[feelingreyt]

We are finalizing H's adoption on Nov 20th. I want to have a finalization party for him on the 25th. My mom suggested a finalization/Baby Shower. She said she would do the baby shower things. What do you all think? Baby H is almost 3 months old, we've had him since he was 5 days old. What started out as a temp. family placement quickly turned into adoption. Any suggestions and opinions would be appreciated.

[kelceesmom]

I don't see anything wrong with that. I think you could very nicely incorporate both days together. If you didn't have a shower nothing wrong with having one a little bit later. It could be really fun. It would be a couples shower which are becoming a hit and a wonderful day of finalization. Have fun with it.

[aspenhall]

the only odd thing would be how the baby handles it. Other than that, go for it!

[snaps]

I think it is a good idea. We did not have our shower until our DD was almost 2 months old. We didn't feel comfortable prior to the birth having one and then wanted to wait until after the waiting period. After the waiting period we were in the middle of the holidays and it just worked out better for us to do it then. We had bought a lot of things by then and got hand me downs from a few friends, but we got a lot of nice and needed things at the shower. It was fun, but DD slept through it.

[feelingreyt]

Thanks so much for the replies everyone. My mom has been wanting to give us a shower since the day the bmom asked us to adopt(he had already been in our custody prior to her asking us). But I wanted to wait til after finalization because I was so afraid his bmom was going to change her mind. We are very lucky in the fact that this is a relative adoption and going very VERY quickly! Thanks again, I really appreciate the insight from you all!

[bajj]

I say go for it!

[akcskye]

I concur...go for it.

Many adoptive families choose to wait until the baby is at home before having the ceremonies or showers.

There's just too much "what if"...and talk about the headache and heartache of getting all of those gifts, and then having to return them to their givers if the adoption failed.

Had I adopted an infant, I would have been waiting myself, so I think it's a great idea.

[rtsmom]

I like the idea too. What a fun way to celebrate!

Janet

[StacyM]

Congratulations on your finilization. We had a baby shower when my daughter was 6 weeks. That way everyone could meet her.

I think doing your celebration with the shower sounds nice!

[mama2-8]

Anytime people are willing to bring presents or diapers is a time to celebrate, lol(I have four in diapers) I think you should do it.