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Old 04-30-2007, 12:18 PM
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Unhappy FAILED Adoption
Hi everyone,
Now I'm living my worst nightmare. Our Domestic adoption failed. The potential birth mother text messaged me about 1 hour ago stating the following "I'm so sorry, but I have already given away one of my children, I can't do it again." I am crushed beyond belief. I don't know how I'll get past this. I know I will, but not sure how just yet. I knew this could happen, but I was "hopeful". I just keep thinking, how will I go through another Domestic adoption or a Guatemalan adoption with all the uncertainty. When will I ever feel normal again?

-Jaimee
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Old 04-30-2007, 12:33 PM
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I am so so sorry. I can't imagine the pain. You WILL move forward...but you have to allow yourself some time to grieve...and hurt. Gosh, I was praying so hard for it to work for you. It's just so hard....that empty feeling is the worst...everything feels so empty...your house, your arms.

I will pray for you to find some peace!
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Old 04-30-2007, 01:00 PM
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I am so sorry. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Old 04-30-2007, 01:04 PM
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I'm sorry isn't enough
"I'm sorry" just doesn't seem like enough to say to someone in such pain. I understand, I'll pray for you, my heart aches for you. Wish there was more I could do until your intended child is placed in your arms. It just hurts so badly to go through this.
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Old 04-30-2007, 01:05 PM
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My heart goes out to you. I'll pray for you to heal. Take care of yourself

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Old 04-30-2007, 01:20 PM
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Unfortunately many of us here on this forum have been through this before...but I want you to know that you will get past this, you are stronger than you think. Please allow yourself time to grieve and lean on those around you who offer you support. We are all here to help you through this time. Many prayers are being offered for you!
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Old 04-30-2007, 01:43 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your family.
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Old 04-30-2007, 01:48 PM
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I am so sorry you are going through this. You are in my thoughts.
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Old 04-30-2007, 02:04 PM
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I am going through the same thing - our birthmother changd her mind after we spent two days bonding with her. The pain is almost two much to take. Let me know if I can do anything.

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Old 04-30-2007, 02:30 PM
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These are difficult times for you. Grieve your loss. Take it one hour at a time. Know we all will keep you in our prayers and that you find peace and that your forever baby will be with you soon.
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Old 04-30-2007, 03:10 PM
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Oh Jaimee,
I am so sorry to hear this! There are no words that I can share .... you are in our thoughts and prayers.
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Old 04-30-2007, 03:21 PM
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I am also so sorry. As another who has been through the experience, I know too well the thought of "how will I ever be hopeful in another match again?" Honestly, it was more difficult, but worth the emotional risk. For now though, you need to grieve the loss of THIS little one.

The loss is great, and so is the pain. My heart hurts for what you're going through.
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Old 04-30-2007, 05:30 PM
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Jaimee.... I have been thinking about you all day! I know how you feel and I wish I could take the pain away. I'm sending you lots of love and will be praying for you and your family.PM me if you need someone to talk to.
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Old 04-30-2007, 05:45 PM
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I am so sorry you are going through this pain.
I will be praying for you.
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Old 04-30-2007, 05:55 PM
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I'm so sorry. That's really all I can say.
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