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Old 10-05-2007, 06:33 PM
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Unhappy silly comment brings tears

I am so embarrassed! Dh and I went out with friends tonight. She is 3 months pregnant. She made an innocent comment, not realizing how it would affect me. It's not like I haven't heard it before. But tonight, it hit me wrong and I ran out and to the Ladies room crying my eyes out.

She came a little while later and apologized and gave me a hug and cried with me. I am still embarrassed, and emotionally raw, too.
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Old 10-05-2007, 06:37 PM
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Oh Ani - I am so sorry!

Sometimes, people speak without thinking - I find a lot of peace in the fact that most of the time, please don't even realize it.
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Thanks Brandy. I think I just need a big cry tonight and I'll feel better.
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I'm sorry ani!!! If there's anything I can do, let me know.
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Old 10-05-2007, 07:24 PM
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I'm sorry, Ani! That stinks! I'm glad she realized it hurt. She sounds like a good friend. Don't be embarassed!
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Old 10-05-2007, 07:40 PM
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She is, and I haven't even known her that long. Dh works with her. She realized right after she said it, but it was too late for me. I normally handle it ok but when I looked at dh and he gave me an understanding look and squeezed my hand, that was it. I ran out of there. I almost knocked some lady down, so I did stop and apologize to her. She was very sweet, "oh honey, no you're fine, go take care of yourself now."
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Old 10-05-2007, 08:20 PM
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I'm sorry Ani - I'm glad she apologized though, but that doesn't take the hurt away. ((((HUGS))))
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(((((hugs))))) I was so emotional during the wait for the adoption...and even now get that way!!

Comments, even innocent, can sometimes strike a cord with us without us even realizing it. We KNOW they don't mean it a certain way but we just can't help it...it's like our bodies needed that emotional vent...

Hang in there!! It happens to ALL of us!
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Oh ani I'm sorry too! I've had those moments.
There was one that just came to mind. I was with my father in Nicaragua and he was really proud that he had just memorized a Psalm (I think). He came to the verse where it says "he knit me together in my mother's womb." Wow did I lose it after that. My pain is still very raw. Hang in there, I think a lot of us can identify with you.
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Ani,
I feel for you. I think those moments always see to hit us at the strangest times too. Your friend sounds like a true friend. That is a blessing, and that she can cry with you with understanding. Take a little extra time for yourself this weekend you deserve it.
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Thank you everyone. I appreciate all the kind words and support.
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(((((((((ANI)))))))))

I so understand.
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