[jjlutefisk]

Our emom is in labor! We had thought she changed her mind but that was just a miscommunication with the social worker. The worker called a bit ago to tell me that she is in labor. We may even get to go to the hospital to see her.

Any advice from those who have been there? This is not an adoption friendly hospital so we can only go to visit her. What gift should I bring?

[bajj]

You should ask your sw about the gift because different states have different laws about how much you can spend and even when you can give a gift. We were able to give a small gift after placement, not before and not during placement.

I always think a basket full of different pampering items is a good gift. Bubblebaths, and shower gels, a magazine or two, etc. I have heard of some people who will go to a build a bear place and have two bears built exactly alike, one for the emom and one for the baby. Then they include the bear in most pics they take so she can see how much baby has grown.

[mommy2jillian]

Congrats!!!!! Let us know as soon as you find out more infor.... We are Indiana and I took a bouqet of flowers and a phone card as our b-mom lived and hour away from were birth took place. I agree with bajj that you need to confirm what is acceptable withthe SW or attorney. Cindy

[alpacamommy]

Perhaps she is a tea or coffee drinker and you could get her some specialty teas or coffees.

[maviskat]

We brought our firstmom a bathrobe and slippers(in her favorite color) and flowers while she was in the hospital. When she was leaving the hospital we brought her a photo album with some pictures we had already taken of the baby and promised her we would send more to fill it up. We also gave her a bracelet with a locket in which we placed 2 pictures of the baby. She called us a few days later to tell us how much she loved the bracelet and said she would never take it off.

Best off luck to you and your emom and the baby!!

Kathy

P.S. I can't imagine a hospital being "not adoption friendly"! What a shame! Ours was wonderful to all involved.

[kelceesmom]

Bajj is correct first check with your sw about gifts.

Along with the pampering you could maybe give a nice fluffy robe to keep her warm.

Congratulations and can't wait to hear the details.

[katd402]

I am so excited for you guys! I agree, definitely check with sw about state laws. I've read some people give her a locket to put a picture of the baby in. I love the Build A Bear idea! Keep us posted!

[MichelleL11]

If after you check and find you can bring a gift, this is what we did:

A very tasteful understated necklace having the baby's birthstone for our daughter's birthmom and a flower arrangement for our daughter's birthgrandma. Birthmom is very young and the pregnancy was a surprise so birthgrandma was really the driving force in getting the adoption plan in place and we felt we needed to acknowledge that in some way.

Good luck and hope to read of happy news soon.

[2manyks]

our baby is going to be born on monday and my DH and i just got back from shopping for the perfect gift. pbm already wears a heartshaped necklace from the aparents of her other child, so i bought her a bracelet. it is very pretty. i also bought a watch for the pbdad. he seems to have been left out of the previous experience. a photo album and disposable cameras. i will bring flowers to the hospital on monday, bracelet after tpr. good luck and keep us posted.

D

[jjlutefisk]

She had the baby yesterday and he's a boy. I'm waiting for a phone call right now to see if we're invited to the hospital. The social worker is calling her to see if she feels like she still wants to move forward.

I'm so nervous right now!

I got her a book because she said she likes to read inspirational books and we're getting her some flowers. After tpr, we are going to get her another gift.

We have been waiting 18 months and had one failed match. I just can't hardly believe that it's finally going to happen for us!

[KansasMomToBe]

How exciting!!! I so hope this all works out for you and your family!!!

Joanne

[mom2GRLC]

I'm so happy for you. Keep us posted on what is happening. I hope you get to see your baby soon.

[katd402]

I'm so excited for you guys! We're all thinking about and praying for you!

[StorkWatcher]

Congrats! Will be thinking about you all weekend!

[kelceesmom]

Wonderful news. Can't wait to hear all the wonderful details.