[waiting4amiracle]

The ABC show "Family Secrets" is running an episode around families where pregnancy is hidden and subsequent adoptions.

I know it's been a while since I've posted but I thought you would all find this TV segment of interest. This actually is the very situation our birthmom faced prior to placing her baby girl with us.

Speaking of baby girl....she's doing great! coming up on 12 weeks old, growing (over 22 inches now) and growing (over 10 pounds now!). We're totally in love with her and can't imagine life without her. Life is good....for sure - VERY good.

[tomandcate]

Thanks for the heads up Rob, and CONGRATULATIONS on your baby girl!

I have been wondering about you over the past 2 months (meant to check your name for recent posts but never did) and I missed your 6/1 announcement in the "waiting" thread, so I had no idea you had a baby girl! I am so very happy for you and DW! And now you know that it has all worked out just exactly as it was meant to...wow!

Cate

[Mommy24]

Bumping

[posh]

I am watching the episode right now. I don't know how these girls do it. I am crying my eyes out for them. I was in that situation when I was 16 and my parents tried to get me to give up my daughter. I did keep her however. I am glad these girls have the courage to know what is best for these babies and waiting families. I applaud them!

[vernellinnj]

As a fostermom who initially wanted to pursue private infant adoption, it still amazes me how complex adoption is. It's a process that causes me many mixed emotions. My heart breaks for the birthmoms in the ABC series and surprisingly I don't find myself having as much joy in my heart (for the adoptive parents) as I thought I would have.

The phrase "better life" also leaves me conflicted. As a person raised by "poor" parents, I can unequivocally say that I could not have had a better mother. She never acquired material wealth but she was an amazing woman and, again, I could not have had a better mom.

Complex feelings...it's the best way I can explain how I feel.

[SchmennaLeigh]

I take it that was meant to say 7/24. I missed it because I thought it was next month. Will it be reairing?

[maviskat]

I just finished watching and thought the show was very well done.
I have to say I watched most of it with tears in my eyes as it brought back quite a flood of emotion and memory. It was truly gutwrenching to watch those girls make the decisions they did. I was amazed at the family support they both had....my heart just aches when I think about the total lack of family support our birthparents had, how much they wanted family there with them and none showed up.
I appreciated the ending...seeing the birthmothers about 3 years later and hearing their thoughts regarding their decision. I think it portrayed the birthmothers in a pure, honest and true light...a way that we unfortunately don't see often enough on television shows or news stories.
Well, just my thoughts based on my adoption experience.

[sunflower1220]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

I take it that was meant to say 7/24. I missed it because I thought it was next month. Will it be reairing?

I'm not sure if it will be reairing or not, and I haven't seen it but I did DVR it. I can burn it to DVD and send you a copy if you would like.

[ermiller]

Jenna-

Don't watch it!!!!

I was horrified by it- angry and muttering to tears pouring down my face.

[letsgoshopping]

I watched, and thought the show was well done, I was shocked that there was nothing negative, considering that the media is usually only good at pointing out the bad.

For interesting (and blood boiling) reading...you should go to the Primetime website and read some of the posts in response to the show! I never cease to be amazed by the ignorance of people. (yes, I know that everyone is entitled to their own opinion)

[calee]

I did not think it was well done-I thought it was terrible. I cried the whole time, and my husband was frustrated and shocked. SO many unethical things done and said. The counselor was terrible. The narrator was terrible. That adoption center is terrible. I can not believe that people actually still do things like this, and think it is ok. Reminds me of how things were done in the 1920's.

[mama_again]

Watched it and cried! Could relate to the hospital visit and meeting. Heart breaks for all involved on all sides. Makes me thankful for the openness we have and the relationships we are building on for our little ones future, no secrets...

[BrandyHagz]

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Thanks everyone!

[luvmylittlegirls]

I watched it with my husband and we both found it very, very sad. He pointed out that by making expectant moms LEAVE the maternity home if they changed plans was coercive - basically, the message was, "Either you place (or act like you're going to) or you're outta here." What if a young woman had nowhere else to go???

How sad.

Also, the adoptions counselor never called the mothers... MOTHERS. It was always "she" or "the girl" or something like that. feh.

[lonni]

Callie- I agree. It was disgusting and unethical to say the least IMO.