[Hollygirl]

My dh and I were placed with twin boys on 4/22/07. I work from home and I am able to be the full time careiver to the babies. I do medical billing for a physician's office. My office manager called today to say that our physician gave his two weeks notice to the hospital today. My office manager and another provider want to take over his contract to provide our specific service and we should know within 2 weeks if the hospital has accepted our bid for the contract. Even if they do not accept it, I am promised that i will have a job until at least August-September.

My question is this. We are due to finalize our adoption in late October. How will the loss of my job effect this. We will still be able to provide for the boys but it won't be at the same level as we previously stated in our application for the agency. Are they going to take my babies away from me? I am worried sick. Not only is money going to be tight if this happens but I am worried that the agency will think that I can't provide for my boys.

Any insight would be appreciated.

[HBV]

I doubt it will affect your finalization---people change jobs, move, get raises and take paycuts all the time. It wouldn't be in the best interest of your children to be removed just because you may have to change jobs. If you are still doing post placement visits, your social worker may address the issue of how that's going to change your family situation.

If it were me, I'd just give some thought to how you are going to tackle the job issue----what could you do instead? If you take another job, will you need to make daycare plans?

It's not the problem of job loss itself, but rather how you handle it that is important, both to the adoption process and in terms of the example you set for your children.

[jaenelle]

I wouldn't think it would be a problem. I went back to school full-time (had prev. been going part-time only) this past semester and all the social worker did was note that in our post-placement. She did want to know how I was going to balance my time to still be able to spend enough time with Yuna, my husband, etc. and if I thought I could handle it. I know my situation isn't the same as yours but I would think you would be okay. Call your social worker and ask. They should be able to tell you.

[bajj]

It shouldn't affect your ability to finalize. They may want to know a plan, or see a plan for finances, etc. but I don't think they'll remove your babies.

[HappyTwinsMom]

Hollygirl, try not to worry.

My husband (the primary wage-earner at the time) lost his job three weeks after I went back to work *part-time* - our girls were four months old and we didn't finalize until they were six months. Didn't affect us in the slightest.

Big hugs, sweetie!

[kelceesmom]

I wouldn't think it would do anything. I don't even remember in our post placement visits if we were asked if anything changed career ways. They were just interested in how the baby was doing. Things will be fine so don't stress about it.

[adoptiveparenting]

We had a sibling group of 5 placed with us for adoption. During the process, my husband left his job and returned to school f/t. We worried A LOT that this would impact the kids' adoption. We were prepared to make changes in order to keep the kids if necessary, but we were really worried about how the social worker would use this information.

We were surprised that they didn't do anything. They just asked us if everything was okay and added to the homestudy update that dh was in school. They didn't even ask us to do a new financial!

I would think that, at most, like others have mentioned you may be asked for new financials or to explain your new family plan without you working. At worst, they may ask you to verify financial info, that you'd be able to support the family without that job - and if not, they may want to see that you'd be willing to do whatever it takes to support your little babies - not to move immediately to remove them. That would be in noone's best interest.

Good luck!
Theresa - mom to many

[Hollygirl]

Thanks for all the re-assuring responses. My DH has been telling me all weekend that I am worrying for nothing. I tend to do that anyway!!!!

As of this morning...it looks like I am going to be able to keep my job. Please say a prayer for me.