[BestLight]

Flatteringly copying from a birthparent thread.

Was/Is there a song that symbolizes (any part of) your journey to become a family?

[loveajax]

I'll never forget driving into a clinic to "confirm" what I already knew...my one and only pg (after years of IF and treatments) was a bust...

Anyway, Bob Marley came on the radio...No Woman No Cry. I was bawling my eyes out, and the part came on and said: "Everything's gonna be all right...everything's gonna be all right!" And I just blasted it so hard to make me stop crying.....

The ironic thing is that the only thing that used to make DD "calm down" in the car was when we blasted Bob Marley....During one ride when she was an infant with Bob blaring, I sat in the back seat with her and held her hand....and Dh's hand in the other.....Did I mention I love Bob Marley? Everything did turn out "all right"!

Anyway, great idea for a thread!!

[BestLight]

Here's mine. I was scared to pieces for the TTC procedures, which we were having done while living in a 2nd world country. I listened to this song over and over again while trying to build up my courage. But I just didn't want to be in the position to NEED the treatments.

I know I wasn't facing a literal death, but I felt it with the same gravity.

This is from Jesus Christ Superstar, where Jesus is first angry at God, and then accepting of God's will. The orchestration is amazing, as is the soul-wrenching voice of Ian Gillan (Deep Purple).

Gethsemane
I only want to say,
If there is a way,
Take this cup away from me
For I don't want to taste its poison.
Feel it burn me,
I have changed.
I'm not as sure, as when we started.

Then, I was inspired.
Now, I'm sad and tired.
Listen, surely I've exceeded expectations,
Tried for three years, seems like thirty.
Could you ask as much from any other man?

But if I die,
See the saga through and do the things you ask of me,
Let them hate me, hit me, hurt me, nail me to their tree.
I'd want to know, I'd want to know, My God,
I'd want to know, I'd want to know, My God,
Want to see, I'd want to see, My God,
Want to see, I'd want to see, My God,
Why I should die.

Would I be more noticed than I ever was before?
Would the things I've said and done matter any more?
I'd have to know, I'd have to know, my Lord,
Have to know, I'd have to know, my Lord,
Have to see, I'd have to see, my Lord,
Have to see, I'd have to see, my Lord,
If I die what will be my reward?
If I die what will be my reward?
Have to know, I'd have to know, my Lord,
I'd have to know, I'd have to know, my Lord,
Why should I die? Oh why should I die?

Can you show me now that I would not be killed in vain?
Show me just a little of your omnipresent brain.
Show me there's a reason for your wanting me to die.
You're far to keen and where and how, but not so hot on why.
Alright, I'll die!
Just watch me die!
See how I die!

Then I was inspired.
Now, I'm sad and tired.
After all, I've tried for three years, seems like ninety.
Why then am I scared to finish what I started,
What you started - I didn't start it.

God, thy will is hard,
But you hold every card.
I will drink your cup of poison.
Nail me to your cross and break me,
Bleed me, beat me,
Kill me.
Take me, now!
Before I change my mind.

[jaenelle]

This is mine... Bless The Broken Road by Rascal Flatts.


I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you

Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

I think about the years I spent just passing through
I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true

Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

[mom2justynsarah]

All I remember is once I found out I was having a boy (after 3 failed IVF attempts), the song "Beautiful Boy" from John Lennon came on the radio. Even now (after 8 years) I still get a lump in my throat when I hear that song. Here are the lyrics.

Close your eyes, have no fear.
The monster's gone. He's on the run, and your daddy's here (I replaced daddy with mommy) .

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful beautiful boy.
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful beautiful boy.

Before you go to sleep, say a little prayer.
Ev'ry day, in ev'ry way, it's getting better.

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful beautiful boy.
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful beautiful boy.

Out on the ocean, sailing away.
I can hardly wait to see you come of age.
But I guess we'll both just have to be patient.

'Cause it's a long way to go, a hard row to hoe.
Yes, it's a long way to go, but in the meantime,
before you cross the street, take my hand.
Life is what happens to you while your busy making other plans.

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful beautiful boy.
Darling, darling, darling, darling..Justin...

The song that has stuck with me once I found out Dee (bmom) was having a girl was "Butterfly Kisses."
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[bagletkt]

I don't know this song just fits . . .
It is by Gary Allen
Title:Life Ain't Always Beautiful

Life ain't always beautiful
Sometimes it's just plain hard
Life can knock you down, it can break your heart

Life ain't always beautiful
You think your on your way
And it's just a dead end road at the end of the day

But the struggles make you stronger
And the changes make you wise
And happiness has its own was of takin' its sweet time

No life ain't alway beautiful
Tears will fall sometimes
Life ain't always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride

Life ain't always beautiful
Some days I miss your smile
I get tired of walkin' all these lonely miles

And I wish for just one minute
I could see your pretty face
Guess I can dream, but life don't work that way

But the stuggles make you stronger
And the changes make me wise
And happiness has its own way of takin' its sweet time

Now life ain't always beautiful
But I know I'll be fine
Hey life ain't always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride
What a beautiful ride

[Lovebug]

I don't have all the lyrics memorized, but when we were waiting for DS, I was watching Oprah and saw Celine Dion. She sang "A New Day" and it hit me so hard! I knew we would be blessed with a little boy and a few months later we got our call. That song makes me bawl!

--Renee

[sadiegirl]

Mine is "Ordinary World" by Duran Duran.

During my 4 m/c's, I would just sing over and over in my head...

"I won't cry for yesterday
there's an ordinary world
somehow I have to find.

And as I try to make my way
to the ordinary world,
I will learn to survive."

It somehow always made me feel better, like I'd make it (and I did...I did survive).

Good thread!

[rsbg]

Mine is "Alyssa Lies" by Jason Michael Carroll. We are in the process of being licensed to adopt a little girl through the state. We were working on her room, feeling a little discouraged by the class we took that week-wondering if we were making the right decision for our family when this song came on the radio.... needless to say, it was just what we needed to hear. I had to stop painting because I could not see through the tears in my eyes. A VERY GOOD REMINDER WHY WE ARE DOING THIS.....

Here are the lyrics:


My little girl met a new friend just the other day

On the playground at school between the tires and the swing
And she came home with tear-filled eyes

When she said to me daddy, Alyssa lies

Well, I just brushed it off at first

cuz I didnt know how much my little girl had been hurt
Or the things that she had seen
I wasnt ready when I said you can tell me

She said Alyssa lies to the classroom

Alyssa lies everyday at school
Alyssa lies to the teachers
As she tries to cover every bruise

My little girl laid her head down that night to go to sleep

As I stepped out the room, I heard her say a prayer so soft and sweet
God bless my mom and my dad
And my new friend Alyssa, oh, I know she needs you bad

Because Alyssa lies to the classroom
Alyssa lies everyday at school
Alyssa lies to the teachers
As she tries to cover every bruise

I had the worst night of sleep in years
As I tried to think of a way to calm her fears
I knew exactly what I had to do
But when we got to school on Monday, I heard the news

My little girl asked me why everybody looked so sad

The lump in my throat grew bigger with every question that she asked
Until I felt the tears run down my face
And I told her that Alyssa wouldnt be at school today

Cuz she doesnt lie in the classroom
She doesnt lie anymore at school
Alyssa lies with Jesus
Because theres nothing anyone would do

Tears filled my eyes when my little girl asked me why Alyssa lies

Oh daddy, oh daddy tell me why Alyssa lies

[kelceesmom]

Mine is a simple song. I knew one day I would sing to my little girl everyday You are my sunshine.

[saxxxy]

Our daughter's Birth Mom played a Sarah Brightman cd the night our daughter was born. The cd played over and over all night while Birth Mom labored and dh and I slept on and off. The song that stands out to my husband and I and has a lot of meaning for that night and the following couple of days is 'Who Wants to Live Forever'. I still cry two and a half years later listening to it and thinking of our daughter's Mom saying her goodbyes.

Here are the lyrics:

There's no time for us
There's no place for us
What is this thing that builds our dreams
Yet slips away from us.

Who wants to live forever?
Who wants to live forever?
Ooh...

There's no chance for us
It's all decided for us
This world has only one sweet moment
Set aside for us.

Who wants to live forever?
Who wants to live forever?
Ooh...

Now touch my tears with your lips
Touch my world with your fingertips
And we can have forever
And we can love forever
Forever is our today.

Who wants to live forever?
Who wants to live forever?
Ooh...

Who waits forever anyway?

[mom2GRLC]

I had a couple really special songs.

When I was younger I used to listen to the Micheal Mc Clain song "from gods arms to my arms to yours" and it always put me to tears.

Then right before we began the fostering process another special song came on the radio. It was "the Little Girl" by John Micheal Montgomery.

[traceyk]

"You'll be Blessed" by Elton John

Hey you, you're a child in my head
You haven't walked yet
Your first words have yet to be said
But I swear you'll be blessed

I know you're still just a dream
your eyes might be green
Or the bluest that I've ever seen
Anyway you'll be blessed

And you, you'll be blessed
You'll have the best
I promise you that
I'll pick a star from the sky
Pull your name from a hat
I promise you that, promise you that, promise you that
You'll be blessed

I need you before I'm too old
To have and to hold
To walk with you and watch you grow
And know that you're blessed

[redbonec]

Today I put on a Disney collection CD and K started to get fussy. I started swaying with her to the next song with her head against me, because it was a slow sweet song. Midway through, it reminded me of her, me, my husband, and our daughter's birthmother, who first loved her. The lyrics seemed just right. I have played it many more times today, and hummed it to her during and after her bath.
I didn't know it before today, but now it has a special place for me.
From "The Rescuers"
Music: Sammy Fain
Lyrics: Carol Connors and Ayn Robbins

Be brave, little one
Make a wish for each sad little tear
Hold your head up, though no one is near
Someone's waiting for you

Don't cry, little one
There'll be a smile where a frown used to be
You'll be part of the love that you see
Someone's waiting for you

Always keep a little prayer in your pocket
And you're sure to see the light
Soon there'll be joy and happiness
And your little world will be bright

Have faith, little one
Till your hopes and your wishes come true
You must try to be brave, little one
Someone's waiting to love you

[kate298]

the song that will always get me through is My Name, deals with loss, either failed match or miscarriage, by George Canyon. if you want you can go to CMT.com - Country Music Television - Music Videos, News, Artists and CMT Shows then search George Canyon, and listen to the music video but lyrics are as follows
George Canyon - My Name Lyrics

It’s cold in here fells like everything’s upside down
I can feel you talking but I can barley make out the sound
I been kicking around these parts, feels like a year
I’m gonna change this world if I ever get out of here
She wants to dress me in pink, paint’s my bedroom blue
And I just laugh to myself, because only I know the truth
This love is my only emotion
Haven’t learned any fear any pain
It’s kind of funny with all this commotion
I guess they’ve got me, to blame
And they don’t even know my name
And they don’t even know my name
Well I’ve never felt so ready, think it’s finally time
Cause that big old world is waiting, and it’s mine all mine
Just then everything got real quiet, it got real bright
And a man took my hand said don’t worry, your mommas gonna be alright
Then he opened the gate, & I followed him in
Said you can wait right, here till it’s your turn again
And his love is the one true emotion
Heaven knows no fear no pain
I never got to set my wheels in motion
But they loved me just the same
And they never even knew name
Didn’t even know my name
You loved me just the same
And you didn’t even know my name