[mommy2jillian]

Hi Ladies, It has been a long time and I wanted to let you all know about the newest issue dd and I are in. After 6 years of marriage my husband left us and confessed to an affair. He left on our ANNIVERSARY and fessed up to the affair the next weekend blaming ME for it because of issues of his family we have had for YEARS!!! My dd is 5 and absolutely distroyed over all this and has had to be put on medication for anxiety. I am so angery at him but have tried for a month now to work out our marriage yesterday I had no choice but to file for divorce... Has anyone else adopted and divorced? How are your children doing with this? I am so upset with the fact that we have this beautiful little girl and promised her the world with a mommy and daddy to love her and he was ruined our lives now. I need so advice and some words of wisedom.... Cindy

[kelceesmom]

First, I am really sorry to hear of your heartache. Just remember that you are only human. Just because you are an adoptive parent doesn't mean that your life is going to be perfect. Love your daughter the same way you always have. Hopefully you and your husband can be civil enough to know that you can both still be in your daughters life as parents.

We will send lots of prayers your way.

[LoveBeingaMom]

Oh, I am so sorry. I have not been in your situation and I can't imagine how you feel but I am sorry you and dd are going through this. I know that doesn't really help any but I thought I would send some words of support. You can do this; you'll make it through.

Just get a good attorney and do not let your emotions stop you from fighting for what you and dd are entitled to. It is so easy to become so despondent and ready to be out that you just give in and take nothing that you should have. I have seen it happen. Sleep on every big decision.

[mommy2jillian]

Thanks for the support so fast ladies... Just remember one thing...don't ever feel your marriage is so good this couldn't happen to you. I was so sure my husband and I had a forever thing... you have to confident in your marriage but never cocky about it. It takes both to make it work adn it is WORK no matter how you look at it. Thanks again!!!

[thanksgivingmom]

Huge hugs to you and to your daughter. I don't have any advice for you but wanted to know that you have support here. (((((((((Cindy))))))))

[lahdh4]

I have a friend who is a birthmom and amom just told her that adad left and they are getting a divorce. You are human, these things happen. It happened to my parents, long story, wont go there.
The most important thing is to take care of you and your daughter. Talk with her. See how she is feeling. Are either of you seeing someone? atleast to help you and help you to talk to DD.

(((HUGS)))

[devildogwife]

Oh my. I am so sorry for the heartache you and your DD are going through right now.

[joskids]

You have every right to be upset. And you are correct that no marriage is so perfect as to be assured of lasting forever. It is something I definitely pray about, for the strength to be committed forever, particularly because we have adopted 4 children together. I have no advice other than to offer my sincere sympathy for what you are presently feeling and to tell you what you likely won't believe at this time . . . that your life and the life of your daughter do not have to be ruined. It will definitely change for both of you. But you, as her mother, have the power to teach her what it is to be strong in the face of adversity. You are her most important role model. I hope that her father understand's the life-altering changes he is about to experience. Please feel free to PM me if you need to vent. I'm a pretty good listener . . .

[akcskye]

I know you've probably already thought about this...especially being DD is on anxiety medication...

But take the extra time to let DD know this is NOT her fault, in any way, shape, or form.

All DD knows is that promises were made, and now daddy isn't keeping them. Why? Is it DD?

DD may not verbalize this...so please, be extra gentle and let DD know that by no means are they the cause of this divorce.

(((HUGS)))

[Untbunny]

I am so sorry for you and DD. While I have no advice I do have an unlimited supply of prayers and good will. May you find peace during this trying time. Much love and warmth to you and DD.

[mommy2jillian]

Ladies you all are amazing thanks again... To answer a few questions posed.... I will say Yes we are both in counseling, yes she is told it is not her fault adn Brian and I do not bash one another to her. He is attending her sessions at counseling with her so he is at least taking some responsibility for that. Please keep the prayers coming because we need them BAD.
Cindy

[mom2justynsarah]

I have no advise for you other than giving you my empathy, support and ((((((((HUGS))))))) Hang in there hon!

[bajj]

I have no advice either. I do have prayers and huge cyber hugs! (((((((((((((((Cindy))))))))))))))))))

[waiting4amiracle]

Sending prayers to you from me, DW and DD...tons & tons & tons or prayers....

[SingleMiamiMom]

I am sorry you are going through this, but remember your daughter needs you now more than ever..Men come and go..but kids are forever and you'll always have your daughter...Take special time for both of you and you never know when love will find you again.

Also, there are many single mothers out there who do a fine job raising their children...