took the baby. The lawyer we retained for her is the one who found that out for us. I didn't hear from "T" till 2 wks later and she was ready then to sign tpr, but at this point we didn't trust her and we didn't have the financial means to go down there and go to court and see if they would allow us to adopt the baby.Her lawyer said sometimes they do sometimes they dont. So we moved on but we never forgot. I still think of the sweet baby girl and wonder if shes ok and hope she's being loved the way we would have loved her.
So we moved on and a month later we got a call from my aunt saying a friend of their's niece is pregnant and wanting to do an adoption. It was amazing, we felt like it was right from the beginning. 3 months later our little angel was born. It was very special, we got to see him in the hospital being held by his birthmom. Then we got to hold him! LIfe is GOOD!
We are very close to his birthmom and her family, we don't see each other but we are in contact all the time and it is such a special relationship that I never expected to have.
Erin, our little blessings are out there waititng for us we just have to be patient, even though its hard to!! Look forward to seeing you on here.
momtosami, thanks so much, glad to be here. I hope its not to long too!

[sams-mommy]

Thank you also Kansasmomtobe!!! sorry It was really late when I wrote last night and just scrolled down and saw your good luck wishes and wanted to say good luck to you as well!

[Yash]

Originally Posted by ermiller

Well, I wanted to update here that we have "lost" our match as the mom has decided to go with another family. The mom had been feeling some unsureness about whether she looked at enough profiles before picking ours, so we knew she was going to look at some more. She decided to meet a couple additional families and ended up feeling that one of them was a better "match" for her than we were. I want her to do what is right for her and for her son but it has been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster for us this last month.

So we are back to waiting...

Erin, I'm sorry.

[devildogwife]

Originally Posted by ermiller

Well, I wanted to update here that we have "lost" our match as the mom has decided to go with another family. The mom had been feeling some unsureness about whether she looked at enough profiles before picking ours, so we knew she was going to look at some more. She decided to meet a couple additional families and ended up feeling that one of them was a better "match" for her than we were. I want her to do what is right for her and for her son but it has been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster for us this last month.

So we are back to waiting...

I'm very sorry too.

[devildogwife]

Originally Posted by ermiller

Well, I wanted to update here that we have "lost" our match as the mom has decided to go with another family. The mom had been feeling some unsureness about whether she looked at enough profiles before picking ours, so we knew she was going to look at some more. She decided to meet a couple additional families and ended up feeling that one of them was a better "match" for her than we were. I want her to do what is right for her and for her son but it has been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster for us this last month.

So we are back to waiting...

I'm very sorry too.

[KansasMomToBe]

Erin, I'd imagine it is a very tough situation. I'm sending hugs and prayers to you.

[momtosami]

Erin, I am so sorry to hear this!

[mandirenee]

Erin - (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))