[Mongoose]

I'm not even close to starting the adoption process so there's no such thing as "my kids" in the foreseeable future... But some times I miss my kids terribly, notwithstanding. Is it just me, or does anyone else miss kids they don't have?

[Synesthesia]

I do.
I keep thinking about them and hoping I am a good parent when I get them.
I can't even wait to meet them.

[cvalda]

Definately! I wake up every morning with of course my own kids on my mind, but also thinking that I wonder what my future sons are doing today; did they sleep well last night? etc etc etc I worry every day that they don't know they have a forever family and a mama who loves them very much already, and I don't even know who they are yet!!! I try to remind myself that every day brings us closer to being together, but I often feel like every day that passes builds the bonding gap even greater!

;~) Kelly

[rebekah1982]

I work at a daycare and everyday I think about what i would be like to have my child home with me.

[StacieGates]

Definitely! I felt that way when we were waiting for our daughters from Colombia. I feel that way now while we're waiting for our next daughter to be brought into the family!

It's an amazing thing what happens in a mama's heart during an adoption. It definitely gives meaning to the expression about how the boys grew in my tummy but the girls grew in my heart.

Stacie

[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I dreamed, imagined, and ached for my children for years. When you have such a deep desire for something that is so close to you I think it is only natural. Of course all my dreams were nothing compared to the real thing now...I should have dreamed bigger!

[rsbg]

Absolutely! I think that is God's way of preparing us... while we can't feel them move in our bellies, or even know who they are, he is preparing our hearts for the love that child will need. I haven't met her yet, but I know the love in my heart for her is just as real as the boys I gave birth to. I consider it a labor of the heart, instead of physical labor that Mom's that give birth endure.

[Synesthesia]

Is this why I keep dreaming of adopting kids? Mostly I keep thinking of this little cub that hasn't even been born yet and how difficult his first months will be... Whether he's in an orphanage, or in foster care, it will sitll be so hard for him and I keep worrying about how I will help him deal with his grief and help him adjust to such a strange new life. Just the other day I was nearly in tears thinking about him and how sad it all is, he'll be so little, and his life will start off so badly.
I just hope I can be a good parent to him and help him deal with his emotions instead of making him hide them to make myself feel better, I hope I can be a good parent to him and his future brothers and sisters. It's worrying me constantly.

[mommy3]

In many ways, this is why we did a 2nd adoption. I had this it-won't-let-go-of-me feeling that there was a little girl still for us (3rd child, 2nd daughter). My dh, dd and ds initially were surprised (very) that I hadn't let go of this calling for another child. I did miss her, much as you described, and felt she belonged with us. She's now 16 mos. old and we all can't imagine our family without her. I really hadn't described the feeling before as "missing her" but that fits it well. That assurance in my heart helped me stay the course through a fair amount of scams and drama, but I kept feeling this was so right, imagining her with us. susan

[Dhewco]

Absolutely, It's what makes every setback that much harder. I was going to start the process this year...now I don't see it happening until at least next year. I'll be 34! Ouch!


David

[Mongoose]

I'm so glad so many people feel this way too! I thought I was crazy. Thanks everyone for sharing!