[Marie8888]

We are think of adopting a second time.
If you have adopted more than once how long did you wait between adoptions? And did you have to wait longer/shorter because you already had one child?

[proudmommyof 2]

Hi! We adopted both of our sons from Russia. There were 3 years between the adoptions (we started #2 almost exactly 2 years after Dennis came home). I think that having Dennis gave us the incentive to move forward a little faster, even if we didn't have the money, because we wanted them to be close in age.

[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by Marie8888

We are think of adopting a second time.
If you have adopted more than once how long did you wait between adoptions? And did you have to wait longer/shorter because you already had one child?

Hi,
I adopted my first daughter in 1998. By the time she was a year old, I wanted another baby. I also wanted her to have a sibling close in age. I decided to wait because I wanted to make sure Maire-Kate got to be a "baby" for a few years. By the time she entered preschool, she really wanted a brother or a sister -but she also seemed to need a lot of individual attention from me- so I held off on the adoption of another child. When she started second grade, we were both ready. I felt she was old enough to understand how a baby would need attention. She was old enough to be part of the whole process. I was worried that the age difference would keep them from being close but Maire-Kate adores Hanna and is a wonderful big sister.
For me, it ended up being perfect timing.

[agvelas]

We got are first baby at 3 days old from foster care and in 6 months we got the cll for the second baby private adoption so we did her to we have two girls 6 months apart in age and are both adopted to us they are three now.


April
bio of three kids in there 20 and two three years old adoped

[mom2GRLC]

well her was our time line...(along with fostering 46 kids in 4 1/2 years)

4-03 began fostering our dd(R) 14 months old
9-03 began fostering ds(G) 3yr
3-04 Began fostering dd(L) 5dy old
5-04 finalized ds(G) adoption at 4 years old
10-04 finalized dd(L) adoption at 6 months old
12-04 began ds(C) 8 weeks old
5-05 finalized dd(R) adoption at 3 years old
10-04 started fostering (A) who is (c's) biological brother at 5 dyas old....he will likely be returned to family
*should be finalizing ds(C) adoption in a couple months*

[jeannem]

We adopted last September - ds was 3 months old. I am currently waiting on ICPC to bring his sister home. Birthmom became pregnant again and asked if we would adopt this baby too. We agreed with no problem.

I wanted a second but thought I would wait until ds was about 2 yrs old. You know what they say about best laid plans!

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by Marie8888

We are think of adopting a second time.
If you have adopted more than once how long did you wait between adoptions? And did you have to wait longer/shorter because you already had one child?

Our children are 27 months apart. We applied for #2 when Bug was about nine months old. We were approved and waiting a year and 8 days when Roo was born. We waited into the 14th month for Bug.

With our agency, they see no difference in wait times between those waiting for the first child or second. It really depends though, on what the expecting mother is searching for as she makes her parenting decision. They have very personal reasons for the choices they make. Sometimes averages or other's experiences have nothing to do with it.

In our case, we were probably placed quicker (and our wait time was well below average for our agency) because we were willing to to consider some special needs (we were only one of four families willing to consider the situation with Roo). We were chosen partly because of Bug, in the fact the the expecting parents wanted to ensure that their child was not an only child. We fit what she wanted.

[shy_bear]

Our oldest was born in 1998 and fall of 2000 we started everything again. We went with a different agency b/c we were living in a new area. Our second was born April 2001. They are exactly 3 years apart. We have been trying to adopt through foster care since the begining of this year; with no luck thus far. I would have loved to not have waited this long, but we just never were in the position to do it. We are hoping for a sib group so that we are done; I don't know how much more of this my nerves can handle!!!!

[bajj]

We have adopted twice and our boys are 3 years and 3 weeks apart. We only waited 5 months each time, so it didn't take longer the 2nd time.

[Casey677]

First, Kat-L, we have a Hanna without the last h too!!!!

For our first adoption, we wasted 10 months with a pretty crappy agency. Our daughter, Hanna, was born in June 2005, 3 months after we signed on with our facilitator. We were planning on starting the process again in December 06 when she was 18 months old. Someone had other plans for us! We received an out of the blue phone call from the atty we used for Hanna's adoption just after her first birthday. We are currently matched and awaiting the birth of (hopefully) our second daughter in January.

We waited 13 months to be matched the first time (2 different organizations, 2 failed matches, and 1 emotional scammer during that time). We were matched when her bmom was in labor. We met her two days later when she was 15 hours old.

This time around, we didn't wait at all to be matched, but we are 4 months in to a 6.5 month match.

[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by jeannem

We adopted last September - ds was 3 months old. I am currently waiting on ICPC to bring his sister home. Birthmom became pregnant again and asked if we would adopt this baby too. We agreed with no problem.

I wanted a second but thought I would wait until ds was about 2 yrs old. You know what they say about best laid plans!

That is so exciting! It's wonderful that the children will be raised together. I'm glad his birthmother asked you to adopt her new baby.

[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by Casey677

First, Kat-L, we have a Hanna without the last h too!!!!

It's a great name, isn't it?!

Originally Posted by Casey677

We were planning on starting the process again in December 06 when she was 18 months old. Someone had other plans for us! We received an out of the blue phone call from the atty we used for Hanna's adoption just after her first birthday. We are currently matched and awaiting the birth of (hopefully) our second daughter in January..

I firmly believe that whether you give birth or adopt, you get the child that was meant for you and your family. We're just destined to be family. It looks like your second child ( and JeanneM's second baby ) had their own plans on when they would be joining their new families! It's absolutely wonderful.

[mj77]

We adopted a second time and it went MUCH faster! The first time we'd waited 11 mo from when our homestudy was certified, the second time, we waited 2 mo!

[Lovebug]

We are in the process of waiting for our second child now with the same agency. Our son's adoption was 4mos from application to placement. We are currently waiting almost 5 mos and are sooooo anxious!!!!!

--Renee

[Kimmisue]

Our son was born in 2002. It took 1 year from the time we started until the time we brought him home. We adopted him as a newborn and brought him home from the hospital. Our daughter was just born in August. It took us 3 years this time. One of those years was with an agency that we just didn't "gel" with. They've been successful for others, but we didn't hit it off with the main caseworker, so after a year we gave up with them and went back to our original agency. It took us 20 months with them. It did take longer and during the wait I thought it was going to kill me. But it was OOOOOOHHHHH SOOOOOO worth it!

Kim