[loveajax]

So I sent DD's birth sister a birthday present (she does not know that DD is her sister...she just turned 5). Anyway, our OA agreement is for yearly visits...we clearly could do more (fairly close location), but DH feels strongly that one visit is what we should do, at least for now (I used to disagree, now I am not so sure, but in any event that's the lay of the land)....I know that DD's birth mom would like to see us more.

Anyway, I felt a little manipulated when I got this ecard today from DD's birth sis....(which was written by her birth mom, obviously, at her age)....DD's birth mom often talks about how much sis wants to see DD, etc. (which I am sure is true)....but anyway, of course it is so sweet, but the "hope to see you again soon" (when of course our next visit is not for 8 months) made me feel bad....Am I reading too much into this (my own guilt perhaps)?

Thank you soooooo much for my birthday present i got sick at school and came home and got it I feel ssoooooo much better. I love the tea set and the dress is really pretty. Love you guys,
Hope to see you again soon,
[SIS' NAME]

[HansenFamAZ]

Unless she slips comments like this in regularly, I wouldn't worry about it. That really may be how sis feels, even though she may not have said it in the exact letter form.

We have not agreement to visits. We have vacationed in DS's Bmom's hometown for several years and this past memorial day (he was 6 months) we let bmom know we would be coming in town. We spent time with her and her 7 year old daughter that does not know about the adoption. (Mom went away for work.) Her daughter loved hanging out with my older girls and asks her mom frequently when we are coming to visit again. Bmom passes that on to me during our calls. My daughters ask the same about her. I don't feel any manipulation going on. Just people sharing they enjoy one another and would like to see each other again. Good Luck!

[Leigh131313]

I think that's a pretty typical closing for a note...I wouldn't feel manipulated unless this is a common thing, kwim?

[mumofone]

I wouldn't be upset with it either.

I say it in my emails to friends or even when talking to them on the phone. Just a typical ending to a conversation for me.

[browneyes0707]

Love, we are so much alike!
But I wouldn't read into it (well, I would, but everyone would tell me not to!) because I could see a 5 year old "writing" that to an aunt or another family member that they see infrequently. It's just a polite closing, KWIM?

But I understand the guilt aspect. And since I like to say "hope to hear from you soon" at the end of MY emails and I DO mean it, I get where you are coming from

[loveajax]

Thanks, guys! I feel like an ogre...I am really (overly) sensitive these days. I mean I am taking something so sweet and reading something negative into it...! Is it too early for a glass of wine?

[browneyes0707]

Well, it IS Friday, so no

[mumofone]

Loveajax, you don't need to apologize. We all over-analyze things at times.

Nah, not too early for a glass of wine....it must be 8:00 p.m. somewhere in the world. lol

[loveajax]

I knew I could count on you guys! Glug glug!

[Vogi2002]

LMAO Just know you are NOT the only one who does this (reads into things)!!

[kelceesmom]

I wouldn't take it that way. Maybe she told her mom that and so she slipped it into the thank you note.

You know maybe she said something like, "mommy I wish we could see them soon."

[thanksgivingmom]

Originally Posted by Vogi2002

LMAO Just know you are NOT the only one who does this (reads into things)!!

I hoped you meant you are not the only one who drinks in the morning! Then I wouldn't have to feel so alone! haha

JK OF COURSE!!!!

[Vogi2002]

Well I won't make any promises about the drinking in the morning thing either! LMAO



The only problem with that is I'm asleep by noon! LOL

[SchmennaLeigh]

Oops. Hope it's not meant to be read into. "Nicholas" signed his most recent note to the Munchkin and her brother in the same way.

*blushes*

[lahdh4]

Originally Posted by loveajax

Thanks, guys! I feel like an ogre...I am really (overly) sensitive these days. I mean I am taking something so sweet and reading something negative into it...! Is it too early for a glass of wine?

I agree with the others. I typically sign all letters "Hope to see you soon" and this is to friends in Florida and Illinois.
And really -- it is never too early for wine. Say you are cooking something for dinner that needs a wine reduction and taste the wine to make sure it is good.