[devildogwife]

Can I share the song that has comforted me as I have mourned my miscarriages?

Twila Paris-A Visitor From Heaven

A visitor from heaven,
If only for a while
A gift of love to be returned
We think of you and smile.
A visitor from heaven,
Accompanied by grace
Reminding of a better love and of a better place.
With aching hearts and empty arms,
We send you with a name.
It hurts so much to let you go,
But we're so glad you came.
We're so glad you came.
A visitor from heaven,
If only for a day
We thank Him for the time He gave
And now it's time to say
We trust you to the Father's love
And to His tender care
Held in the everlasting arms
And we're so glad you're there
We're so glad you're there.
With breaking hearts and open hands,
We send you with a name
It hurts so much to let you go
But we're so glad you came,
We're so glad you came.

[mlb]

This song came out about two months before we adopted our son. I cry every time I hear it.

Artist: Savage Garden Lyrics
Song: I Knew I Loved You Lyrics


Maybe it's intuition
but some things you just don't question
Like in your eyes, I see my future in an instant
And there it goes,
I think I found my best friend
I know that it might sound
more than a little crazy
but I believe...

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

There's just no rhyme or reason
Only the sense of completion
And in your eyes, I see
the missing pieces I'm searching for
I think I've found my way home
I know that it might sound
more than a little crazy
but I believe...

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

A thousand angels dance around you
I am complete now that I've found you

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

[sadiegirl]

I almost forgot and then I heard this song tonight! It esp describes "waiting" and the emotions you run thru.

Lifehouse-Hanging by a Moment (aren't all the waiters?)

Desperate for changing
Starving for truth
I'm closer to where I started
Chasing after you
I'm falling even more in love with you
Letting go of all I've held onto
I'm standing here until you make me move
I'm hanging by a moment here with you

Forgetting all I'm lacking
Completely incomplete
I'll take your invitation
You take all of me now...

I'm falling even more in love with you
Letting go of all I've held onto
I'm standing here until you make me move
I'm hanging by a moment here with you
I'm living for the only thing I know
I'm running and not quite sure where to go
And I don't know what I'm diving into
Just hanging by a moment here with you

There's nothing else to lose
There's nothing else to find
There's nothing in the world
That can change my mind
There is nothing else
There is nothing else
There is nothing else

Desperate for changing
Starving for truth
I'm closer to where I started
Chasing after you....

I'm falling even more in love with you
Letting go of all I've held onto
I'm standing here until you make me move
I'm hanging by a moment here with you
I'm living for the only thing I know
I'm running and not quite sure where to go
And I don't know what I'm diving into
Just hanging by a moment here with you

Just hanging by a moment (here with you)
Hanging by a moment (here with you)
Hanging by a moment here with you

[billysmommy]

Mine too, is You Are My Sunshine. I sang this to my daughter every single night as we fought the contested adoption. She fell asleep every time before I got to ...please don't take my sunshine away. I now know it was a sign that she would stay with us.

[blessedbybug]

Music is what keeps me sane, then and now... through it all... I'll share three but really, I could go on and on about different songs and how they helped me on this journey.

I Will Be Here
by Stephen Curtis Chapman

Tomorrow mornin’ if you wake up
And the sun does not appear
I will be here

If in the dark we lose sight of love
Hold my hand and have no fear
‘Cause I will be here

I will be here
When you feel like bein’ quiet
When you need to speak your mind
I will listen

And I will be here
When the laughter turns to cryin’
Through the winnin’ and losin’ and tryin’
We’ll be together
‘Cause I will be here

Tomorrow mornin’ if you wake up
And the future is unclear
I’ll be here
Just as sure as seasons are made for change
Our lifetimes are made for years
I will be here

I will be here
You can cry on my shoulder
When the mirror tells us we’re older
I will hold you

And I will be here
To watch you grow in beauty
And tell you all the things you are to me
I will be here

I will be true
To the promise I have made
To you and to the One who gave you to me
I will be here

And just as sure as seasons are made for change
Our lifetimes are made for years
‘Cause I will be here….
We’ll be together, forever
‘Cause I will be here
I will be here

A friend sang this at our wedding. We'd listen to it especially in the low times and remember that we were in this together even on the days when it felt like the sun just wouldn't/couldn't come up.



Thought You'd Be Here
by Wes King from A Room Full of Stories

Thought you'd be here
by Wes King

We thought you'd be here by now
Your mother and I
We're praying through our tears that somehow
We might hear your sweet cry
Have we waited too long
It's getting harder to be strong
Is there something we've done wrong

But if you like dancing
I'll make it rain rhythm and rhyme and melodies, child
And if you like dreaming
Your mother will make your imagination run wild
Somehow, we thought you'd be here by now

We have a room just for you upstairs
It's right down the hall
So we'll be close should you ever get scared
We'll come when you call
It's a room full of stories
Waiting to be told
Longing to behold

And if you like laughing
I'll plaint you a circus of smiles and ferris wheels, dear
And if you like living
Your mother will fly you to worlds both far and near
Somehow . . .

I never knew the silence could make me so deaf
I never knew I could miss someone I've never met
Miss someone I haven't met yet
We'll be waiting

This one is hanging on Bug's wall to help us remember "our room..." and how the silence lifted when she arrived... actually, this whole CD was amazing when I just needed to get away from it all...

It's Gonna Be Alright

It's gonna be alright. It's gonna be alright
I can tell by your eyes that you're not getting any sleep
And you try to rise above it, but you're sinking in too deep
Oh, oh I believe, I believe that...
It's gonna be alright. It's gonna be alright.

I believe you'll outlive this pain in your heart
And you'll gain such a strength from what is tearing you apart
Oh, oh I believe, I believe that...
It's gonna be alright. It's gonna be alright.

When some time has past us, and the story can be told
It will mirror the strength and the courage of your soul
Oh, oh I believe, I believe...

I did not come here to offer you cliches
I will not pretend to know all your pain
Just when you cannot, the I will hold out faith,
FOR YOU
It's gonna be alright. It's gonna be alright.

(c) 2005 Sara Groves Music
~ From her album "Add To The Beauty"

Ah this one... in our second wait, there were many days it felt harder than the first. Unimaginable I know, but there were so many things in addition to waiting for Roo that weighed heavy on us.

[dawnrenee58]

Last year, around this time, I was on my way to Lansing, MI for another visit to the authentications office for our dossier paperwork. I was so depressed, wanting my son home, and knowing that Christmas was coming. I started listening to a radio show and they played this song. It is by Steven Curtis Chapman, and is on his Christmas albumn. I SOBBED. I had to pull over because I could not see. Now, this year, my sister is singing it at his dedication. God is so good.

All I really Want

Well, I don't know if you remember me or not
I'm one of the kids they brought in from the home
I was the red-haired boy in an old, green flannel shirt
You may not have seen me, I was standing off alone

I didn't come and talk to you 'cause that's never worked before
And you'll probably never see this letter, anyway
But just in case there's something you can do to help me out
I'll ask you one more time

All I really want for Christmas is someone to tuck me in
A shoulder to cry on if I lose, shoulders to ride on if I win
There's so much I could ask for, but there's just one thing I need
All I really want for Christmas is a family

Well, I guess I should go ahead and tell you now
If it's really true about that list you have
Somehow I always seem to end up in a fight
But I'm really trying hard not to be bad

But maybe if I had a brother or a dad to wrestle with
Maybe they could teach me how to get along
And from everything I've heard, it sounds like the greatest gift on earth
Would be a mom

All I want for Christmas is someone who'll be here
To sing me happy birthday for the next 100 years
And It's okay if they're not perfect or even if they're a little broken
That's alright, 'Cause so am I

Well, I guess I should go, it's almost time for bed
Maybe next time I write you I'll be at home

`Cause all I really want for Christmas is someone to tuck me in
Tell me I'll never be alone, someone whose love will never end
Of all that I could ask for, well, there's just one thing I need
All I really want for Christmas is a family

[Lissa]

Kermit still chokes me up! I sang this to Liddy almost the whole flight home from China.

RAINBOW CONNECTION
Kermit the Frog

Why are there so many
Songs about rainbows
And what's on the other side
Rainbow's are visions
They're only illusions
And rainbows have nothing to hide
So we've been told and some chose to
Believe it
But I know they're wrong wait and see

Someday we'll find it
The Rainbow Connection
The lovers, the dreamers and me

Who said that every wish
Would be heard and answered
When wished on the morning star
Somebody thought of that
And someone believed it
And look what it's done so far
What's so amazing
That keeps us star gazing
What so we think we might see

Someday we'll find it
That Rainbow Connection
The lovers the dreamers and me

Have you been half asleep
And have you heard voices
I've heard them calling my name
Are these the sweet sounds that called
The young sailors
I think they're one and the same
I've heard it too many times to ignore it
There's something that I'm supposed to be

Someday we'll find it
The Rainbow Connection
The lovers, the dreamers and me

[cxk04d]

DawnRenee
We are in the process of waiting and I just heard this Steven Curtis Chapman song. I bawled my eyes out. Waiting is so hard because there are so many children out there needing good homes.

[NJNative]

Originally Posted by kelceesmom

Mine is a simple song. I knew one day I would sing to my little girl everyday You are my sunshine.

My mom, who provided child care for my son when he was small, used to sing that to him ALL the time. By the time he was 2, he knew all the words.

Of course, when he was 2 1/2 and we were walking while on vacation, I heard him singing something to hiimself softly. What was it? "All my exes live in Texas" ROFL. He knew the words too...Pop-pop liked to listen to country music in the car.

Robin

[timni]

I second Rascal Flatts - Broken Road. I made the mistake of telling my husband what it meant to me and for the first 6 months of my daughters life he played it all the time and I would just cry and cry.

[Deeelirious]

After 3 failed matches (one REALLY ugly one) I was near the end of my rope. I wanted so bad to stop wanting children so I could get off the ride.
I heard this song on the radio and fell in love and I found myself singing/screaming it alot in the car with tears pouring out of my eyes.

When I was overwhelmed with sadness or frustration I would look up and say, "I need a sign!!"

It's by Train
Album: My Private Nation
Song Title: Calling All Angels

Here are the lyrics.

I need a sign to let me know you’re here
All of these lines are being crossed over the atmosphere
I need to know that things are gonna look up
‘Cause I feel us drowning in a sea spilled from a cup

When there is no place safe and no safe place to put my head
When you feel the world shake from the words that are said

I need a sign to let me know you’re here
‘Cause my TV set just keeps it all from being clear
I want a reason for the way things have to be
I need a hand to help build up some kind of hope inside of me

And I’m calling all angels
I’m calling all you angels

When children have to play inside so they don’t disappear
And private eyes solve marriage lies cause we don’t talk for years
And futbol teams are kissing Queens and losing sight of having dreams
In a world that what we want is only what we want until it’s ours

I’m calling all angels
I’m calling all you angels

[loveajax]

Deelirious, I love that song by Train.

I just thought of another one -- it's an old song by Poi Dog Pondering...for some reason, it reminds me that all the wrong and bad things in our IF path led us to our DD.

Thanksgiving

Somehow I find myself far out of line
from the ones I had drawn
Wasn't the best of paths, you could attest to that,
but I'm keeping on.
Would our paths cross if every great loss
had turned out our gain?
Would our paths cross if the pain it had cost us
was paid in vain?

There was no pot of gold, hardly a rainbow
lighting my way
But I will be true to the red, black and blues
that colored those days.

I owe my soul to each fork in the road,
each misleading sign.
'Cause even in solitude, no bitter attitude
can dissolve my sweetest find

Thanksgiving for every wrong move that made it right.