[bromanchik]

Originally Posted by akcskye

Be firm with your offering. You give an inch, they'll take a mile (on any life situation for anyone).

Please avoid stereotyping. This is so insulting, and not true. There are many people that can handle being flexible. It certainly worked in my situation. Just because my son's adoptive parents gave me more than was asked for did not mean I went overboard. Flexability allows relationships to grow naturally. Think about it. How many relationships do you have where you make an agreement on how many times a year you will meet?

[ChristieS]

Hi Court5505,

My only advise is for whatever open adoption visit you agree to to make certain it allows for your relationship with the birthmom to grow and change. Things may work out great, and frequently do, but you may find your relationship with the bparent changing for more or less visits depending on how well it goes. Don't obligate yourself to any more than you are willing to do - regardless of the circumstances.

Remember that "Agreements" can be limiting or limitless and that you will be responsible for upholding your end of the mnimum requirements regardless of the birthparent's lifestyle.

Just allow enough room for the open adoption to grow and change in either direction.

Good luck!