[Stormster]

Will not be coming home with us. We prayed and spoke to lawyers both in Texas and NY and there is just no way. His mother is hysterical....she so wanted this adoption to take place. She has to take Ryan back to her trailer where 8 people live! They have no electricity or car. They aren't changing his name, not only has she asked us to be godparents but also offered to be a surrogate as soon as she heals. (I told her no way, her body has been through enough having five kids but we were touched) My husband and I have gotten so close to her and her boyfriend and we are from such different worlds. Yet the connection is so deep. She is the strongest most amazing woman I have ever met in my life. 31, Got off Meth, Lost her Kids, In school and working to get them back and almost there. She's been clean for 2 years and now she felt she was doing the first unselfish thing in her life. We were both crying so hard for the other. She for my infertility and me for her struggle. She felt she had failed somehow because she was doing something special but I told her it was the intention that should make her feel good, the fact that it wasn't possible was out of her control.

I won't go on. I guess what I'm trying to say is I feel somehow different after this experience. It was the worst experience of my life. I'm alone in this motel outside Austin Texas, my husband left today, we've been threatened by the father and his sister....they found out we are still in town, guess they wanted a little Texas Justice. They said they were bringing the sheriff!!!

I feel blessed having met this woman. We will find our baby but no way will we name him Ryan. There is only one Ryan!
Love, G.
PS Her boyfriend and Ryan are taking me to the airport. What a strange outcome.

[kakuehl]

I hope she's suing the father big time for support!!!

I think you should have offered to call the sheriff first (or maybe the state police..)

I'm so sorry for all of you (except idiot dad and his sister - and I grieve for him and his short sightedness!)

Ryan will always be a part of your life... my prayers are with you in this time of loss.

[Stormster]

The Dad said to Mom, and I quote:

"No way am I letting any YANKEES raise my child"

First of all, wasn't the Civil War a really long time ago? I didn't know people still used that term, honestly I didn't.

I don't know. All I know is the tears won't stop I swear they are coming out of my ears!

I really like this emoticon, it's cute right? I need a little cute right now.

[time2grow]

Ahh stormster, I am so so sorry. I really hoped things would turn around for you. Just don't expect to much from yourself for the next while. Give yourself time to heal. We're all here for you and sending your way.

[kakuehl]

Originally Posted by Stormster

The Dad said to Mom, and I quote:

Originally Posted by Stormster

"No way am I letting any YANKEES raise my child"

First of all, wasn't the Civil War a really long time ago? I didn't know people still used that term, honestly I didn't.

I don't know. All I know is the tears won't stop I swear they are coming out of my ears!

I really like this emoticon, it's cute right? I need a little cute right now.

I take it you've never heard of the War of Northern Agression! In the eyes of some Southerners (not all rednecks) it has never and will never end.


Perhaps we should remind him that some people think that Texas was stolen from Mexico! ( Actually, I don't recommend it!)

Don't forget to take asperin or tylenol for the headache that goes with the tears.

[jjlutefisk]

I am so sorry you have had to go through this. I have been thinking about you all day and hoping for a different outcome.

[Stormster]

I love all of you. Seriously. Alone here I don't know what I'd do. I'm so thankful for these boards.

And I am thankful for whomever's wireless connection I am piggy backing....I can't figure out where I'm getting a connection in this isolated motel??!!

[lahdh4]

(((hugs)))

[Mommy24]

Thinking of you (((hugs)))

[Lovebug]

I am sooo sorry to read this news...been praying for a different outcome. {{{Hugs}}}

We are all here for you!

--Renee

[mommy3]

Stormster -- I just have to add my support. You've been through so much and still respect the bond you've created with Ryan's mother. Hugs and love to you -- you aren't alone, as you know, but I understand from our failed adoption and failed matches how lonely it can feel. May the healing begin and may your baby find you soon. susan

[Stormster]

I have been trying to figure out the reason for this journey to Texas. I could NOT figure out the lesson. DH says it was no lesson, life just sucks sometimes.

But I think I had to feel the pain that mothers experience when they place their children for adoption. I'm not sure why I had to learn that...but it feels really important. A really important rite of passage in this journey.

The mother and I literally switched roles and ended up supporting each other. It was like we were two sides of the same woman. Does that make any sense?

[myccg2004]

I just read your story and all I can do is say I am so sorry this has happened to you. It just plain stinks. I will be thinking about you and your DH. Take care of yourself.

[Mommy24]

This is my belief, ALL things happpen for a reason, for a purpose. We may not see the reason or purpose today, maybe not for a long while, but someday you may just see it. It does just stink though and I am extremely sorry you have had to go through this!

[nycfsa]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Having traveled cross country for a placement myself, I can understand how devastated you must be. I hope you find your baby soon.

Also, btw, I had a college roommate in Virginia who called me "yankee" for a whole year (I'm from NJ and she's from Appomattox, VA...guess they still have a problem with the whole surrender thing )