[traceyk]

I am an adoptive Mommy in the U.S. and came across this story on another forum and it sounded hokey to me, but perhaps your laws are different. So my questions to you all are, wouldn't the b-mom's name be removed from the original b-cert after finalization and wouldn't she have to do a homestudy (she later talks about a live in BF)? It sounds like someone is playing with us.

Unbelievable Adoption/Teen Parent Story

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Ok so this is gonna take some explaining, and it's gonna seem totally unrealistic and unbelievable but it's true. I wanted to post it here for your advice, so look out for the questions at the bottom...

Ok imagine a couple have adopted a baby girl, they are happy everything is fine. But then when this girl is bout 2 1/2 both parents die in a car accident. Neither set of grandparents is able to take care of the child (either deceased or living in a nursing home), the mother is an only child and the dad has a brother but he's travelling in Hong Kong. So what to do?

Well the adoption was open, meaning that the birth mother still had contact with the child. She has never met her, but had received photos and letters from the adoptive parents. And the birth mother always sent the child cards and presents at christmas/birthday.

So on the child's birth certificate is the name of the birth mother and she has been contacted to take this child. She never wanted to give her up, hence the open adoption but has moved on with her life in the last couple of years. She is only 19, her boyfriend lives with her and her family and she's just finishing her first year at university. Three weeks ago she got contacted about her daughter, got told the situation and whether she wanted the child returned to her care.

The birth mother is me.

And over the last 3 weeks I have cried so much over this decision, it was almost like giving her up all over again cos I don't know what is best for my daughter. But I have decided to have her back, and social services said they would be arriving with her on the 4th May. Which was yesterday but she never came.

Her arrival has been postponed because she has food poisoning! I feel so bad for her. Apparently her foster family took her and another child out on wednesday night and she has been being sick and had diarrhoea ever since! It's not the foster family's fault but I really just want my daughter home. It makes me cry just thinking about how she must be so confused and now she's ill. Social services say that she needs 5 days to be well enough to be given to my care.

So here's where I'd like some support, because I have know idea how to handle this.

OMG I'm gonna be a mum, what the hell do I do?
- I know that's a stupid question but how am I gonna handle this?
Calling me mummy?
- Should I be asking her to call me mummy?
My boyfriend...
- I've been with Sam for 2 years now and he moved into my house last September after his parents split up. He is not my daughter's dad and he has no idea how to react with her.
Her name... Ana Maria (her adoptive father was half-spanish)
- I had no input into her name, but I really don't like what they've called her because it's reminds me of someone in a bad way. But what can I do about it?
Any suggestions?
- Is there anything you can suggest to help her adjust to this situation?


I also have some pictures:
http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o...Misc/baby1.png
http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o...Misc/baby2.png
http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o...Misc/baby3.png

Isn't she just so cute! She doesn't really look like me, she looks more like her dad. But I did have blonde hair til I was about 3 so maybe it will get darker.
Sarah xx
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[Leigh131313]

wow.


I would have so many comments on this if i were posting to the OP. Like, how are you going to discuss her parents - her adoption - her return.


not to mention many of my issues with the comments made. For instance, she chose open adoption because she never wanted to give her up.


Sounds like crappy crappola to me Tracey, but you are right, UK moms might have more insight! Here, there is absolutely no record of the birthfamily with the courts or social services - anything like that. As far as anything legal can say, our son is our biological child.